This probably belongs in the saloon but i know i'll get more responses in here in the interim. This girl is as sweet as can be and and has been as good to me as possible in so many ways. She said she loved me 6 months ago when I was blacked out and I guess I said it back but the next day I was like hey sorry i got so drunk last night I barely remember anything and havent said I love you since even though she is madly in love with me. She even bought me a boat as a gift because mine was tied up in court with a crooked mechanic who tried to overcharge me 9k and it notorious for screwing ppl over. I told her I couldn't accept it and when she refused to let me give it back I told her then I'll pay for her back for it. It was like a 30k boat and I already have a 17 foot whaler I love in purgatory. Anyways for months I have known I don't love her and don't see a future between us. Her dad has bad cancer and she starts law school in two weeks. I just don't want to be an a hole and the timing couldn't be worse with all that is going on with her family life and how much focus it will take her when she starts school. I just feel stuck with the timing aspect and still owing her like 20k. Was not expecting that expense this summer.
For months I have been trying to get out of this and even dumped her one time when I was a little drunk and she was being a bitch. She went ballistic and even threatened to kill herself that night. I got very angry she did that as it is a very sensitive subject for me. She promised to never do it again and that she was just saying that etc and I took her back. I started to have a crush on an old flame that became single after years 2 months ago and we have been flirting a lot. I really think she could be the one but I have to get out of this relationship first. I was thinking of saying I'm depressed etc and my therapist is adamant I should be single focusing on recovery. It's not you it's me type of thing and say I need a break for a while and just let it fade etc. I know a lot of you will say just be honest with her but I just know it would do more damage than coming up with a believable excuse on why we should not see each other.
Freaking social media also is a bitch. If I start dating that other girl and she sees it would be ugly. Dios Mio. Any advice would be appreciated. I even thought about saying I am moving to florida for work in a month and can't do long distance. This is really weighing on me boys.
For months I have been trying to get out of this and even dumped her one time when I was a little drunk and she was being a bitch. She went ballistic and even threatened to kill herself that night. I got very angry she did that as it is a very sensitive subject for me. She promised to never do it again and that she was just saying that etc and I took her back. I started to have a crush on an old flame that became single after years 2 months ago and we have been flirting a lot. I really think she could be the one but I have to get out of this relationship first. I was thinking of saying I'm depressed etc and my therapist is adamant I should be single focusing on recovery. It's not you it's me type of thing and say I need a break for a while and just let it fade etc. I know a lot of you will say just be honest with her but I just know it would do more damage than coming up with a believable excuse on why we should not see each other.
Freaking social media also is a bitch. If I start dating that other girl and she sees it would be ugly. Dios Mio. Any advice would be appreciated. I even thought about saying I am moving to florida for work in a month and can't do long distance. This is really weighing on me boys.
