Damn. You won't find a better dude on these forum's than Zam. Stay up man life goes in chapters. You'll be laughing and playing again once you shake this which is just a matter of time.
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That guy is pretty goodComment -
they're all whoresComment -
All the best
Zammmmmmmmerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!Comment -
suckers get involved with women
Eventually they take everything from you if your fukkin stupid and get fukkin married
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Coach I want a woman to do the poker grind with me, a cash specialist like myself.
That would be perfect.Comment -
chin up, zambino
whatever happens will likely be for the best.Comment -
Thats why you need to find a woman not born in North AmericaComment -
Hard to give Zammer any advice on this... his emotions must be all over the place?
Everyone has their own reasons.... as to why?
Around 15 years of marriage? Guess it wouldn't hurt to try some form of marriage counseling? Especially if kids are involved?
Tough situation. I'm sorry man. Wish the best for you.Comment -
Some solid posters in here I haven't talked to in a while. Appreciate all of the insight. This weekend should be interesting... if we can't get it right the consequences could be devastating. Not looking forward to confrontation at all.
My gut tells me to just let things take there course naturally... but this shit is hard to ignore day after day. I want to confront her and just get it all out in the open but that's always been impossible to do because she argues like a goddamn attorney and I can just tell she's not ready to forgive... even though I'm the one who should be forgiving. It's like something changed in her over the last few years where she just finds fault with everyone in her life and can't let go of it. I hear about it constantly and it's gotten old and just getting older. It's led to this crap situation in my opinion and now I'm on the receiving end of it. It's seriously mind bogging.
Don't have a clue how this is going to end up. Funny thing is if she wanted to go out and party and have fun or whatever, I wouldn't give a shit about any of this shit. Life is too short right? Anyway... stay tuned and good luck with your gambling endeavors this weekend.
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I recommend joint counseling. Offer to go with her. Sometimes it helps to have a professional mediate things instead of having two people constantly trying to "win" an argument.Some solid posters in here I haven't talked to in a while. Appreciate all of the insight. This weekend should be interesting... if we can't get it right the consequences could be devastating. Not looking forward to confrontation at all.
My gut tells me to just let things take there course naturally... but this shit is hard to ignore day after day. I want to confront her and just get it all out in the open but that's always been impossible to do because she argues like a goddamn attorney and I can just tell she's not ready to forgive... even though I'm the one who should be forgiving. It's like something changed in her over the last few years where she just finds fault with everyone in her life and can't let go of it. I hear about it constantly and it's gotten old and just getting older. It's led to this crap situation in my opinion and now I'm on the receiving end of it. It's seriously mind bogging.
Don't have a clue how this is going to end up. Funny thing is if she wanted to go out and party and have fun or whatever, I wouldn't give a shit about any of this shit. Life is too short right? Anyway... stay tuned and good luck with your gambling endeavors this weekend.
She owes it to your marriage and to your kids to at least give it a shot.Comment -
It's tough making an accurate assessment with all of your emotions stirred up. Totally sucks... and I understand. We also don't need to know what went down... only you know the true story.... but here's what I would do.Some solid posters in here I haven't talked to in a while. Appreciate all of the insight. This weekend should be interesting... if we can't get it right the consequences could be devastating. Not looking forward to confrontation at all.
My gut tells me to just let things take there course naturally... but this shit is hard to ignore day after day. I want to confront her and just get it all out in the open but that's always been impossible to do because she argues like a goddamn attorney and I can just tell she's not ready to forgive... even though I'm the one who should be forgiving. It's like something changed in her over the last few years where she just finds fault with everyone in her life and can't let go of it. I hear about it constantly and it's gotten old and just getting older. It's led to this crap situation in my opinion and now I'm on the receiving end of it. It's seriously mind bogging.
Don't have a clue how this is going to end up. Funny thing is if she wanted to go out and party and have fun or whatever, I wouldn't give a shit about any of this shit. Life is too short right? Anyway... stay tuned and good luck with your gambling endeavors this weekend.
1. Just ask her in a nice tone of voice.... but sincere... listen... let's try to work this out for the children. If she raises her voice... try to keep your composure... and don't yell back... (even though you want to let her have it!!) Doesn't do any good....
2. While discussing things... try to find the main reason what went wrong. Just say... what's bothering you? If you already sort of know... let her repeat it so you know 100%. Just say you will correct it... step by step.
From one of my friends who went to marriage counseling... what they try to get you to do as a couple.... you start off by mentioning one thing that REALLY IRRITATES YOU about the other. For example.... let's say she spends way too much money. And she claims you are inconsistent with fixing things around the house.... you are supposed to work as a team and repair everything together.... As one. She works hard at being more conservative with money.... and you work hard at repairing things around the house. Again, just a general example. They claim.... the love starts to develop again... when working as a team.... repairing the negative feelings... that started the hate in the first place. Again, you could have 5 things that you can't stand.... and she could have 5 things that she can't stand.... but you work as one to resolve it.
If she has other girl friends that she has already spoke to about a possible divorce.... that's a disadvantage. Especially if her friends are giving her horrible advice. Every woman thinks that an attorney is their to help them.... not true. An attorney is there to help his own bank acct. He could really careless about you or your family. I know... it's horrible. So, only you'd know if she's aggressive like that... not wanting to think... and JUST JUMP... unfortunately everyone thinks the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.... and it's really not true.
You have to think back in why... and how you fell in love with each other. Was it just pure attraction? Was there an intellectual bond? Were you both good communicators at one point? Were you always there for each other... as the best friend type? Try and go to your strengths that you know of 100%.... and slowly get her to believe in those strengths again.
If you feel as a couple you were never good communicators to begin with... it might be a difficult road. But if one of the strengths was communicating as a team.... just do your best to find a common ground... minus the emotions... and give it a shot.
Worse thing you could do is raise your voice back... even when you are feeling you're losing the conversation or her. I know it hurts... but you can't say you didn't try. She might naturally rebel at first... (all women do).... she'll start thinking about how you're trying in a sincere manor... and realize she doesn't want to lose you and the family you developed together.
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I got the remedy...penetrate that couch.. and contact the MoneyShot and tell him to put you on with one of the POF bitches he use to pullComment -
I didn't even see your post Money LMAO.. I was reading some of page 1 and was like I got the remedy for him... then of course you knock it out of the park with the last postComment -
Sorry to hear, Zam. I wish I had good advice. All I can say is that I was a child of a divorce at 13. With things dwindling years before until it was unbearable.
I didn't think it did anything to me, as it was needed. Which it was needed, but it messed with me. The one thing that really got to me looking back was my father no longer talking to me because of the spite he had towards my mom. Along with listening to the yelling, and slamming doors and all that good stuff. I still jump when I hear a door close.
If it comes to that, then I think you're good to go as you care about your kids. There's no right answer, and I don't know the specifics. But, what I remember most is the arguing and yelling, and being fearful. So, if it has to be done then I'd say just keep it as civil as possible for the kids.
As much as it can be. Like I said, no clue about the situation. Just my thoughts as a kid who was around the age as yours. Hope things work out man.Comment -
Poster RICHKAS would have some wise words on this topic.Comment -
Women are all cuunnttss. Some are just better than others. It took a while to figure it out, but other than sex I have absolutely no use for them. Men certainly have their faults, but chicks today are fuuccin insane and I am an older dude. I have seen it my whole life. If you want to kiss some cuunts ass to get a handjob every 6 months than that's up to you. No thanks.
Have you ever tried to work with women at a job??? Impossible. They create a toxic environment and make it unbearable. The worst is the mangina's out there that think I am going to put up with their crazy bitch woman because they don't have the balls to call them out.
I do not think I am better than anyone but I will take occasional meaningless sex and never once miss being in a relationship.Comment -
My wife and I make a perfect team, in nearly every area.
We compliment each other and make our lives better.
Of course, it takes a special woman to put up with a sports bettor, but the wild days of learning and betting were far behind me by the time we were married.
It also takes a special woman to approve, some, not all, of the pictures and GIF's I post on SBR.
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i'm guessing she's a 2 or 3 physically.My wife and I make a perfect team, in nearly every area.
We compliment each other and make our lives better.
Of course, it takes a special woman to put up with a sports bettor, but the wild days of learning and betting were far behind me by the time we were married.
It also takes a special woman to approve, some, not all, of the pictures and GIF's I post on SBR.
There is generally an inverse relationship between the hotness of a woman and how cool she is to be around.Comment -
I would say you have that wrong. My wife is old school and has always been anything but high maintenance. They just don't make them like her anymore.
She has a great body, petite and sexy, and I have been trying for 3 years to take a picture of any of her sexy curves, from any angle, to use as my AVI at SBR. I've posted that before.
To no avail, she just won't let me.
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I got lucky for sure with my lady.
I know everyday how lucky I am. Getting a good looking girl with tight body was never an issue, but getting one like her is rare.
We fell in love and that's why we are married. She is aging very well.
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I ask my woman advice on who she thinks is the hottest in diggities poll. She always votes for biggestMy wife and I make a perfect team, in nearly every area.
We compliment each other and make our lives better.
Of course, it takes a special woman to put up with a sports bettor, but the wild days of learning and betting were far behind me by the time we were married.
It also takes a special woman to approve, some, not all, of the pictures and GIF's I post on SBR.
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not true - hot women are usually confident in themselves - so if she wants to hang around you - you will have more fun than around envious fat girl or anything similar.
The problem would arise however if a hot girl has zero or little interest in a guy - then it's much harder to communicate with her - cause she wants you leave or shut up. An uglier chick would be happy to get any attention.Comment -
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Ronald just wants everyone to go gay so his opinions are counterfeited
Worried about our boy Zammer here and wishing him all the best
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Consider yourself one of the very few lucky ones.I would say you have that wrong. My wife is old school and has always been anything but high maintenance. They just don't make them like her anymore.
She has a great body, petite and sexy, and I have been trying for 3 years to take a picture of any of her sexy curves, from any angle, to use as my AVI at SBR. I've posted that before.
To no avail, she just won't let me.
RARE.Comment -
Been about 1 step forward and two steps backwards since last post. I’m about 90% sure we won’t be able to fix it unless we get a 3rd party involved. I’m simply done partaking in irrational, illogical and selfish one sided discussion. I’ve got so much to say (that would ultimately register in her mind I think) but she simply can’t hear it. She used to be able to but not anymore. Women still suck.Comment -
fuk it....
follow this sound/sage advice:
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