What's the rule for gift giving at weddings?

[BuddyBear]

Last year, I was invited to a wedding of a close friend but couldn't make it. I haven't seen him since. I am going to see him soon. Am I suppose to give a wedding gift even though I was not there? He will be invited to my wedding (if I ever get married) if that makes a difference. Actually, I have 2 of these situations now that I think about it.

Thanks.

[Chi_archie]

yeah I think the common rule of thumb is that if you care about them and would have gone if you could..... then you still get them a gift.

it all seems really silly to me. But people get really offended by this shit, so if he is a friend that you want to keep as a friend... errr on the side of buying a nice gift.

[a4u2fear]

If it's in a barn, you give $2, if it's a decent place for a wedding and you like the person, I think $35 or $50 a plate is usually standard.

[Fieldysnuts44]

I usually throw 50 bucks in an envelope and then try to get my money back on food and drinks.I hate fukking weddings,waste of a totally good Saturday.Even worse if its your wedding or during the Ohio State game.

[nyplayer33]

tough economic times..try to avoid going unless famioly and close friend..my friend goes to any social event and is poor..not being a douche here..keeping it real

[nyplayer33]

ny the plate is around 75 or so

[nyplayer33]

why is it someone decides to have wedding..then i have to pay for it..seems odd..if u were invited cause they wanted ur company and not money..that would be super special

[Joe Dogs]

$50.00 is low ball these days,with the price of weddings.

I usually go a $100.00......Some of the weddings I have been to lately have been at some real fancy places.

[Joe Dogs]

I still don't get why people spend outrageous amounts of money for weddings these days.

Hell,rent some little hall someplace,get a DJ,put a couple of kegs on tap and party.

Take all the money saved and throw it down on a house.

[BetterBizness]

In the end... If you don't want to give a gift, or a reasonable chunk of money for a couples startup... don't go... Better then giving shit and having the people think you're a rooster... One of my old bosses took him, his wife and 2 kids and give us a food mill... I wanted to celebrate the event with him, yes, but get a fking clue...

Edit... Food Mill was about $60.. One plate was about $70 and it wasn't even that fancy...