Moving back in with the parents

TheMetsSuck · 09-11-13, 12:03 AM

id wake up 2 hours earlier

TwoWays · 09-11-13, 12:04 AM

do what they ask or else find another place to live.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 12:06 AM

Ive done it all, stayed up for 2 days straight but am just utterly exhausted and cant do anything, all while hes wanting me to work for him. My sleep schedule is insane, ill get on a good schedule then 1 day if I take a 30 minute nap the whole schedule is thrown out of wack again. Been like this since I was 14 or so, always been an insomniac.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 12:07 AM

None of you degenerates have ever had to move back into the parents house in your twenties? Someones gotta have an experience and how to deal with this shit

ChalkyDog · 09-11-13, 12:13 AM

Xanax for sleep.

Pot for everything else.

WTF else do you want to hear? You got a mom and dad to move back in with. Stop bitching, sack up, and GTFO as soon as possible. Or don't, stack cash, and deal with the bullshit of living under a roof with people who think you're a failure for doing so.

TwoWays · 09-11-13, 12:15 AM

suck it up, man. look at it from there point of view. How old are your parents? How long will they be around to be your backstop? Work means money. Money pays for shelter.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 12:18 AM

Shit sucks, Im used to having the financial freedom to go where I want, do what I want, etc. I guess you guys are right, I just need to somehow get on a good schedule, start working out, and find a job asap. Easier said than done, for damn sure.

wagerjunkie · 09-11-13, 12:24 AM

you got the life time of an opportunity and youre bitching about it kid?

you got a free roof to live under, free food and employment.

fukin stay there and stack as much paper as you can. if you are responsible enough you can probably literally save like 30 to 50 grand over the year without having to pay for food or rent or any other expenses.

gauchojake · 09-11-13, 12:26 AM

You sound like my younger brother. He's 37 and just had to move back in with the parents again. You probably have had issues with opiates or benzos. Here's a pro tip. Set your penetrating alarm for 6:30, get up and be a productive member of society. Good news for you is that you're young and have a chance to steer the ship in the right direction. You do not want to wake up one day near 40 with a theater degree and no work experience.

MoneyLineDawg · 09-11-13, 12:28 AM

Just try to meet them somewhere in the middle and wake up a little earlier.....Also working out at night helps your body and mind relax and makes it easier to get to sleep a few hours later

I can relate though.....I am naturally a late sleeper and I feel like I have a ton of energy later at night but I work for myself so I can wake up early on the days I need to and sleep late when I don't

If you help around the house more they will probably cut you some slack and give you space.....clean up shit and help your parents with chores more often.....Cut the lawn, cook dinner, take the garbage out, etc

Also you should still hang out with your friends a little bit....completely cutting them out can't be a good thing unless they're complete shitbags

TheMetsSuck · 09-11-13, 12:32 AM

I moved back in with my parents after selling my apartment and moving back to ny. I loved living at home. Ofcourse you deal with a lot of nagging but you just have to figure out what you need to do to avoid them being on your case. Whether that means doing a bunch of household chores without being asked, getting up early, chipping in money for bills, etc. Embrace the opportunity of being able to save money and being around your family in a way that you won't be able to for much longer as you grow up and start one of your own. Get some adderall to help get you up in the morning if you have to.

Killer_Demo · 09-11-13, 12:38 AM

Sell crack...you wont be living home long if u do that.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 12:47 AM

Originally posted by MoneyLineDawg

Just try to meet them somewhere in the middle and wake up a little earlier.....Also working out at night helps your body and mind relax and makes it easier to get to sleep a few hours later

I can relate though.....I am naturally a late sleeper and I feel like I have a ton of energy later at night but I work for myself so I can wake up early on the days I need to and sleep late when I don't

If you help around the house more they will probably cut you some slack and give you space.....clean up shit and help your parents with chores more often.....Cut the lawn, cook dinner, take the garbage out, etc

Also you should still hang out with your friends a little bit....completely cutting them out can't be a good thing unless they're complete shitbags

Good advice here, especially with the helping around the house more tips. Appreciate it

I guess its just hard to adjust after having freedom for so long, waking up when I want, no chores, no "bedtime". I better find a way to get off this nocturnal clock though soon

BennyBigNuts · 09-11-13, 01:08 AM

Originally posted by FlipsideRM

None of you degenerates have ever had to move back into the parents house in your twenties? Someones gotta have an experience and how to deal with this shit

The best advice is not to ask a forum full of scumbags for life advice.
In this situation you need a friend to lean on, not some internet fukks who are gonna jab at you and think it's funny.
Your story is well written and is most likely legit, but this isn't the site to post it on.
I dunno what site you could put it on for some good advice, but this isn't it.

Myself personally, I never had that convenience like you have available so from my point of view you sound spoiled honestly.
Be thankful you have that option there for you, and abide by their rules as long as you are living there. Unless you are contributing and paying your share of the monthly bills, enjoy those free dinners and think about how bad it could be if you had to feed yourself right now with no job and no where to live.

It's never as bad as it seems.
Just look at a guy in a wheel-chair next time you're out and think what struggles he has throughout his day.
It will make you feel selfish and may even motivate you to man up and try waking up before 11am everyday.
Best of luck to you.

ParlayininHTown · 09-11-13, 01:23 AM

Flipside, I know you're down on yourself, but that's only going to prevent you from escaping this rut.

Keep your head up and grind. It's all you can do to get back on your feet.

I had to deal with parents who didn't understand that I have to live my life on my own and form my own path ... and this was happening before I even finished high school. If you're anything like me, there is just no way it will work living with them long term. When I am at an impasse with someone -- even a loved one -- my position is non-negotiable. It's MY life, not theirs. That also means it's my responsibility to take care of myself.

Considering your age and your parents' complaints, I would just try to please them as long as I'm stuck under their roof. If it upsets you that much to abide by their rules, just use their anger and hatred as motivation to get your life back in order. Try your best to maintain a positive disposition in spite of the negativity they are throwing your way. Whenever you hear them criticizing you, just think to yourself, "Won't be long before I'm out of here and won't have to listen to your bullshit anymore, you asshole."

My impasse with my parents was over smoking weed in the house and so-called "wasted potential", but again, it's not like I was in my 20s when they started giving me way too much shit for wanting to find my own path in life. I probably would have shown them more respect if I had to move back in and they were willing to do me such a huge favor, but I was younger and felt differently about their verbal abuse. My father didn't understand my anxiety issues or think they were legit, despite what doctors told him, and it broke my heart.

It hit me during that time that I was the only person who gave a fukk about me and understood me. No one will want to help me, feel sorry for me, or give me a break. I drive this car. I knew only I could do something to change my life. I had to GTFO of there, or I could actually seriously hurt my own parents. How sick is that? I can't even be mad at them in retrospect, because I think they also have similar mental issues. They just never understood their own dysfunction or felt that they needed to seek help.

So off I went, with a chip on my shoulder, more focused on a goal than ever. Fortunately, I quickly landed a second job and got a fellow high-school senior to rent a small place with me. He and I went our separate ways within two years, but I still paid and worked my way through college. I then found a better job in civil litigation that has put me on firm footing financially for the near future. It's was a stressful few years. I lost a decent amount of hair during that time and missed out on a lot socially, but it beat the F out of living with parents whom I frankly don't care about anymore.

Ever since I moved, I've always been conservative with my spending and gambling and have never been in a position where I couldn't pay my bills. This is the key. If you're not already six months ahead on your bills, you're behind. You cannot have a "YOLO" philosophy and live for now if you don't understand the consequences. That may seem crazy, but it gives you a brief period to bounce back in case you lose a job or hit some other type of rough patch financially.

Another thing to consider is becoming an independent contractor or traveling down a self-employed route. This offers you freedom within your work, but it also means you have to be on your toes and make sure you have enough employers/clients/work to keep the money flowing in. Your taxes won't be the same, but if you're diligent and you find an area where there is a lot of work available, you can do well for yourself and not have to put up with anyone's shit.

Independence is beautiful. And guess who helped me get there? Those annoying parents.

Stop focusing so much on the idea of being stuck with your parents and think more about getting out of there. In other words, your mind should be creating the solution, not stuck on the problem. Visualize your route to claiming your independence and take that route. The road will have some potholes and bumps, but those are just lessons you have to learn along the way.

With a positive disposition and a chip on your shoulder (provided by your parents' criticism), I know you can get back on your feet in no time. In the mean time, waking up early and offering to take your siblings to school might make your parents back off a little.

The Giant · 09-11-13, 02:14 AM

Being forced to wake up before noon is unconscionable, even if you're not paying rent. If I were you, I would consider emptying a load of fresh jizz in your dad's shampoo bottle.

thechaoz · 09-11-13, 02:20 AM

It's a nightmare.. I realized after a brief stint years so that I'm not my father's son... He's retarded no shit... Our IQs are 100 points apart

Hustler11 · 09-11-13, 02:25 AM

Originally posted by FlipsideRM

Long story short....

Im 23 now and have lived in an apartment with other roommates, friends, etc since I was 19.

Well I landed a steady fulltime job about 2 years ago and moved downtown, basically living the life, gambling, partying, being irresponsible, etc.

Ended up losing that job 2 months ago and my lease ended downtown last month so was forced to move back into my parents house while im in this transition and looking for jobs.

Anyway....wanted to get your guys perspective and insight on how to cope with this. Ive been here a month now and am on a completely different schedule then my parents and younger siblings (who still havee to get up early for school). I find it hard to get up anytime before 11am, and all I hear is complaining from the parents that I need to live like a normal person. Ive been working for my dad, as he owns his own company but things just havent been going well and I feel like im a 15 year old boy now. I did quit drinking, and gambling for the most part and haven't hung around friends/bad influences in over a month so I do feel like im making progress, but most of that goes unnoticed. They just look at my sleep schedule and complain.

The tension has been building up between my dad and I for a couple weeks and finally tonight the bubble finally burst. I hear screaming that I need to stop living like an Alien, start getting to sleep on time and get out of the rutt im in. Took everything in my will to refrain from jumping up and going off on him but I thought of the consequences and being homeless, etc.

Anyway, have any of you guys ever experienced moving back in and whats the best way to stay on the good side and the fastest ways to get the hell out of here. I have applied places for several months and had a few interviews but nothing has come to fruition. All I know is I can't keep living like this, need my freedom. What would you guys do?

I understand what you're going through as far as sleep schedule. I don't have work until 1:30 everyday and I wake up at around 12:45 or 1:00 and all i hear is complaining about my sleep schedule haha. What i do is don't listen and keep doing it because its what i want to do. By the way im 19 years old drop out of high school, top 5 percentile in GED graduate and work at a gas station and gamble every paycheck. Go out on the weekends and browse sbr forums when im home... Maybe my parents have a little bit more to be mad about.

jjgold · 09-11-13, 05:23 AM

Guy you left out part about being a gambler and having no money

That's why your home

BigDeem5 · 09-11-13, 05:55 AM

This is easy. Reload and hit a parlay.

crustyme · 09-11-13, 06:04 AM

poison their coffee and collect insurance.

put it all on ucla.

Dr.Gonzo · 09-11-13, 07:35 AM

Ignore criticism and avoid arguments, just take it easy and you'll be sweet. Anger is the wrong reaction, just act totally ambivalent to it all. Slowly start pushing boundaries and taking more liberties. I wouldn't rush to move out either, run up a bit of a bankroll beforehand.

Living at home is actually awesome if you have a girl who you can bang at her place.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 10:19 AM

Like I mentioned in the first post, I know what the real world is and I used to have a fulltime job that hours were 9am-5pm for 2 years. Doesn't mean I didn't go to work on only 2-3 hours of sleep most days and force feed myself coffee. Insomnia is real, and I've had it forever. Also, I have no reason forcing me to wake up before 11am everyday so its a lot harder to wake myself up knowing I don't really have anything to do all day.

On the plus side I used my insomnia last night and stayed up until about 3am putting out resumes, got a few emails this morning so hopefully this is a good sign.

easyliving · 09-11-13, 11:24 AM

Originally posted by BigDeem5

This is easy. Reload and hit a parlay.

Deemer gets it. your always 1 parlay away.

muldoon · 09-11-13, 12:01 PM

You're 23 years old and have to be told by a gambling forum to "meet them in the middle" to make a situation like that work?

You worked 9-5 for 2 years and managed to force yourself to get up, but now because it's your last best chance to get on your feet, you can't set the alarm extra loud?

23 going on 16.

robzilla · 09-11-13, 12:18 PM

I moved back home a couple times in my 20's, but I used that time to work, save up, and hit the gym. Stop being a broke, retard, out of shape loser, and then you will get the right girl and everything will be fine.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 12:23 PM

Originally posted by robzilla

I moved back home a couple times in my 20's, but I used that time to work, save up, and hit the gym. Stop being a broke, retard, out of shape loser, and then you will get the right girl and everything will be fine.

I like this

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 12:24 PM

Originally posted by muldoon

You're 23 years old and have to be told by a gambling forum to "meet them in the middle" to make a situation like that work?

You worked 9-5 for 2 years and managed to force yourself to get up, but now because it's your last best chance to get on your feet, you can't set the alarm extra loud?

23 going on 16.

Just a place to vent, I dropped all my friends if you re-read my first post. But yeah i admit im not as mature as I could be but its not as simple as "go to sleep earlier, wake up earlier", I really am an insomniac and its causing strain with my parents. Should definitely start hitting the gym though, that might help a bit

muldoon · 09-11-13, 12:38 PM

Originally posted by FlipsideRM

Just a place to vent, I dropped all my friends if you re-read my first post. But yeah i admit im not as mature as I could be but its not as simple as "go to sleep earlier, wake up earlier", I really am an insomniac and its causing strain with my parents. Should definitely start hitting the gym though, that might help a bit

Check out nearby colleges for sleep studies.

Gym will help, more often it's a diet thing though.

Might be as simple as going camping for a week

Why Is a Camping Trip the Ultimate Insomnia Cure?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201308/why-is-camping-trip-the-ultimate-insomnia-cure

Do you suffer from insomnia? Are the pressures of modern living stressing you out? If so, new research suggests that a camping trip could be just what the doctor ordered.

tb1984 · 09-11-13, 01:49 PM

Originally posted by TheMetsSuck

I moved back in with my parents after selling my apartment and moving back to ny. I loved living at home. Ofcourse you deal with a lot of nagging but you just have to figure out what you need to do to avoid them being on your case. Whether that means doing a bunch of household chores without being asked, getting up early, chipping in money for bills, etc. Embrace the opportunity of being able to save money and being around your family in a way that you won't be able to for much longer as you grow up and start one of your own. Get some adderall to help get you up in the morning if you have to.

Ghenghis Kahn · 09-11-13, 02:31 PM

don't take xanax.

take 1mg of melatonin around 12 and it'll make you go to sleep around 1.

set the alarm clock, wake up around 8, and at least act like you are being productive.

that will make your parents happy.

as long as you are living under their roof, you have to obey their rules.

FlipsideRM · 09-11-13, 02:37 PM

Originally posted by Ghenghis Kahn

don't take xanax.

take 1mg of melatonin around 12 and it'll make you go to sleep around 1.

set the alarm clock, wake up around 8, and at least act like you are being productive.

that will make your parents happy.

as long as you are living under their roof, you have to obey their rules.

Tried Melatonin, my body is basically immune to the stuff. It worked for a night or two but basically have to pop 10 of the suckers to even feel a little drowsy so I stopped taking them. The only thing that really works is Ambien which is horrible for you, if you miss a night of taking it youll just end up being up all night again. I eliminated all caffeine from my diet, going to try and start eating better and being more active outside/exercising.

wagerjunkie · 09-11-13, 02:38 PM

Originally posted by FlipsideRM

Good advice here, especially with the helping around the house more tips. Appreciate it

I guess its just hard to adjust after having freedom for so long, waking up when I want, no chores, no "bedtime". I better find a way to get off this nocturnal clock though soon

:

layoffs voice::

bedtime?, bedtime? we can't even wake up before noon and your talking about bedtime?

Brutus84 · 09-11-13, 03:15 PM

I lived with my mom for a few brief stints. Had to put up with major bitching and decided to find a sugar mama. Found one for about a year and eventually saved up enough and found a good girl and moved in with her. Found a job in my field, she found a job in her field, she is pregnant, and we are living the good life. Doesn't care I gamble, likes sports but not too much, and isn't high maintenance. It will all work itself out.