guys i need help here my daughter has accused

G's pks · 10-13-10, 07:54 PM

really not the place to be discussing this...call JJ!

ToNyyy · 10-13-10, 07:55 PM

Originally posted by Masu485

he's been the guy's friend for 30 years, he's only known his daughter for 13.

family isn't more special than anyone else. just because they happen to be related to u doesn't mean they deserve ur trust more than anyone else. thinking rationally is the way to go.

Are you serious with that statement? You found retarded. Who gives a shit how long he knows them for. It's all about family. He raised his daughter to speak the truth not to lie. Family over friends. I don't give a shit if I known my best friend for life, family over friends NO MATTER WHAT.

whatsgood5 · 10-13-10, 07:55 PM

I don't envy your situation at all...

chilidog · 10-13-10, 07:56 PM

Originally posted by Masu485

he's been the guy's friend for 30 years, he's only known his daughter for 13.

family isn't more special than anyone else. just because they happen to be related to u doesn't mean they deserve ur trust more than anyone else. thinking rationally is the way to go.

I highly disagree with this one.

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 07:56 PM

Originally posted by Masu485

he's been the guy's friend for 30 years, he's only known his daughter for 13.

family isn't more special than anyone else. just because they happen to be related to u doesn't mean they deserve ur trust more than anyone else. thinking rationally is the way to go.

Shelton · 10-13-10, 07:56 PM

not sure dude sounds crazy

Richkas · 10-13-10, 07:57 PM

Originally posted by tatommack

thats just dumb i have 2 young kids that need their father im looking for advise on how to talk to my daughter on getting the truth. not what justice im going to bring down

well then you shouldnt come on a board with a bunch of gambling, alcoholic degenerates asking the question. You think people on here are good people. Get real.

terpkeg · 10-13-10, 07:57 PM

If this is serious, then your daughter is most likely going to have prolonged issues that are going to negatively effect her life for many years. Exacting personal revenge on your friend is not a healthy option for anyone.

You should have never confronted your friend to begin with, now he may be expecting the police to come knocking. It is better to catch him off guard. Amazingly, many predators will fold like a tent when questioned and admit to their wrongdoing or try to rationalize it.

Do not say anything to your friend again.

EmmaLee · 10-13-10, 07:57 PM

1. Make sure she feels safe when you talk to her
2. Do not pressure her
3. Do not pressure her for details, she will just freeze then
4. Maybe she is more comfortable talking with her mom or with both of you together
5. Tell her you love her no matter what happened
6. Tell her she did not do anything wrong no matter what he did
7. Tell her you can help her feel better about herself by talking and offer her to see a psychologist if she would like to tell a neutral party
8. Again, emphasize she did nothing wrong, no matter what she is thinking
9. If she wants to stop talking then say that is ok and you can continue when she is ready. She needs to be ready for that conversation, not you.
10. When she talks, stay calm no matter what kind of emotions you might be feeling. stay calm and quiet and don't disrupt her. Don't make any comments or ask follow-up questions first.
11. Tell her how much you and her mom love her. Tell her that again and again.

If she is speaking the truth, she will be changed forever. She is brave then for stepping out and telling the truth. If she made it up then there is some other issue going on (maybe seeking of attention...happened to my friend...her daughter said her grandfather touched her...my friend went to a psychologist and teachers and and and...it was a horrible time for her until she found out the truth which was that her daughter was not hurt).

Richkas · 10-13-10, 07:58 PM

I hope he does it again dicksucker. Dont phuck with me. Ive been ther done that.

d2bets · 10-13-10, 07:59 PM

Do you have a specific reason to believe that your 13 year old might lie about being sexually harrassed by this person?

nobs · 10-13-10, 07:59 PM

Originally posted by tatommack

my friend of 30 years of sexual harrasing her. how do i go about finding out the truth outa her. i havent talked to her yet shes at church my wife just told me. she is 13 now told my wife it happend when she was 8. now a friend of hers just put an uncle in jail for this how do i get the truth outa her? this is so bad in many ways you just dont accuse someone of this. am at a total loss. please help me with what i should say.

sexually harrasing her ? What is exactly meant by Harrasing ?

SportsMushroom · 10-13-10, 07:59 PM

you are asking about advice on a gambling forum? you are a deuchebag

what truth do you want from her?

she said he did it, if you still want the truth from her it means you dont believe her

take her to a good psychologist, he probably will be able to tell if she has been victimized or not

will2survive · 10-13-10, 08:00 PM

Why would OP post this thread on a gambling forum

----go to a more appropriate forum--help group to discuss this.Use your brain man!

Jonah · 10-13-10, 08:01 PM

Originally posted by ToNyyy

Are you serious with that statement? You found retarded. Who gives a shit how long he knows them for. It's all about family. He raised his daughter to speak the truth not to lie. Family over friends. I don't give a shit if I known my best friend for life, family over friends NO MATTER WHAT.

We don't know this for a fact. I trust this guy, but...

I go with the more rationale people here. Sit her down, go to authorities, maybe talk to friend or brother in-law get a read on them, etc...

ToNyyy · 10-13-10, 08:01 PM

Originally posted by Jonah

We don't this for fact. I trust this guy, but...

I go with the more rationale people here. Sit her down, go to authorities, maybe talk to friend or brother in-law get a read on them, etc...

Well obviously isn't going to raise her to lie.

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:02 PM

Originally posted by terpkeg

If this is serious, then your daughter is most likely going to have prolonged issues that are going to negatively effect her life for many years. Exacting personal revenge on your friend is not a healthy option for anyone.

You should have never confronted your friend to begin with, now he may be expecting the police to come knocking. It is better to catch him off guard. Amazingly, many predators will fold like a tent when questioned and admit to their wrongdoing or try to rationalize it.

Do not say anything to your friend again.

something like that needs to be dealt with...with street justice

the cops wont do anything...but send him through the justice system where he can get a good lawyer along with doing NO jail time

so what he has to register as a sex offender...he'll still be on the streets living life like nothing ever happened

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:02 PM

Originally posted by ToNyyy

Well obviously isn't going to raise her to lie.

kids lie..thats a fact

did you ever lie when you were young?

point given

iifold · 10-13-10, 08:03 PM

Go to friend..

Tell him to take Lie Detector Test before authorities get involved...

If he says no problem, daughter made it up..

If he declines, right cross..

Jonah · 10-13-10, 08:03 PM

Originally posted by Richkas

I hope he does it again dicksucker. Dont phuck with me. Ive been ther done that.

Kav · 10-13-10, 08:03 PM

sad situation, cant believe the things some people do to minors...

nobs · 10-13-10, 08:04 PM

Does she have a history of lying ? Of making up BS stories looking for attention ? If not you have to believe her 100%, even if she does she still might be telling the truth.

Either way, you have to call the police and let them do the investigating.

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:04 PM

Originally posted by iifold

Go to friend..

Tell him to take Lie Detector Test before authorities get involved...

If he says no problem, daughter made it up..

If he declines, right cross..

could be a good idea...thats why I said choke him and look into his eyes when you're asking him if he did it

people can beat lie detectors...BUT seeing his reaction to that proposition could be all you need to know

ToNyyy · 10-13-10, 08:04 PM

Regardless of what you decide to do, it's a tough situation man. But you have to do it for the sake of your family.

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:05 PM

Originally posted by Kav

sad situation, cant believe the things some people do to minors...

alot of sick people walking the streets....people that have killed...people that have molested

dont trust anyone

Richkas · 10-13-10, 08:06 PM

Originally posted by SportsMushroom

you are asking about advice on a gambling forum? you are a deuchebag

what truth do you want from her?

she said he did it, if you want the truth from her it means you dont believe her

take her to a good psychologist, he probably will be able to tell if she has been victimized or not

d2bets · 10-13-10, 08:07 PM

Originally posted by Grandmaster B

kids lie..thats a fact

did you ever lie when you were young?

point given

Kids lie, but very rarely about that kind of thing. Fact.

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:09 PM

Originally posted by d2bets

Kids lie, but very rarely about that kind of thing. Fact.

you sure about that?

some kids are so out of whack in the head they'll lie about anything for attention

mind you yes lying about something like this would be extreme...but not impossible by any means

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:11 PM

think about it....the kid was 8 when it happened

that means she was in the 2nd or 3rd grade?

any NORMAL kid that young would have came home and started acting wierd...begging for someone to listen

if something like that did indeed happen

Richkas · 10-13-10, 08:12 PM

Originally posted by Jonah

Are you confused. Anybody who has ever phucked with me in real life I have taken care of. An internet board is one thing. Just because your a puss dont try to make me out as a child molester. I like women not kids. I'm not like your wife who likes boys.

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:13 PM

Originally posted by Richkas

Are you confused. Anybody who has ever phucked with me in real life I have taken care of. An internet board is one thing. Just because your a puss dont try to make me out as a child molester. I like women not kids. I'm not like your wife who likes boys.

Richkas · 10-13-10, 08:13 PM

The bitch is lying because she wants to be like her friend.

Richkas · 10-13-10, 08:14 PM

And before you reply phuck you

Grandmaster B · 10-13-10, 08:14 PM

Originally posted by Richkas

The bitch is lying because she wants to be like her friend.

kids are smarter than their parents think they are

they are way ahead of their time in 2010

mtneer1212 · 10-13-10, 08:17 PM

Tough age for girls....... You need specifics of where/when/what...... then see if the story adds up.