GF wants me to quit "gambling" because her uncle lost everything at blackjack

[onetrickpony]

this sounds too much of a personal problem, personal as in u figure this out pal

[Metalhead]

She doesn't want you to bet on sports, because her uncle can't play cards?

Maybe a few years from now she'll want you to quit drinking, because the neighbour is an alcoholic.

She doesn't even have you by the balls yet, but she already has you by the balls.

[wtf]

if you are REALLY doing that well at gambling then you should dump her ass

but since you are vacillating on this issue I suspect you are not making as much as you claim

[ZetaPsi808]

what part of the US do you live in?

[jjgold]

first of all your a jerkoff for having a girlfriend
You liked to be controlled

Son you need to re evaluate yourself

[Ian]

GF wants me to quit "gambling"

Gambling wants you to quit GF.

If she's so uptight about stuff like this why would you want to marry her anyway?

[geebert74]

Time to find a new girl... My wife pulls the same shit but I don't hear her complaining when I get a check or **...

[gryfyn1]

She told me I have to stop gambling if we were to ever progress into marriage.

If she's giving you ultimatums now, it wont stop.

[k13]

Its only gambling when you lose.

[Jerm3462]

Its only gambling when you lose.

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[roninchow]

This story is standard. You have to choose which is best for you your current business or your current girlfriend. Unfortunately, many women love only to our business.

[kpoutlaw]

If you both want both slices of the pie, hide your gambling habits by all means! You can get away with it, trust me, and don't believe those who say you have to give up one to have the other. Trying to convince your wife that gambling is positive +EV is no different from trying to convince a Muslim that Christianity is positive EV+. It just doesn't make sense and never will to her, get my point? Rather, learn to be crafty and play the role of an upright citizen and loving husband while you engineer deceptive ways to fulfill your innermost needs to gamble. It's not like you're cheating on her, so spare yourself the moral guilt. Tell her you have given up gambling for the rest of your life, that you love her too much to cling to your "selfish, recklessly immoral" habits and that you will never, ever break your promise.

Eventually, you will learn to be a master of deception, and even if you do get caught, tell her that it was a one-time thing and that it will never, ever happen again. I attended and graduated seminary, and I gambled all the time but never got caught. In fact, I would deliberately and emphatically deplore the evils of gambling, prostitution, and every other despicable sin out there, while enjoying all of these great, God-given joys of life myself.

That's just the way life is. It's all one big lie and hypocrisy. You don't shy away from it, or forfeit something for another. You simply mask and color that which is deemed inappropriate or immoral by others and carry a big, genuine smile on your face.

[jstblaze]

Get a job. I ve been through similar situation.

No other way about it. And there are really very few girls as you said already that would accept this as your full time job.

If you dont do this you will lose the ability to gamble casually during your marriage. If you get a job right now and tell her you will always gamble casually but that she is most important so you are getting a job and will never put your life together at risk.

If you push it, it iwll always be a sore subject and you will not be able to do it for fun even!

[slatter]

Tell her blackjack is a game that the house has a clear mathematic advantage, where you're a long-term proven winner in sportsbetting and poker (after the rake) (if that's true). Apples and oranges, baby.

[HotStreak]

you are fighting a losing battle my friend, they are out there and they dont care how you make it.

This is true. If she doesn't accept what you do, she will never come around. Gambling is not a lifestyle for everyone, and even less compatible for a relationship where the time spent gambling can easily seem to be more important than your significant other.

Obviously if you are losing the mortgage almost all partners are going to have a problem with it, but even if you are earning steady income, it becomes a time thing. Poker is the worst, as it requires a massive amount of time to grind out a living.

Even if this girl gets over the risk of ruin thing related to her uncle's misfortune, she is likely going to come against the thought that gambling is more important to you than her.

Is it?

[chilidog]

If you both want both slices of the pie, hide your gambling habits by all means! You can get away with it, trust me, and don't believe those who say you have to give up one to have the other. Trying to convince your wife that gambling is positive +EV is no different from trying to convince a Muslim that Christianity is positive EV+. It just doesn't make sense and never will to her, get my point? Rather, learn to be crafty and play the role of an upright citizen and loving husband while you engineer deceptive ways to fulfill your innermost needs to gamble. It's not like you're cheating on her, so spare yourself the moral guilt. Tell her you have given up gambling for the rest of your life, that you love her too much to cling to your "selfish, recklessly immoral" habits and that you will never, ever break your promise.

Eventually, you will learn to be a master of deception, and even if you do get caught, tell her that it was a one-time thing and that it will never, ever happen again. I attended and graduated seminary, and I gambled all the time but never got caught. In fact, I would deliberately and emphatically deplore the evils of gambling, prostitution, and every other despicable sin out there, while enjoying all of these great, God-given joys of life myself.

That's just the way life is. It's all one big lie and hypocrisy. You don't shy away from it, or forfeit something for another. You simply mask and color that which is deemed inappropriate or immoral by others and carry a big, genuine smile on your face.

I like this guy.

[Monitor-Tan]

Show her my 3 day in a row top casino winner here at sbr casino.. Show her not everyones a loser at gambling.. Fyi it was all through pretty much blackjack..

[lcscanada]

I told her I am not going to quit. I love my freedom, and even thou I do not make 6 figures, (I avg. 50k) I don't pay a lot of taxes and I own my own house (well 25% of it) but you get the idea. I told her I love her and wouldn't ask her to change something she enjoyed and loved as long as it does not affect the relationship in a negative way. I said if we ever get married and i start losing i will quit and get a job, but for now I am doing well and other aspects of my life are better because of it, it's not just about the money. I work a few hours a day and once i have placed my bets i am done. She is still upset, but that's too bad for her. I am not going to give this up for her because she is misinformed and does not understand the basic concept of EV.

[nosniboR11]

so who's ghost is this

[D3 Mighty Ducks]

If you both want both slices of the pie, hide your gambling habits by all means! You can get away with it, trust me, and don't believe those who say you have to give up one to have the other. Trying to convince your wife that gambling is positive +EV is no different from trying to convince a Muslim that Christianity is positive EV+. It just doesn't make sense and never will to her, get my point? Rather, learn to be crafty and play the role of an upright citizen and loving husband while you engineer deceptive ways to fulfill your innermost needs to gamble. It's not like you're cheating on her, so spare yourself the moral guilt. Tell her you have given up gambling for the rest of your life, that you love her too much to cling to your "selfish, recklessly immoral" habits and that you will never, ever break your promise.

Eventually, you will learn to be a master of deception, and even if you do get caught, tell her that it was a one-time thing and that it will never, ever happen again. I attended and graduated seminary, and I gambled all the time but never got caught. In fact, I would deliberately and emphatically deplore the evils of gambling, prostitution, and every other despicable sin out there, while enjoying all of these great, God-given joys of life myself.

That's just the way life is. It's all one big lie and hypocrisy. You don't shy away from it, or forfeit something for another. You simply mask and color that which is deemed inappropriate or immoral by others and carry a big, genuine smile on your face.

This guy sounds like the devil holy shit.

[lcscanada]

Women....

[jjgold]

Iacansa your a emotional fukkin character

Who are you?

Call me and I want you to identify youself

Ok Playa?

[will2survive]

If she can't accept you for who you are then she's not the right woman for you--plain and simple (YOU WON'T GET A BETTER ANSWER THAN THAT)-GOOD LUCK

when I say "for who you are", I mean everything about you

[Hoja Verdes]

show her your yearly income from your gambling and tell her this is how you make your living take it or leave it

here is the problem with that ...there's something about this guy's posts that lead me to believe he is just on an extended hot streak. Variance or a stiffing book will catch up with him sooner or later . and it would be a tragedy if about the time his girlfriend gets on board with everything, he proceeds to lose more in 6 months then he has won in the past year.

that is the core problem ...you go a little overboard with the +EV and "investing" talk, they think you're billy walters, then you get crushed.

[sneakerhead]

Tell her "respect my Authoritah"

[EaglesPhan36]

How can no one have posted the most obvious thing - where is a picture of her so we can judge her talents and tell you if she's worth it.

[Ratzz]

i would tell her that IS your job. and that it is unreasonable to ask you to quit making money in a way that your mind is best suited.
What if her uncle was a bad driver and wrecked the the pickup truck? .. you gotta quit driving?
what if her uncle was a supreme alcoholic? you can't have a beer during the football game?

it's bs. it's a power play, she's testing your mettle. if you cave here, she is going to nit-pick you until you leave her 10 years from now.

The oNLY way this relationship is going to work is if she accepts you abilities for what they are. I am NOT defending gambling. For 999 people out of 1000 it is a drug habit and and a terrible waste of life... but if you are that 1 person, that makes money, owns a house that you basically won with your intelligence, she should revel in the fact that she has such an intelligent BF.

but be honest with yourself and with the situation. if you are really making money, and are happy.. tell her it is your job. If you are a gambling addict that is rationilizing, she is opening the door for you to quit and move on to greater things.

If you are really a killer capper, and want her to see from your perspective, then let her do so. Take an event, that you feel confident you are going to win. Place a bet in her name, and tell her about it, and watch the game. Let her know that if it wins, the money is hers. and when it does, give her the money.

When she experiences it herself, she will chill on it. hOWEVER... if you think she is going to become a derelict gambling addict herself. don't introduce her to gambling at all... she will ruin and you will come looking for me, for giving you this idea..

good luck

[lcscanada]

I've been doing sports betting for 2 years, and i played poker and made considerable profit doing that for 3 years. I know all about variance, bankroll management, swings, etc... the reason i chose sports now is because of what i call time investment. When I played poker I had to grind out money 4-7 hours a day. Drive to casinos. Take trips. Hotels, eating out, gas, so much more overhead and time invested. I make the same amount with sports, but much more time available and much more saved, so overall my profit is much bigger.

Her problem is she thinks blackjack and sports betting are the same.

I told her too bad so sad, not giving it up to bust my ass in some cubicle so she can have "security".

[MadTiger]

Quit lying to her.
Christian doesn't mean anti-gambling. Where does it say that?
Find someone else. She sounds like Marcia Brady.

[homerbush]

Can't you go back to "designing websites" to hide the gambling.
With that said I think my wife would divorce me if I stopped sports gambling and I am a break even bettor at best long term. She likes the action.

[BettingWizard]

she's just getting emotional from her uncle losing money. A week from now she probably won't even care about him losing 20k.


If she's still dumb enough to not see that "gambling" has brought you a house and a car etc etc, ( and she is working 9-5 lol, the irony) after she cools off emotionally, then she's not that great of a girl, nuff said.

[Karayilan9]

Ah terrible mistake with your use of words, say your 'investing'.

Tell someone you gamble and they think loser
Tell someone you invest and they think, what a guy, one of lifes winners, I wanna know this guy...

[Flight]

1) Call yourself a day trader
2) Take your bankroll and divide it into 90% sports, 10% stocks and bonds
3) Buy some random stocks.
4) Buy a 2nd computer with dual monitors, have it always on with screens and charts all over, make it look professional
5) Then just continue gambling on sports

[D3 Mighty Ducks]

If she knows how to cook than stay with her.

[wiffle]

here is the problem with that ...there's something about this guy's posts that lead me to believe he is just on an extended hot streak.

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