Death, a question for the older forumites

[Jamie_UK]

at 37, i find myself often in concern about my own mortality

My question is, as you get older, does nature prepare you for death ? in the blink of an eye, i will be 47,57 67, then dead at some stage

so how come old people dont worry about it so much? is it nature?

[capitalist pig]

Jamie im 48,and have been shot once, stabbed once and married once, so no death doesnt ever enter my thought train.

later

[Shark79]

at 37, i find myself often in concern about my own mortality

My question is, as you get older, does nature prepare you for death ? in the blink of an eye, i will be 47,57 67, then dead at some stage

so how come old people dont worry about it so much? is it nature?

Why worry?

Just live day in day out ... dont forget about those that are always with you (family) and u should do OK !!

If you pass away ... they will be the only ones to remember you anyway ... so put time in them

[Jamie_UK]

Jamie im 48,and have been shot once, stabbed once and married once, so no death doesnt ever enter my thought train.

later

I appreciate your answer, but it does not really answer the question

[Jamie_UK]

Why worry?

Just live day in day out ... dont forget about those that are always with you (family) and u should do OK !!

If you pass away ... they will be the only ones to remember you anyway ... so put time in them

I want to see my grand kids

[Shark79]

I want to see my grand kids

Thats what its all about !!

Im young ... at 28 ... I have a baby boy (5 months old)

Fvk the idea of me dying ... I want to see him grow .... play soccer with him ... go to college .. get married ... have grandkids .. cycle of life ... were blessed

[Jamie_UK]

Thats what its all about !!

Im young ... at 28 ... I have a baby boy (5 months old)

Fvk the idea of me dying ... I want to see him grow .... play soccer with him ... go to college .. get married ... have grandkids .. cycle of life ... were blessed

ok so taking for granted that in about 50 odd years you will be dead

do you think that the human brain prepares us for dead?

even better if old people can help?

[capitalist pig]

IMO the ones who worry about dying , probably have something wrong with them, cancer, etc. Healthy older people dont even consider themselves old.

I made a comment to a guy who is 82 about him being old (no disrespect was intended), and I thought the guy was gonna come over the counter and smack me upside the head. At 82 he doesnt consider himself old, so its seems like its all a matter of how you feel about yourself.

later

[Jamie_UK]

i constantly worry about dying, i'm only 37

[Shark79]

ok so taking for granted that in about 50 odd years you will be dead

do you think that the human brain prepares us for dead?

even better if old people can help?

You dont prepare for this ... u accept it.

Many are fortunate to say goodbye to there loved ones ... others die instantly ... how can u prepare for that?

Once you live ur life to the fullest ... if you die tomorrow .. u will not regret anything

[Willie Bee]

Jamie, though I'm sure you don't want to hear it from me, all I can tell you is that from my research and my own experiences as a middle-aged guy now, at some point all of us contemplate dying and growing older and at some point all of us think about dying and never living...but if we do die tomorrow, we're ready and the only thing we regret is not being alive any longer.

[Jamie_UK]

You dont prepare for this ... u accept it.

Many are fortunate to say goodbye to there loved ones ... others die instantly ... how can u prepare for that?

Once you live ur life to the fullest ... if you die tomorrow .. u will not regret anything

yeah, but the whole "death" thing is a worry, will it hurt?

[Timetopay]

jamie im with ya but when ever i think of stuff like that i try to think of more important stuff like if someone changed my avatar...

[Jamie_UK]

Jamie, though I'm sure you don't want to hear it from me, all I can tell you is that from my research and my own experiences as a middle-aged guy now, at some point all of us contemplate dying and growing older and at some point all of us think about dying and never living...but if we do die tomorrow, we're ready and the only thing we regret is not being alive any longer.

OK willie, i guess its the method of death that worries me

[Jamie_UK]

jamie im with ya but when ever i think of stuff like that i try to think of more important stuff like if someone changed my avatar...

lol

[capitalist pig]

Quit worrying Jamie, it doesnt do any good. Take sharks advice and live for the time your here. You must have kids if your worried about seeing your grandkids, so enjoy the family you have and it will all work itself out in the end.

later

[BigBollocks]

Jamie I don't care how tough people act, EVERYONE is scared when they're certain it's their time. I knew a guy who was one of the more ruthless people out there, and when the reality sunk in minutes before his death even he was scared shitless. It's a fact of life, but when you KNOW that the world is just about to continue on without you it's scary. GL...

[Jamie_UK]

Quit worrying Jamie, it doesnt do any good. Take sharks advice and live for the time your here. You must have kids if your worried about seeing your grandkids, so enjoy the family you have and it will all work itself out in the end.

later

thats easy to say, but i do worry about it, phuck me in 35 years ish i will be dead

[Shark79]

yeah, but the whole "death" thing is a worry, will it hurt?

if ur laying in a hospital bedroom ... of cancer or a serious illness maybe ... but if you die instantly .. I guess there shouldn't be any pain at all

[Jamie_UK]

Jamie I don't care how tough people act, EVERYONE is scared when they're certain it's their time. I knew a guy who was one of the more ruthless people out there, and when the reality sunk in minutes before his death even he was scared shitless. It's a fact of life, but when you KNOW that the world is just about to continue on without you it's scary. GL...

are they all thick BB? do they not get the limitations of their being?

[capitalist pig]

thats easy to say, but i do worry about it, phuck me in 35 years ish i will be dead

Well then try looking at it this way, Cap Pig is 11 years older than me, so he is going to be dead in 25ish years.See ya got at least 10 good years on me already.

later

[Willie Bee]

OK willie, i guess its the method of death that worries me

I always try to think of Peter Sellers in Dr. Strangelove when I get ideas about gruesome deaths, how he made torture sound so matter-of-fact. Then I think of something else.

Best quote ever about it is from another movie, Shawshank Redemption: Get busy living or get busy dying.

[Jamie_UK]

I always try to think of Peter Sellers in Dr. Strangelove when I get ideas about gruesome deaths, how he made torture sound so matter-of-fact. Then I think of something else.

Best quote ever about it is from another movie, Shawhank Redemption: Get busy living or get busy dying.

your religious tho willie

[Jamie_UK]

Well then try looking at it this way, Cap Pig is 11 years older than me, so he is going to be dead in 25ish years.See ya got at least 10 good years on me already.

later

you should be twice as worried as me

[capitalist pig]

Jamie I don't care how tough people act, EVERYONE is scared when they're certain it's their time. I knew a guy who was one of the more ruthless people out there, and when the reality sunk in minutes before his death even he was scared shitless. It's a fact of life, but when you KNOW that the world is just about to continue on without you it's scary. GL...

Your right if they are certain they are going to die, ive seen grown men cry on their death beds. Best advice I can give anyone is to make your peace with God, Budda,or whatever you believe in now dont wait till your dying cause then its to late.

later

[Willie Bee]

your religious tho willie

You don't mind if I copy this url and send it to my mom so she thinks she did good raising a good boy, do you?

[Jamie_UK]

My plan is to drink as much as is humanly possible.

That way I don't stand much chance of being elderly , or needing others

[Shark79]

You don't mind if I copy this url and send it to my mom so she thinks she did good raising a good boy, do you?

[pavyracer]

My only concern for death is if there is sports gambling as you cross the river Styx to Hades.

[capitalist pig]

My only concern for death is if there is sports gambling as you cross the river Styx to Hades.

Yes, but 1st you gotta spend what seems like an eternity in the never ending rows of slot machines , going bing ding bing ding bing ding.

later

[Jamie_UK]

cat problem

dont you worry about the end game?

[chandler1981]

Jamie,
My family owns a funeral home and I work there full time. Every day I am meeting families who have lost loved ones. It is my job to "take care of the dead and their survivors". By this I mean, care for the deceased as if they are precious and as I would if it were my mother, father, child or whatever the situation might be. As for their survivors, we try to lessen the burden. It is really easy when someone dies from natural causes at 80. But it is difficult when somebody loses a child. It is hard for anybody to understand including myself. I try not to focus on death too much but just to focus on each day and make the most of it.

To get to your question, I am only 26. But, I think about dying alot. I try not to worry about it because I am a Christian. As christians, we are promised a much better life in heaven than here on earth. Don't get me wrong, I am scared to die. I hope I live to be 200 yrs old.

I get the feeling from talking to alot of older folks that they are prepared to die. I think you are correct that as we live we grow to accept this as a part of life. I think sitting thru 100's of funerals the messages have helped me to understand that part of God's plan is for us not to know. I can't imagine knowing that I was healthy but only had 2 weeks or whatever to live. Even knowing I had 30 years left would be wierd. The first 25 would be "normal" but the last 5 would be strange, but would probably be spent more appreciative for life.

[Jamie_UK]

To get to your question, I am only 26. But, I think about dying alot. I try not to worry about it because I am a Christian

FFS.

[tacomax]

in the blink of an eye, i will be 47,57 67, then dead at some stage

I wonder how many people started to blink like crazy when they read that?

[slacker00]

I'm 34, but I've thought about death as much as anyone.

I'm actually excited about death. I'm curious what's on the other side. I mean, it's kinda scary, not knowing, but it's also the ultimate curiosity because nobody knows. When my time comes, it comes, and there's not much anyone can do about it barring suicide, so it's pointless to think about it because there isn't much that can be done about it.

Scarier is life itself. Death seems simpler, cleaner, easier. Life is complicated and difficult.

Obviously, things like torture, pain, struggle, etc have a certain connotation to living things. But these are mortal concerns. In the big picture, these concepts are probably trivial.