help needed: is my wife cheating on me?

FuzzyDunlop · 12-23-11, 05:13 PM

As long as you want it to be, you're in the drivers seat here.

allabout the $$$ · 12-23-11, 05:14 PM

Originally posted by roundcake

kicking her to the curb would make me like her... so i cant do that yet, esspecially since she depends on me financially

how long is the slippery slope im staring down

seriously get out of the situation now! she depends on you financially the longer you stay married the more alimony you will have to pay. fukk her kick her out she is doing you dirty stand up for yourself and be a MAN this is the reason you are in the position you are in now

warriorfan707 · 12-23-11, 05:15 PM

Even is she hasnt fukked him yet she wants to.

Dutch · 12-23-11, 05:20 PM

Originally posted by roundcake

kicking her to the curb would make me like her...

Say what now?

PAULYPOKER · 12-23-11, 05:20 PM

Originally posted by roundcake

kicking her to the curb would make me like her... so i cant do that yet, esspecially since she depends on me financially how long is the slippery slope im staring down

If she depends on you financially you got her by the clitoris, now use this again her and watch her squirm like the scum she is ........

Rich Boy · 12-23-11, 06:21 PM

Make sure you get some hard evidence that she is cheating, for legal purposes...

I would also confront that guy and ask him face to face.

Tough break guy, hang in there.

doublej95 · 12-23-11, 06:25 PM

Originally posted by roundcake

kicking her to the curb would make me like her... so i cant do that yet, esspecially since she depends on me financially

how long is the slippery slope im staring down

roundcake think of it this way: she is fukking around on your dime since you support her

Siddhartha Arya · 12-23-11, 07:38 PM

Originally posted by roundcake

for the past few weeks my instincts have been telling me my wife is cheating... i did a bunch of research and every warning flag is there... so yesterday i decided to check phone records... i found that in the past month there has been over 8000, thats right.. 8000!!! text msg's sent to the same number starting at 7am every hour until 1 in the morning, EVERY SINGLE day...so i call the number and of course its some dude she works with.. when i asked her about it last night she claims they are "close friends" and is not cheating.... am i crazy for thinking she is a cheating bitch? especially since THIS week we did IUI treatments to try and have a baby... seems alomost criminal to me, but maybe im wrong..

any thoughts/advice much appreciated thx

Try to find out if they are working on same project in the office. Another possibility is that one of them is a junior and need a lot of advice to properly complete his/her work. There should be some sensible reason other than mere 'close friends'. If there is no such reason related to office work then you've every chance to doubt.

brettels · 12-23-11, 08:16 PM

Man up and read the txt messages! It's obvious she is, now be Sherlock on her and catch her!

tanner40 · 12-23-11, 08:28 PM

Originally posted by roundcake

kicking her to the curb would make me like her... so i cant do that yet, esspecially since she depends on me financially

how long is the slippery slope im staring down

rounder while I am not married I just got out of a 4+ year relationship with someone who depended on me financially. It was really difficult to end it because now she is really struggling on her own and part of me feels guilty for it. It took me awhile to come to terms with my decision but now that I have I feel like a brand new man.

Best of luck.

roundcake · 12-23-11, 08:33 PM

Originally posted by tanner40

rounder while I am not married I just got out of a 4+ year relationship with someone who depended on me financially. It was really difficult to end it because now she is really struggling on her own and part of me feels guilty for it. It took me awhile to come to terms with my decision but now that I have I feel like a brand new man.

Best of luck.

thank you for this..

McBa1n · 12-23-11, 10:06 PM

Best of luck, my brother. Hang in there. We all got your back.
Lots of good stuff in this thread... Keep it going.

samdapatriotsfan · 12-23-11, 10:23 PM

I have had this happen to me before, sorry bro. It gets better with time, the sooner you end it the sooner you can move on.

Good luck!

Stumpage · 12-24-11, 12:08 AM

Hard to imagine now, but eventually you'll look back at this as an absolute blessing. Contentious times ahead, but with no children involved the situation is infinitely better than it could be.

Better woman is out there waiting for you, not this f***ing immature skag who sounds like she's trying to relive the best moments of her tween years. 8,000 texts? Christ's sake; Go do the laundry or something, bitch.....

mw00 · 12-24-11, 12:17 AM

i always look at things like this..if your little bro or someone you deeply care about came to you and told you this situation. what would you say or advise them to do? you will know to go from there. the very least you can do is get ahold of the text messages. worse thing happens is it's just a friendly work relationship but it will ease all doubts you will live with the rest of your life if you stick around with her. and do it before you have kids and get yourself any deeper in the relationship.

bettilimbroke999 · 12-24-11, 02:52 AM

Time to go to her work with an AK47 and make headlines

(In case poster is mentally unstable I'd just like to add that I am kidding)

warriorfan707 · 12-24-11, 03:18 AM

You are a free man. You can do whatever you want. Life is good man. Heres to freedom.

MARVEL · 12-24-11, 04:15 AM

I understand you how you feel. There is some emotional and psychological ties that make you want to believe her and stay with her. I am not telling you to leave her but do yourself a favor and least find out what those texts say.

bettilimbroke999 · 12-24-11, 04:27 AM

Originally posted by MARVEL

I understand you how you feel. There is some emotional and psychological ties that make you want to believe her and stay with her. I am not telling you to leave her but do yourself a favor and least find out what those texts say.

She texted the guy how much she loves her husband...8000 times a month

frostno98 · 12-24-11, 06:14 AM

Every thing is not all it seems brother. I know a dude that is married that text ton of married women all the time. It just all casual, bull sh1t. If that dude wanted to bone your wife, he won't be texting her. He be hitting it already.

I had a Boss, my friend that banged one of his co-worker wife

Dude been one wanting hit that sh1t for ages, and finally got his chance when that girl's husband started to work the morning shift. She'll be working nights, and the boss will be pounding that sh1t after work, while the husband was dead a sleep at home, because he had to get up early.

roundcake · 12-24-11, 08:18 AM

now that i have stepped away for a day, i see how cheating or not, it really doesnt matter... she is a scumbag who leeds a secret life behind my back, on my dime... thank god its over, and yes it feels great to be free again.. i cant thank all the posters enough, you guys have really helped me..

it'll be damage control for a while but i am not giving in to her anymore, no matter how bad she trys to make me feel... my brother put it best... it is not even worth giving her the satisfaction of an emotion anymore... thx bro

PAULYPOKER · 12-24-11, 08:31 AM

Originally posted by roundcake

now that i have stepped away for a day, i see how cheating or not, it really doesnt matter... she is a scumbag who leeds a secret life behind my back, on my dime... thank god its over, and yes it feels great to be free again.. i cant thank all the posters enough, you guys have really helped me.. it'll be damage control for a while but i am not giving in to her anymore, no matter how bad she trys to make me feel... my brother put it best... it is not even worth giving her the satisfaction of an emotion anymore... thx bro

Great,, however it is a little harder than this I'm afraid but you are off to the best possible start mentally............

cant call it · 12-24-11, 08:32 AM

It is a new day brother. Go to the bar tonight, and any chicks you see out are almost guaranteed to want a rooster inside of them.
Do work and good luck.

BIG · 12-24-11, 08:33 AM

Roundcake sorry to hear this man its not fun to deal with. My babies momma was porking my best friend and it is worse when kids are involved. You said it best when you said i see how cheating or not, it really doesnt matter... she is a scumbag who leeds a secret life behind my back, on my dime... That is 100% true. The longer you stick around is the less time you will have to get your life back together because it will never last a lifetime. I hope things go well for you, you will get through it just stay tuff Good Luck man keep us posted

BIG · 12-24-11, 08:35 AM

Originally posted by cant call it

It is a new day brother. Go to the bar tonight, and any chicks you see out are almost guaranteed to want a rooster inside of them.
Do work and good luck.

This is correct... Start banging chics it wont cure the pain but it definitely helps it.

Ra77er · 12-24-11, 08:40 AM

This is exactly how JJ Gold got his start so I wouldn't worry about a thing Roundcake. I see big things for you in the fuwture.

PittsburghPlayer · 12-24-11, 08:53 AM

Originally posted by roundcake

now that i have stepped away for a day, i see how cheating or not, it really doesnt matter... she is a scumbag who leeds a secret life behind my back, on my dime... thank god its over, and yes it feels great to be free again.. i cant thank all the posters enough, you guys have really helped me.. it'll be damage control for a while but i am not giving in to her anymore, no matter how bad she trys to make me feel... my brother put it best... it is not even worth giving her the satisfaction of an emotion anymore... thx bro

Good for you Rounder, she broke the trust, and you read like a decent man that deserves better. Take deep breaths and be FREE.

pwherr · 12-24-11, 01:46 PM

your wife is god awful ugly....

nobody would fuk that piece of roastbeef

paranoyd androyd · 12-24-11, 08:01 PM

bury that oyster

flyingillini · 12-24-11, 09:24 PM

He is banging your hyna for sure....

HellSpawn · 12-24-11, 09:25 PM

Not worth it man, GTFO of there, and leave that bitch be, you definitely deserve better... get a girl that wants to text YOU 8000 times a month

allabout the $$$ · 12-25-11, 09:50 AM

boot her ass and get a new one

Maniac · 12-25-11, 03:36 PM

Def made the right decision splitting up with her - and as much as I would like to say go out and bang whatever you can now, that is not a good idea until the divorce comes through officially.

It is not definate that she is banging that other guy, but that many texts is highly unusual and it is likely that she wants to bang him, if she hasnt already.

Last thing you want to do is actually give her some ammo for the divorce if you go out and do bsleep with someone else before it is over properly.

Best of luck

ShawNee922 · 12-26-11, 12:42 AM

8000 text in one month???

Sounds like she is cheating on him with you ....

Br0nxer · 12-26-11, 01:07 AM

post a fukkin pic guy

id like to see what this whore looks like