Restaurant Date Question

[SamsNCharge99]

It's always assumed that when you take your lady out to dinner that you, the man, picks up the check.

BUT, should the women at least attempt to pay for it or do they assume it? And if they assume it, is that disrespectful?

I've been on a bunch of dates and my current lady did try to at least pay for her side of the bill. I told her I got it, and she smiled and said thanks.

But, I have more respect for her for the attempt.

It's often said that it's the thought that matters and in this case I believe it is. I actually like her more knowing that in the future, she will probably pay for the meal.

When women assume men will pay, I will most likely not take them out again knowing each and every time I will have to pay.

But, knowing the girl is willing to pay is a bonus and good for future dates.

What you think guys and gals

[VegasInsider]

I never let a woman pay for anything, but I guess I'm old fashioned. I do respect the lady more when she at least offers something. I never expected the lady to pay for it, so it's a nice surprise when she reaches for the check or her purse.

[robmpink]

Fair question, but aren't you in a frat? Why not pose it on them? Also, it is nice, but offering to pay for her 1/2? That is gay if you two are in a relationship. I'm sure you paid for her a few times.

[sickler]

Sammy, show the girl your mug on the creditwagering stiff page. It might compel her to offer picking up the tab.

[SamsNCharge99]

Fair question, but aren't you in a frat? Why not pose it on them? Also, it is nice, but offering to pay for her 1/2? That is gay if you two are in a relationship. I'm sure you paid for her a few times.

NO, I'm in a fraternity. And I paid for the meal, mine and hers

so I guess IDK what you mean

[SamsNCharge99]

Sammy, show the girl your mug on the creditwagering stiff page. It might compel her to offer picking up the tab.

yea, finally saw it up there today and was excited. Now, we have at least 25 posters up there

we are big time

and who the fukk cares about credit wagering

[ttwarrior1]

dude if you ask a chick out a date, u always pay or your a loser

[robmpink]

NO, I'm in a fraternity. And I paid for the meal, mine and hers

so I guess IDK what you mean

Basically what I meant is you two are an item/in a relationship. You have paid for her drinks, meals multiple times in the past. Yes, her offering to pay half is better vs not making any effort, but you don't strike me as ordering a 24 oz porterhouse. Her paying the tab every now and then is meaningful and a nice gesture. I just think offering to pay 1/2 after you have pd multiple times is a bit weak.

frat/fraternity=samething

[C-Gold]

Women that always expect you to pay will expect a lot of other things that will cost much more than your 50 dollar trip to Applebees.

[stevek173]

Sammy I think the edicate is proper from both of you here. She offers, you pay, case closed; it's going as expected.

[robmpink]

Somewhat off topic, but when I was younger and knew a girl was really into me after just meeting them, I would tell them my b-day was coming up. Knowing I had no use for the except hooking up, I would say my b-day was a a week. I scored some nice shit, sneakers, clothes, cologne.

yes, I feel bad now, but when you are in high school and early college years you really don't give two whoots.

[maersksealand]

make sure she will pay for a movie, coffee or something...don't become her ATM...let her pay sometimes, try to keep it even. Keep her real, if no she will push your limits and become upset when you won't meet her needs.

[robmpink]

Sammy I think the edicate is proper from both of you here. She offers, you pay, case closed; it's going as expected.

She didn't offer to pay, she offered to pay her 1/2. That makes it less of a nice gesture. Bad vibe here.

[SamsNCharge99]

She didn't offer to pay, she offered to pay her 1/2. That makes it less of a nice gesture. Bad vibe here.

not a bad vibe, everything is going well

[robmpink]

make sure she will pay for a movie, coffee or something...don't become her ATM...let her pay sometimes, try to keep it even. Keep her real, if no she will push your limits and become upset when you won't meet her needs.

I concur. It isn't about being cheap or a gentleman. You always come prepared, go out, have fun. Little things like going out for dinner, you pay, then going out for drinks and she offers to pay speaks a lot and is meaningful.

[Rod1010]

fkin losers Sammy let her pay once or twice for the small things and make sure she offers to pay sometimes .. Thats when u know shes not a gold digging whore ..

[jjgold]

Sammy let her pay

fuk her

I would never pay for a broad

[Chimneyfish]

They want equal treatment until it comes to paying and lifting stuff.

Don't get me wrong- I think the guy should pay, but I'm also against equality.

[robmpink]

not a bad vibe, everything is going well

I wish you well. Just take into account all you have paid for. Always be prepared, but see if she picks up the small tabs every now and then like the other guy said. If you don't see this happening, don't expect it to start.

Funny my old college room mate just went through the same thing. The girl never offered to pay for anything over 3 months and he spent a lot of $$$. She has a nice car, good job, etc.

[ebbearsfb1]

50 bucks at applebees? Come on man u need some half price apps... in regards to the bill.. id rather her offer a bj on the car ride home, then pay for the bill.. fading u jokers on here more than helps pay for applebees lol

[VegasVixen]

**From a single woman's perspective**... On a 1st date, I always ask "Can I help you with that?" when the check arrives. Also, I will usually try to pay on the 2nd date and say "you got it last time". Most guys won't let me, some do, especially if it's less expensive, maybe breakfast or something.
If it's a "friend" date, I insist on paying my 1/2 at least.

[flyingillini]

Lets go Siena Wrestling Program 2014!

[robmpink]

fkin losers Sammy let her pay once or twice for the small things and make sure she offers to pay sometimes .. Thats when u know shes not a gold digging whore ..

Who are the losers? Please elaborate. all my advice was aimed at his explained situation. He has gone out with her multiple times, I gather 10.

[james4512]

i get annoyed when girls offer to pay or try and "fight" me for the check, it could show there not trying to use me for my money but who knows

[robmpink]

**From a single woman's perspective**... On a 1st date, I always ask "Can I help you with that?" when the check arrives. Also, I will usually try to pay on the 2nd date and say "you got it last time". Most guys won't let me, some do, especially if it's less expensive, maybe breakfast or something.
If it's a "friend" date, I insist on paying my 1/2 at least.

This is where i was getting a bad vibe for his situation and her offering to pay half. it just seems friendsie to me.

[rem sleep]

If your chances of getting some action at +EV than you pay.

[SamsNCharge99]

good info here boys
thanks for the advice

[bobbyfk]

yea, finally saw it up there today and was excited. Now, we have at least 25 posters up there

we are big time

and who the fukk cares about credit wagering

its actually up there...wow

[Capybara]

Yeah, you got it right, Sam.

Guy should pay for the first few dates, but the girl should ALWAYS offer. If they don't, that is OBNOXIOUS, it's not like they're royal subjects, I mean how many of them make more than us to begin with?!

Now after a little while I think it's cool for the girl to pick it up once in a while, or to sometimes just split it.

A lot depends on the relationship obviously.

[bradthebloke]

thats why i just invite them to my place. only thing i gotta pay for is the condom

[TexansFan]

Sammy let her pay

fuk her

I would never pay for a broad

I thought you bought hookers all the time JJ?

[Chimneyfish]

At least buying a hooker gives you a better deal on the dollar/vagina exchange rate than dinner.

[Capybara]

At least buying a hooker gives you a better deal on the dollar/vagina exchange rate than dinner.

If I had all the money back I've spent on women with whom I never got anywhere at all, I could afford so much hooker sex it would be crazy.

[moses millsap]

the man always pays, thats it

[raydog]

Sammy, this is the only advice you need...

you always pay for dinners/movies/bar tabs etc. when she is your girlfriend and you go out..she is a little hottie and probably can get any dick at your school she wants, so you always pay and it keeps her happy...the only time you dont pay is when she says she wants to take you out...then letting her pay is acceptable...something she wants to do for you to make you happy, let her. it will make her happy to please you.

now, the way that you let her pull a little bit of weight is to ask her to cook you dinner every once in a while...she will go out of her way to spend a little money and try to make you a good dinner...

when you decide to move in together, start another thread and ill provide advice in this catagory as well...