serious anxiety issues and perhaps bi-polar disorder

[OmgUrMom]

As some of you may already know, I work at a retail store and in the last year or so I have been suffering from some type of anxiety disorder, when I see someone I know but they have not spotted me, I walk in the opposite direction, I do not like to talk to people, even if I like this person, still do not want to talk to them. I am just to nervous and do not feel its worth the effort.

I start to sweat the last 10 minutes of my drive to work just from getting nervous about being around all those people for the next 9 hours. This shit I'm experiencing can't be normal.

I can't talk to girls or really anyone for that matter, I have absolutely no confidence and feel like everything I'm going to say will be stupid as fukk.

I have violent mood swings, one day I will be pretty happy and perhaps acting fairly normal (at least looking normal) but then the next day I will be massively depressed and it will be harder than normal to go to work/get out of bed.

I know I should go to the doctor but I can't really afford it (no insurance) also I'm scared to tell any person face-to-face about my problems.

Tks for listening...

[OmgUrMom]

I'm just sitting here in my boxers eating some peanut butter bread (jiffy extra crunchy of course) waiting for you gamblers to impart some pearl of wisdom upon me to break me out this funk. Comon BOYS!

[Boner_18]

Sounds like anxiety to me. My sister is on zoloft and it really makes her life 10x easier. We are all going to be forced to get health insurance soon under the Obama plan, bite the bullet and get some now. Do whatever you have to do to talk to a professional, if it means cutting your cable, eating out less, or gambling less. You cannot put a premium on your health, especially your mental health.

[Boner_18]

And it is totally normal BTW. My entire family suffers from some degree of anxiety. I get anxious ordering food on the phone or in a crowded deli. Everyone feels anxious to some degree, just that some let it control their day to day lives.

[Chi_archie]

how old are you? how long has this behavior been going on?


do you feel the anxiety is related to a perceived inadequacy? are you worried that people will criticize you or find fault in what you do or say?

[BatemanPatrickl]

Medicate yourself. Talk to a psychiatrist and tell him/her a sad story. Most doctors will give you what you want. I can relate to high anxiety.

[OmgUrMom]

tks for the encouragement boner, she is completely satisfied with zoloft? Like sometimes you hear people on meds say they feel like a zombie now ect...... never been on anything in my life so i have no clue.

[KC]

Klonopin or Xanax asap
seriously go to the library or book store there are many good books that may help

[OmgUrMom]

how old are you? how long has this behavior been going on?


do you feel the anxiety is related to a perceived inadequacy? are you worried that people will criticize you or find fault in what you do or say?

it's probably been going on a year or two now, although I think it has been getting worse which is why I'm more worried about it now than I was in the past. Hard to say exactly when it started of course.

Do i feel anxiety is related to a perceived inadequacy? Yea I guess it would probably be my social skill inadequacy that I'm worried about, although I think it is more than just perceived. (it actually exists). I suppose I am worried that people will criticize me or find faults with me.

[Chi_archie]

I'm not a big fan of Diagnostics really.....

but sounds like some classic case.... Avoidant personality disorder.....

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000940.htm

[milwaukee mike]

please please please do not take any of the poison they claim is "medicine".
just because you drug yourself to be numb to the anxiety that doesn't solve the root of the problem, which is your self-consciousness.

if you are a teenager or early twenties THIS IS TOTALLY NORMAL. almost every young person feels the same kind of stuff, maybe not to the extreme but believe me they are all feeling it.

why do you care what people think so much? for the most part people, especially under 25, are self-absorbed spoiled assholes. so why do you care what a bunch of assholes think of you?

good luck buddy and again PLEASE DON'T TAKE DRUGS. prescription drugs are usually much worse for your short-term and long-term health than anyone will tell you.

[OmgUrMom]

I'm not a big fan of Diagnostics really.....

but sounds like some classic case.... Avoidant personality disorder.....



http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/e...cle/000940.htm

wow tk you very good diagnosis, all the points seem to be dead-on.

• Be easily hurt by criticism or disapproval
• Hold back too much in intimate relationships
• Be reluctant to become involved with people
• Avoid activities or occupations that involve contact with others
• Be shy in social situations out of fear of doing something wrong
• Exaggerate potential difficulties
• Hold the view they are socially inept, inferior,or unappealing to other people

Is it normal that I can remember negative things that were said about me 5 or even 10 years ago? I mean not huge things either, but even small "shots" that people have taken against me bother me immensely, I do not forget/forgive if I believe someone has slighted me.

[shari91]

Each person reacts to a pharmaceutical differently, so what may work for Boner's sister may not work for you although your Dr may find one in the same family of drugs that will work perfectly in your situation.

I know more about this shit than I care to - partly because my mother's a psychiatrist and the other part because of what I've seen friends go through - but that feeling of wanting to avoid people you know is a classic symptom of both depression and/or an anxiety disorder. This stuff doesn't always last however, or may come and go at weird ass intervals, so you may not always notice the 'swings'.

I realise this'll sound wonky but the best way to get the drugs that you may need is to go to a Dr. This is their job, and not only that, they have SAMPLES!!!!! so you probably won't be paying extremely high prescription drug prices when you're first trying to figure out which inhibitor is right for you.

Best of luck Omg - this shit sucks but it will go away. It's just that you have to treat the underlying cause of the anxiety/panic attacks in the first place. Hard, long, brutally honest process, but so worth it.

[BatemanPatrickl]

please please please do not take any of the poison they claim is "medicine".
just because you drug yourself to be numb to the anxiety that doesn't solve the root of the problem, which is your self-consciousness.

if you are a teenager or early twenties THIS IS TOTALLY NORMAL. almost every young person feels the same kind of stuff, maybe not to the extreme but believe me they are all feeling it.

why do you care what people think so much? for the most part people, especially under 25, are self-absorbed spoiled assholes. so why do you care what a bunch of assholes think of you?

good luck buddy and again PLEASE DON'T TAKE DRUGS. prescription drugs are usually much worse for your short-term and long-term health than anyone will tell you.

Bad advice coming from someone that is not a doctor. Tell me where did you go to Medical School at Mike? Did Tom Cruise tell you to bash medication?

Nice way to generalize age groups to Mike

[OmgUrMom]

please please please do not take any of the poison they claim is "medicine".
just because you drug yourself to be numb to the anxiety that doesn't solve the root of the problem, which is your self-consciousness.

if you are a teenager or early twenties THIS IS TOTALLY NORMAL. almost every young person feels the same kind of stuff, maybe not to the extreme but believe me they are all feeling it.

why do you care what people think so much? for the most part people, especially under 25, are self-absorbed spoiled assholes. so why do you care what a bunch of assholes think of you?

good luck buddy and again PLEASE DON'T TAKE DRUGS. prescription drugs are usually much worse for your short-term and long-term health than anyone will tell you.

I don't understand necessarily what you mean by the root of my problem is my self-consciousness...I know what self-consciousness is, but are you saying this is an actual problem that can be fixed or are you saying that it's not a problem and should be left alone?

The problem is, that it is hard to do everyday things (shopping, work ect.) and to have normal, steady relationships.

[shari91]

OMg, I'm 35 and I still remember something someone said to me in kindergarten, so I think (for my sake) i's perfectly normal.

[Chi_archie]

like I said, i'm not big into diagnosis.....so don't label yourself as this.....


and I agree with what Mike said, you don't need to necesarily medicate.....


is it normal to hold onto those things? well most people might not do it to the degree that you do, but its still HUMAN........ we all get hurt, some of us blow it off, others hold onto it for awhile, and forget it, and some people never forget shit....

first and foremost I would recommend that you try to deepen the strong and "safe" relationships you DO have.... and ask those people after confiding in them, to help you branch out, and lead you into social situations where you feel nervous..... having a good "wing man" can go a long way. small steps of building confidence in social situations and broadening your social stratosphere, will help you out alot

[milwaukee mike]

shari how can you say that he has to "treat the underlying cause" but then you recommend taking samples of drugs?
imho treating the underlying cause involves being real with himself rather than trying to drug himself into a half coma.

the best and most honest part of your post is that it is drs JOB to prescribe drugs. your mother is almost certainly being paid by the pharmaceutical companies, either directly or indirectly, to prescribe drugs. where i come from that is a pusher and a drug dealer not a doctor.

[OmgUrMom]

tks for the input shari, and I guess it's not necessarily just that I remember it, but I hold it against that person as well, even though I know it's not really necessarily logical to do so......(considering they were probably just in a bad mood or whatever and it happened many years ago)

[urge2kill]

It's hard to get decent psych care without insurance. Meds may help or they may not. I have similar problems and have been on and off meds for years with little success. Therapy is probably were you'll benefit the most. Look into CBT.

[milwaukee mike]

bateman you say it's bad advice for a non-doctor to tell someone NOT to take drugs, yet it's good advice for you as a non-doctor (i'm assuming) to tell someone TO take drugs?

crazy sick logic

[desunoto]

Is it normal that I can remember negative things that were said about me 5 or even 10 years ago? I mean not huge things either, but even small "shots" that people have taken against me bother me immensely, I do not forget/forgive if I believe someone has slighted me.

If you're planning to live alone with no social life, yes its normal. Anti-social leads to depression then suicide or homicide.
Change your lifestlye and attitude. Live like its your last day. Im not saying go rob a bank, quit your job, kill yourself, go all in on the cubs to win the world series, or hurt someone. Live life to the fullest, go take a vacation, ask a girl out (you have nothing to lose everything to gain).

[PAULYPOKER]

As some of you may already know, I work at a retail store and in the last year or so I have been suffering from some type of anxiety disorder, when I see someone I know but they have not spotted me, I walk in the opposite direction, I do not like to talk to people, even if I like this person, still do not want to talk to them. I am just to nervous and do not feel its worth the effort. I start to sweat the last 10 minutes of my drive to work just from getting nervous about being around all those people for the next 9 hours. This shit I'm experiencing can't be normal. I can't talk to girls or really anyone for that matter, I have absolutely no confidence and feel like everything I'm going to say will be stupid as fukk. I have violent mood swings, one day I will be pretty happy and perhaps acting fairly normal (at least looking normal) but then the next day I will be massively depressed and it will be harder than normal to go to work/get out of bed. I know I should go to the doctor but I can't really afford it (no insurance) also I'm scared to tell any person face-to-face about my problems. Tks for listening...

Best thing to do OMG is by a book on mental disorders and diagnose yourself this will be by far your best solution for the simple fact you will be able to identify to all the symptoms you have quickly and accurately and will be light years ahead on your recovery or coping..... Truth is OMG 97% of Dr.'s do not have the time or you have the $ to pay for all the visits before they have the right diagnoses of your condition so they will diagnose you inaccurately and then you will be wondering why you still have problems and get frustrated and just give up hope on your Illness and just live with it..... I hope this was helpful to you

Get well

[BatemanPatrickl]

shari how can you say that he has to "treat the underlying cause" but then you recommend taking samples of drugs?
imho treating the underlying cause involves being real with himself rather than trying to drug himself into a half coma.

the best and most honest part of your post is that it is drs JOB to prescribe drugs. your mother is almost certainly being paid by the pharmaceutical companies, either directly or indirectly, to prescribe drugs. where i come from that is a pusher and a drug dealer not a doctor.

You are ridiculous. Calling doctors drug dealers?

[BatemanPatrickl]

bateman you say it's bad advice for a non-doctor to tell someone NOT to take drugs, yet it's good advice for you as a non-doctor (i'm assuming) to tell someone TO take drugs? crazy sick logic

I am telling him to see a professional and follow his/her advice. Medication has helped a lot of people so like I said Tom Cruise you may want to ease up on bashing doctors who save lives.

[milwaukee mike]

maybe now you are telling him to see a professional and follow his/her advice - nothing wrong with this advice at all other than it will be very expensive and still won't solve everything imho.

but your original post was "medicate yourself", tell the psychiatrist a sad story, and get some drugs.

2 completely different things.

if certain psychiatrists (not all) are going to be paid by pharmaceutical companies to distribute their drugs over the competition or a non-drug approach, then they deserve to be called drug dealers.

[milwaukee mike]

not sure why we can't have a rational discussion without you continuing to bring up tom cruise? (sigh)

[Boner_18]

I think the overwhelming majority of doctors still strive to do what is best for their patient despite some of the horror stories and perverse incentives that clearly exist out there.

[milwaukee mike]

that is true boner but it's also somewhat naive. doctors, like everyone else, tend to look out for themself and their wallet first.

[stealthyburrito]

don't self-diagnose, see an expert if you want to treat the problem. even if they give you anti-depressants, they'll still recommend therapy and/or therapeutic treatments along with the meds.

Meds will you help function (like feel normal at work), but there is still an underlying mental issue that probably needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist or whatever.

[BatemanPatrickl]

not sure why we can't have a rational discussion without you continuing to bring up tom cruise? (sigh)

Rational? You labeled doctors as drug dealers and said everyone under 25 was spoiled and self-absorbed.

The only thing not rational here is why SBR would allow a nutjob like yourself to attend the bash without wearing restraints.

[milwaukee mike]

again getting personal? calling someone a nutjob certainly isn't going to persuade them to agree with you.
i was self-absorbed and spoiled under 25 as was just about everyone i knew. i'm still that way but some have grown up...

you can't call a psychiatrist like this a drug dealer?

http://www.naturalnews.com/027765_psychiatrists_Seroquel.html

[poker_dummy101]

certain mental disorders are now being labeled biological and maybe not so much an underlying root cause but just chemicals in your brain reacting in a not so normal way. i would recommend getting on medication but if someone has a problem with medicine then obv don't. whatever you prefer.

[milwaukee mike]

and i remember SBR sending me free goodies when i first had a disagreement with you because they were glad someone stood up to you and your bullying.

[BatemanPatrickl]

Nice source Mike.I was shocked you didn't link the Huffington Post.

Going to end this. Really looking forward to seeing what you look like in person.