He says he needs to check with his wife to see if he can take some money out of the savings account. I said Good God she does not even have a job and you’re the one working 40 hours per week and you need to ****ing check to see if it’s OK to take some money to go play cards. Then he proceeds to tell me that she’s mad at him because he has to go to dinner with some clients tonight and won’t be able to spend time together. If this is what married life is all about I doubt I will be getting married anytime soon.
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One of my friends is like this now, I shouldn't even refer to him as a friend because he doesn't leave his house if it isn't with his wife.Comment -
Thats just crazy. I could see if it was a joint checking account....used for mortgage or utilities.
Guess we know who wears the pants in that household.....
If I ever get married, I will never just blindly hand over my paycheck. No f!@#ing way.Comment -
Well, IMO a savings account is just that a savings account, not an account to fund gambling. I would imagine my wife would get mad if I gambled with our savings to.
Seems to me if he has to take money from their savings, he cant really afford to gamble anyways. He should have money specifically alloted for gambling, that has never made it to the savings account.JMO.
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I used to think most married guys become pussies... But I realize they were pussies from the start. It's all up to you how you handle the situation.Comment -
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rent'em for an hour is what I sayComment -
Number of people in this thread that got laid in the last 3 months
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my brother and his wife had an interesting way of splicing the lincolns.. they would each put 60 percent of their individual paychecks in a joint account and the rest in their own personal accounts. they paid the bills out of their joint account and spent their personal account money on whatever they wanted. their marriage lasted about ten years......Comment -
So true.
Just as it kills a lot of gamblers, money management also kills a lot of marriages. My better half has the reins on most of our daily/monthly banking chores; I manage the savings and retirement funds. Very rarely could I tell you exactly what's in our checking and the one savings account the Mrs handles, and she has little clue what's going on with our IRA's, 401k's, etc. We have occasional 'sit downs' to talk about it, and the system works quite well for us. And yes, I do often ask about what's going on with the liquid cash at hand for various 'unplanned' purchases and stuff. Hasn't got a thing to do with who wears the pants; just simple trust and communication.Comment -
If you want a marriage to work you listen to your wife. There is no way you can justify blowing money gambling if you have a family. Once in a while I'll place a bet but I always let my wife know about it and i always keep it small. If you have to gamble like a degenerate then you don't have to get married. Be stubborn or try and hide it and you'll end up divorced. Anybody with common sense knows gambling can be dangerous. I'm sure most of have learned the hard way.Comment -
I'm not married but one thing I'll never relinquish control of is my own f-ing money. Why would a guy who works and makes the money give control of it to his wife?
To me that's a good way to end up broke.Comment -
I don't know how old you are, I thought the same way when I was younger. Its not real life.Comment -
Let me make a bold statement. A lot of guys who get married end up having no sex at all after a few years. More than one of my buddies has been completely locked out of "the Box" so to speak for periods of 6 months or longer. When the relationship sparks stop flying sometimes a wife can become a roommate. They use sex as a weapon against the spouse. I'm sure this has or is happening to more than a few posters reading this, whether or not they are willing to admit it is another story.
I would say single guys get laid at a much larger rate than the married ones.
So if you need to relinquish a bank account to get your wife to bang you......your probably in for one miserable ride. :happyd_m:
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When I was married the second time I could not make a move without telling my wife, she was in charge at all times. I think most marriages are this way. In most marriages women wear the pants.Comment -
I couldn't understand it when I was living with the gal. I paid for all the utilities and half the house payment. All she had to do was pay the other half. Yet I get drilled about my gambling night after night when I'm a winning player. She would sit and watch those mindless TV shows and I would cap games. She looks over one time and see's me on the Georgia Southern university athletics page and I told her I have been a big Eagle fan my entire life and followed GSU athletics. She accused me of gambling on basketball. Who would have thunk she eventually moved out.Comment -
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My last serious girlfriend tried to tie me down like this...in fact a lot of girlfriends or marriages I think are like this...we used to get in stupid fights over me hanging w/my friends or having any life outside of her....even pretended to be pregnant to see how serious I was with her...I ended up letting her know how serious I was....by breaking up with her....screw this man, if you can't be yourself it's not worth it...I enjoy being single, and am reminded every weekend...I can do what ever I want...Comment -
I like beig controlled to a degree but after a while I had to leave her and it coasted me 35k but was worth it.
Women control most marriages period, we are afraid of women, I know I am that is why I use hookers now.Comment -
To me, it only means you picked the wrong girl.
Well, I do admit to occasionally wearing a skirt, satin blouse and matching pumps. But it's just a little game my wife and I like to play from time to time.Originally posted by jj
I do this all the time, let her know she's not going to be taking any long slow rides on the baloney pony if she doesn't straighten up and do what I tell her. I'm holding out on her right now, as a matter of fact, and I'm willing to bet that after two months she isn't going to last much longer. She eventually comes around and realizes who the real boss is...ooops! Here she comes down the hall right now, gotta' go.Originally posted by JBC77Comment -
I can't relate to any of this, but maybe I just have the ideal situation. I pay all the bills, gamble extremely high, and give my wife anything she asks for. The secret, I believe, is that the wife must feel secure that gambling will not hurt lifestyle at all. In our earlier days of marriage (married 10 years now), my gambling hurt us and she did get nervous. Once I started arbitrage instead of outright gambling, the money overcomes all anxiety and she is content when we travel to gambling joints worldwide.Comment
