Need your help boys: Do I tell her I cheated?

[BAUS]

Tell her, and be prepared to say goodbye, cause you will never hear the end of it, even if she forgives you.

later

That is exactly what I am worried about. Never hearing the end of it. I know women well enough to know this.

BAUS

[swede96]

So you're best off telling the truth. Kudos to you for caring enough to not want to risk her health. Now take the last step, tell the truth and deal with the aftermath.

Oh, and STD tests take just as long in America.

[cobra_king]

Claim a urinary tract infection to get out of the sex for a week, and get tested. You can't bang her and give her something. It's just not fair to her. She'll buy the infection story and actually want no part of your willie till it "clears" up.

[ronald]

I believe there is a third option here. Baus could break it off with the girl for "other reasons." This would accomplish the goal of not potentially spreading disease to her. It would also allow him to get out of the relationship without her thinking he's total scum. Then, down the road after he has been tested, he could potentially get back with the girl. I believe this is the sharp play.

[BAUS]

Claim a urinary tract infection to get out of the sex for a week, and get tested. You can't bang her and give her something. It's just not fair to her. She'll buy the infection story and actually want no part of your willie till it "clears" up.

Sharp post!

Maybe I should take some sort of food I am allergic to and rub it all over my cock and it will get red blotches on it and she won't want to touch it.

BAUS

[swede96]

I believe there is a third option here. Baus could break it off with the girl for "other reasons." This would accomplish the goal of not potentially spreading disease to her. It would also allow him to get out of the relationship without her thinking he's total scum. Then, down the road after he has been tested, he could potentially get back with the girl. I believe this is the sharp play.

I believe it is manipulative. If he's going to break up with her, at least let the girl think you're an asshole so she can get over you instead of thinking you're a great guy she let get away.

Also Buas, if you tell her, you may find that she's understanding and is willing to work on things...you may see a different side of her that could put her over the edge into potential for a serious relationship....IF that's what you want.

[swede96]

Sharp post!

Maybe I should take some sort of food I am allergic to and rub it all over my cock and it will get red blotches on it and she won't want to touch it.

BAUS

Yes, do that! Because we all know UTIs cause red sores!

[The Seer]

I believe there is a third option here. Baus could break it off with the girl for "other reasons." This would accomplish the goal of not potentially spreading disease to her. It would also allow him to get out of the relationship without her thinking he's total scum. Then, down the road after he has been tested, he could potentially get back with the girl. I believe this is the sharp play.

I suggested this earlier and got blasted so get ready.

[pavyracer]

Tell her you had sex with a hooker and the condom broke so you can't have sex till you get tested. If she knows it was paid sex she won't think you cheated. Make up a story that the casino threw in the hooker at you because you were beating them bad in blackjack.

[wtt0315]

Same thing happen to me bro but she was from panama and a real ho. i went and got checked out when i got home and the funny thing is the doctor is both mine and my wifes and she was like do you think she is cheating on you? and i was like uhhh no. and she was you should no better. thank god for patient/doctor cofendenality. dont tell her go get checked out. if you have something serious then yeah tell her.

[wtt0315]

oh and to my wife if you are reading this, its not me its another jimmy buffett fan not me saying this.

[Lucas]

Baus, I have no idea why, but i always liked your writings here; those your posts are first, that do not make me happy.

First of all, it is nonsense to ask on forums what to do, because you apparently know what is right, so just collect your power, look at the whole situation you described here and do not make fool from yourself in firt place. In this world there is no place for it.

You like the girl and you do not want to hurt her only with some quite unprobable sexual disease, IMO it is only secondary problem. Your first interest might be this:

it's at the point where she feels like this is a committed relationship

you wrote this so your point of view is different than her, and this is why you have problems now. You might talk about this with her and there is almost certainity now that she will kick your ass. But are you such scaremonger, that for one pussy you are rather clown playing some stupid inconsistent role in the realtionship game? There is only one truth and you know it best. It is all about your mental health, not about some disease or her trust, which is lost and was lost even before the banging. Why lose time with someone who has a lack of relationship? If i bang /rarely/ some girl and i see first indication of relationship, i talk to her about it and when it continues /well usually it is true/, I quit... before some sad things happen.

Of course, you can not tell anything and **** her few times before she tells you fvck off, and then again and again with another girl. And then you die. Maybe it is human life. Quite pitiful. But that is only my opinion.

GL with solving it.

[BadNina]

It was your choice to have unprotected sex with a stranger. Your girlfriend should have that same choice...to decide for herself if she wants to be with someone who would do that. Especially seeing as how you have no idea who all has been where you decided to dip your wick.

If you don't see this relationship going anywhere, do her a favor and break it off now. Stop being a selfish ass and let her find someone who will appreciate her. Then you can go bang whoever you want. If you care the least little bit for this woman, try and do this one thing right by her.

[ronald]

I would actually like to hear what JJ Gold has to say about this.

[The HG]

My advice as far as the lying is concerned is, just be yourself. If you think of yourself as a liar, if telling the truth would feel unnatural to you, definitely lie. If you think of yourself as an honest person, at least when it comes to matters like this, and lying would feel unnatural, or "not you", definitely tell the truth.

In life, people inclined to be good should be good, and accepts the benefits and consequences of it, and people inclined to be bad should be bad, and accept the benefits and consequences of it.

[jjgold]

Let me see if I can make a video about this

[Lucas]

there are no benefits of being selfdestructive and making thing inconsistent is selfdestructive

a) if one wants to bang, lets do it
b) if one wants a girl, that does not like polygamy then you can not do a)
c) if you do not want relationship, then say it
etc.
simple as that; problem is that from some reason, people are greedy and want everything, but it is not possible

[Wrigley]

No dont tell her , who knows what she was doing when you were in Vegas

[Dark Horse]

So I've been seeing this nice girl for the last 10-12 weeks, and it's at the point where she feels like this is a committed relationship. I like her, we get along fine, but I can't see this developing into marriage. She seems to be more into me than I am into her. She trusts me enough that we have unprotected sex.

So I was in Vegas for the last few days and I banged this pretty decent looking broad I picked up at the Palms while playing BJ. Columbian/Indian mix. So I was nailing her with a condom, but I hate condoms so I took it off and nailed her some more WITHOUT condom.

I will be seeing my girl tomorrow and she will surely want to have sex. She is a nice girl, and trusts me 100%, and I don't want to potentially pass on anything I may have contracted from this Vegas girl. What do I do?

Tell her nothing, and have sex with her like nothing happened?

Or, tell her the truth and put the ball in her court?

Help me out on this one boys.

BAUS

In this day and age? My civilized opinion?

You are a total asshole to even consider passing on a disease to a girl that fully trusts you.

Taking it a step further, if you knew you had AIDS and would knowingly pass it on, you should be shot.

[Lucas]

Let me see if I can make a video about this

[ShamsWoof10]

Taking it a step further, if you knew you had AIDS and would knowingly pass it on, you should be shot.

I thought we discussed this already...

[Dark Horse]

What was it again? It doesn't exist?

Yet people are dying left, right, and center.

Pay a visit to Africa.

[Sportsgirl]

In this day and age? My civilized opinion?

You are a total asshole to even consider passing on a disease to a girl that fully trusts you.

Taking it a step further, if you knew you had AIDS and would knowingly pass it on, you should be shot.

[Dark Horse]

In any case. Any guy who knowingly passes on AIDS can have a civilized choice:

1) death by firing squad;
2) having his d*ck cut off;

[katstale]

I believe there is a third option here. Baus could break it off with the girl for "other reasons." This would accomplish the goal of not potentially spreading disease to her. It would also allow him to get out of the relationship without her thinking he's total scum. Then, down the road after he has been tested, he could potentially get back with the girl. I believe this is the sharp play.

AND, he can go with the "it's not you, it's me" play.

[ShamsWoof10]

What was it again? It doesn't exist?

Yet people are dying left, right, and center.

Pay a visit to Africa.

I thought it was you who posted "you should watch the documentary before making a conclusion about the existance of AIDS.."

The video was "HIV fact or fraud."....

Is there a possibility that they could be dieing from something else...? GW's wife made a comment about it a few months ago... Odd how it matches the same claim in that film...

I actually met a guy that actually has so called AIDS... He was my neighbor for about four months.. He knocked on my door and chatted with me knowing I smoke... He asked for some and we sat down and chatted... I'm nosey!!! He told me has AIDS and had it for 20 years...

My reply: "Dude you don't have no god damn AIDS... Let me guess you like guys and smoke crack/cocaine.... Sure enough 2 for f*ckin' 2... Man I could smell that sh*t when he had his windown open and it's amazing he's not dead yet... That sh*t will kill you on it's own if you do it long enough...

In any case. Any guy who knowingly passes on AIDS can have a civilized choice:

1) death by firing squad;
2) having his d*ck cut off;

Sure glad you're not a judge!...or a doctor...

[Lucas]

you people are really pathetic, only excuses and excuses

(only reason why i post this is, that i will happily reach 1K post milestone inside this thread to get free air ticket to vegas )

[Dark Horse]

I thought it was you who posted "you should watch the documentary before making a conclusion about the existance of AIDS.."

No, I didn't.
As I said, millions have died and are dying. What would be the point of examining if the disease exists or not?

Sure glad you're not a judge!...or a doctor...

You should be. Because if I were king a virgin could cross the land with a pot of gold on her head, and nobody would touch her.

[ShamsWoof10]

What was it again? It doesn't exist?

Yet people are dying left, right, and center.

Pay a visit to Africa.

I watched the video. I have no idea what AIDS is, exactly. There seems evidence that HIV does not and can not cause AIDS. I do understand that the (western) medical world is a huge industry, where selling drugs could easily and often does get precedence over finding cures. Am I going to delve deeper into the subject? No. This is not my battle.

Do you want to answer your own question...?

My bad it was "Chao" that made that remark!

[ShamsWoof10]

You should be. Because if I were king a virgin could cross the land with a pot of gold on her head, and nobody would touch her.

Wow now that's extra cheese!!! I am trying not to puke!

[Dark Horse]

Really? Now I feel sorry for you. Every single one of my friends would meet that criterium. (not the king thing, but the inner sense of dharma)

[ShamsWoof10]

Really? Now I feel sorry for you. Every single one of my friends would meet that criterium. (not the king thing, but the inner sense of dharma)

Good for you!

With a pot of gold on her head... oh god! I know what the D stands for...

[Dark Horse]

It was a metaphor.

(can always look it up).

[BadNina]

AND, he can go with the "it's not you, it's me" play.

Although you probably already know this, when you say that to a female, all she hears is "It is you."

[BadNina]

In any case. Any guy who knowingly passes on AIDS can have a civilized choice:

1) death by firing squad;
2) having his d*ck cut off;