Imma seriously ask you guys this! Personal Life!

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  • QuangX
    SBR MVP
    • 02-03-11
    • 2756

    #1
    Imma seriously ask you guys this! Personal Life!
    Okay, I have two situation. I know everything posted here is kept forever and on the internet forever, So i ll keep it nice.

    I am having two problems right now. All having to deal with close human being friend, and family member of mine.

    First is my family member, this guy have screwed me over so many times. It like he does it on purpose, I treat him like a younger brother, In the past i tried forgiving him, And recently(2month04month) he tried to steal shiet at my house( it small things like ipod charger, snapbacks)(caught him but still). It like i cannot trust this foo. So recently i found out he is a full blown druggy n stuff.(just Prop 415, and possibly E). Like a Daily user, Should I even bother to attempt to help him out. He has gotten me the reputation of getting him there, but it not really me, it him. A part of me really want to help him, but history has that i always get screwed.

    Second Person, Best friend Since childhood, First time i cut ties with him because he choose our 12 year friendship, just to go on with this chick that he didint even get anything from. (the shit that pissed me off, she wasnt even all that) I just asked him to keep a watch for me because i Had surgery for two days. Second time, I asked him for a favor, and he denied it and said he dont owe me nothing, I helped this guy out so much, throught his years, It not even funny, I was shocked, so i said i gotta cut out ties again.

    I dont wanna be a dick, But i cant stand people who dont acknoledge your help ties to them.
    So what should I DO? Or is the problem with me?

    I know i wont get serious answer, but ill listen to some.
  • battle4life
    SBR MVP
    • 05-28-11
    • 1907

    #2
    Real shit get him an 8ball and tell him enjoy it and never talk to me again.u gonna hang with drugys and ect.friend or not get rid of him
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    • Optional
      Administrator
      • 06-10-10
      • 61579

      #3
      Do less for people, or expect less back, and you can avoid feeling this way.

      Ditch the thief. But maybe try and work out why your best friend sees things differently to you.
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      • QuangX
        SBR MVP
        • 02-03-11
        • 2756

        #4
        Battle4life, Your crazy man, 8ball=ruins ur life, I would never touch that stuff.

        Optional, The Younger brother ish -cousin, I kinda watched him grow up, I feel kind of entitle to lead him to a right path, but the way he treat me back, iunno. Just feel like im being used.

        The best friend since childhood, I would probably not speak to him unless he apologize to me first. but im weighing apology over friendship, but i know if i let this shit slip, he just try to get over me again. Iunno
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        • Optional
          Administrator
          • 06-10-10
          • 61579

          #5
          Doubt you can help someone who doesn't want it and has so little respect for you that they'd steal from you.
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          • ttwarrior1
            BARRELED IN @ SBR!
            • 06-23-09
            • 28457

            #6
            most childhood relationship run there course after time and go away for a long time or forever
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            • QuangX
              SBR MVP
              • 02-03-11
              • 2756

              #7
              Well the person is young, young as he still in HS. So is it forgiveable? Should i just be the man, and try once more, And if it goes bad **** it. I tried. He family so, i feel like it need to be done. or tried
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              • BaLLcappin99
                Restricted User
                • 01-11-12
                • 118

                #8
                Originally posted by QuangX

                Second Person, Best friend Since childhood, First time i cut ties with him because he choose our 12 year friendship, just to go on with this chick that he didint even get anything from. (the shit that pissed me off, she wasnt even all that) I just asked him to keep a watch for me because i Had surgery for two days. Second time, I asked him for a favor, and he denied it and said he dont owe me nothing, I helped this guy out so much, throught his years, It not even funny, I was shocked, so i said i gotta cut out ties again.

                Sounds to me like you really want this guy as your close friend because you like his personality and at times you guys get along well. However, it sounds like it's not mutual and he probably thinks low of you or ill-willed for whatever reason. Ditch the friendship. A real friend wouldn't have crossed the line with you like that and would have been way more up front with you before it got out of hand. Find new friends ASAP. I know it may be hard at first but this guy definitely does not have your best interest if he says he 'doesn't owe you shit' if you ask politely for him to look after u while u rest post-surgery. GL
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                • SEAHAWKHARRY
                  BARRELED IN @ SBR!
                  • 11-29-07
                  • 26068

                  #9
                  Your family member

                  Have a intervention. With him and just you tellhim how you feel tell him that you want him to get help and that as long as he's getting it you will be there for him but if he does it again you want nothing to do with him and have a good life

                  The friend...Fukk him he's no friend friends are mutually helpfully and don't buddy fukk u Bros before Hoes
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                  • Ace_of_Spades
                    SBR Posting Legend
                    • 10-14-09
                    • 13518

                    #10
                    Slap him around a bit.
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                    • QuangX
                      SBR MVP
                      • 02-03-11
                      • 2756

                      #11
                      Originally posted by SEAHAWKHARRY
                      Your family member

                      Have a intervention. With him and just you tellhim how you feel tell him that you want him to get help and that as long as he's getting it you will be there for him but if he does it again you want nothing to do with him and have a good life

                      The friend...Fukk him he's no friend friends are mutually helpfully and don't buddy fukk u Bros before Hoes
                      exaclty how i feel, i had a talk with him after the stealing incident. N i think it stopped, when he comes over, but now he has a drug problem.skipping school, n he not that bright himself for schoooling, i dont want him to fail high school.He has a sort of sad background too.
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                      • milwaukee mike
                        BARRELED IN @ SBR!
                        • 08-22-07
                        • 26914

                        #12
                        nobody here knows the full situations or could understand them

                        i'm sure somewhere in your soul you know what to do in both cases

                        life is not clean and easy
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                        • QuangX
                          SBR MVP
                          • 02-03-11
                          • 2756

                          #13
                          Sbr Poker

                          sdfasdfasd
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                          • robmpink
                            SBR Posting Legend
                            • 01-09-07
                            • 13205

                            #14
                            I having trouble with a close robot friend of mine. Weird.
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                            • ngates815
                              SBR Posting Legend
                              • 12-01-09
                              • 13845

                              #15
                              Wouldn't be too hard to steal shit in that filthy fukkin room.

                              I like you though.
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                              • baskets
                                SBR Posting Legend
                                • 11-24-11
                                • 11691

                                #16
                                me love you long time
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                                • sickler
                                  SBR Posting Legend
                                  • 06-05-08
                                  • 15006

                                  #17
                                  lol, the vid is still there.

                                  Quang, you're bigger than I thought. I thought you were Dac....maybe you are and had a friend or relative do the vid...
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                                  • DOMINATER
                                    SBR MVP
                                    • 12-10-09
                                    • 3698

                                    #18
                                    Quang, are you from the mountains in your original country? If this guy is on coke hes got a chance if its the horse forget it do him a favor and overdose him . he will thank you when you meet in paradise.
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                                    • DOMINATER
                                      SBR MVP
                                      • 12-10-09
                                      • 3698

                                      #19
                                      hmong dialect is impossible I would like to say hello.
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                                      • flyingillini
                                        SBR Aristocracy
                                        • 12-06-06
                                        • 41219

                                        #20
                                        Quang, have you ever thought about accepting Christ into your life? Once I came to terms and opened my heart, mind, body and soul to Jesus Christ everything changed for me and the loved ones around me. I have learned a lot of lessons in life and without accepting Christ into your life you really don't stand a chance in this society we are living in. It will change your life and really your whole outlook on life. Smokey. Nick, Zsr, Frizzy and a few other poster's are going to be Baptized and will be eating the Ritz Cracker aka wafer of Christ with me very soon. If you want to be baptized and accept Christ into your life let me know!!
                                        המוסד‎
                                        המוסד למודיעין ולתפקידים מיוחדים‎
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                                        • freelife1
                                          SBR Wise Guy
                                          • 02-08-12
                                          • 580

                                          #21
                                          I have the exact problems...LITERALLY DOWN TO 12 YEARS FRIENDSHIP OVER GIRLS BUT IN MY CASE ITS MOSTLY DRUGS

                                          1st Problem you should address this brother in law or who ever guy is drugged out...They are good people when they sober up and by you calling him out (strong voice strong psture) he will stay the **** away or sober up...which is what you want..




                                          2nd Problem- If this friend is a stuborn as my old friend forget it...I recently called my friend up it was like calling bovada customer servicec asking for where my payment is..I cant help here because If your old friend (like mine) show NO intrest in friendship hell with it...

                                          make good of your life peace
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                                          • pitman
                                            SBR MVP
                                            • 08-15-09
                                            • 2216

                                            #22
                                            I thought everyone smoked weed in highschool. Chances are good that he is just at that age and will grow out of it.
                                            If mom gives him the boot when he turns 18 and he has to work for a living and learn to be responsible he just might turn out successful.
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                                            • QuangX
                                              SBR MVP
                                              • 02-03-11
                                              • 2756

                                              #23
                                              Update on the the situation, Great advice btw guys....

                                              First situation.... Dude failed his high school exam.... He is failing all his class. Full blown druggy, smokes everyday.... I really want to help him out. But i also found out he told the whole family I got him started and addicted to it.... I smoked with him twice..... Basically he used me as a scape goat, He done that alot of times....I try to talk to him, He ignores me. Only last resort is i have a full life talk with him in person, But iunno if it worth it...

                                              Feel like im beening played....
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                                              • MagicDiceFlow
                                                SBR MVP
                                                • 01-15-12
                                                • 4585

                                                #24
                                                My advice .... it may be difficult but cut off ties with both.

                                                For the druggie, no amount of help you can offer will ever be enough for a junkie. Also, the theory about you being responsible for him being addicted is complete bullshit regardless if you smoked out with him a few times. Every one ultimately makes their own decisions in life. Junkies will constantly use you as a scapegoat to their benefit. In his current state, nothing you can say or do will ever be enough. I would tell him goodbye and never to contact you again. Down the road , if he ever matures or gets off the drugs, he will realize what he did wrong and will contact you with remorse.

                                                For the friend/chic issue , several years ago I was in the same situation except I was the asshole who chose a chic over a long time friend of over 15 years. Pussy plays insane tricks on your mind and its really almost like a drug in itself. It leads you to making irrational decisions which is why you hear stories every day about people foolishly cutting ties with their family for that boyfriend/girlfriend which they hardly know. I regret every day for what I did. He's since forgiven me and we've patched things up but it took over 10 years. He'll know exactly what he did wrong when that chic ends up leaving him or vice versa.
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                                                • wikkidinsane
                                                  SBR Posting Legend
                                                  • 05-30-10
                                                  • 13799

                                                  #25
                                                  The first guy, you have to helpl. I know he steals and shit but try your hardest bro. It's your family and the reason he is doing this stealing from you is because of that addicting drugs. Devout some time to helping him. You have to get him to rehab and monitor this foo if you care enough for him. Second guy, Fuk him. "Friends" who don't look out for you aren't friends at all
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