Someone make me feel good. -$36,000
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No kids, so I made out on the plus side from every angleComment -
Why are divorces so expensive?
Because they are fukking worth it!Comment -
If I knew then, what I know now.....Comment -
$5k retainer, $320 per hour.
Gents, you would not believe the things that were said about--generalizations with no detail and actions that contradicted everything and anything that was said against me. And we ended with mediation--can't imagine how much this could've cost if kept on going on.Comment -
My cheating Wife got nothing besides child support for our son. 600 a month for 10 years. Her insurance covered both of us in our case.Comment -
$500. Beat money I've ever spent!Comment -
I used to know how much 2 shotgun shells cost back then, not sure now.Comment -
Cost me the house and child support. Judge was a woman and looked at me like I was the devil.
Funny how divorce courts side wth the female. I wasn't the one who even wanted the divorce. Ohh well so much happier now but went thru some really low timesComment -
Zero. No fault. Cost her $300.Comment -
outside out a dog, being a women is the best thing to be
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lol @ you guysComment -
Spot on. Such a joke. Ex said the most insane things you could imagine and eventually settled on me getting my daughter 50/50. Now that it's water under the bridge, she is giving me extra days with the little one. I have as much as 5/7 nights, which has been awesome.Comment -
I don't have any totals... cost me plenty of cash and more in other things in life - like time with my boys when they were young.
You are not married until you have children together
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It didn't. I was never stupid enough to give half my shit away. Current lady knows, it's never happening, she's OK with it. She will get rewarded for her loyalty, not betrayal.
Also no common law marriage in our state.Comment -
Today, the only states that recognize common law marriage are Alabama, Colorado, the District of Columbia, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas and Utah
Okay I googled it... this is news to me. I thought it was like a universal law in all statesComment -
none of yall heard of a prenup?Comment -
I think this is probably wrong, but I admit that I don't know for sure. But, what I do know is that I know very very few men that didn't fck around on their wife or girlfriend. Men are basically assholes when it comes to women, I have seen it my entire life. Are the women perfect, not by a long shot but I think you got this backwards. But, please if you have stats I am very capable of admitting when I am wrong.
Don't some states still have no fault. If you are in a no fault state and your wife is half decent about everything a divorce can be very reasonable. I think my divorce was less than $1000. However, I promised I would pay for the kids, and I gave her 12 checks every January for the coming year. That plus I did not abandon my kids, I saw them often and those 12 checks were not all I gave. At the time I had extra money and I took care of my kids the best I could.
Isn't no fault still available? I have no clue if it is or isn't.Comment -
Wanna know a secret, I told almost nobody this but it is absolutely true. Divorce should be a last resort, if you can't live together I get it but a real try should be made.
My secret. In my life I have been with a pretty decent number of women. I was only married once, lived with two different women and had multiple partners, something I am not proud of. But, as I have written on numerous occasions most of us are just not very nice when it comes to women. I regret my divorce, it was one of the huge mistakes I made in life. It was totally uncalled for, it was totally my fault, I lost a good woman. As it ends up she was the very best woman I was ever with. She was drop dead gorgeous, she was easy to get along with, she was a good mother and I was an asshole. I didn't treat her badly but after 12 years I just had to have more. It haunts me every day of my life.
And you wanna know the very worst part of this story, she remarried after about two years and married a real asshole. So we met one night and she started crying and crying and begged me to take her back. At the time I was just having too much fun. In fact, that very same day I had sex with three different women, again something I am not bragging about and believe me I hate myself for it. So naturally I said ask me for anything at all but don't ask me for that. Another reason to hate myself.
For me it was a huge error and brought on only because of my stupidity and because of sex. If you find yourself in this exact same situation, think long and hard before you make a mistake. If you absolutely cannot live together that is a totally different story.Comment -
Or failing in their mission to make you a better person whether you need to be, want to be or should be. Doesn't matter,they use all 3. I'd say most men try to be content as opposed to being miserable. Most divorces are initiated by women because sometimes a bad relationship is better than none.and most men don't take change well. Plus, their all crazy, just a matter of degree. They look for a perfect projects to make
better. They're all sisters. That's my EX-perience.
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Or failing in their mission to make you a better person whether you need to be, want to be or should be. Doesn't matter,they use all 3. I'd say most men try to be content as opposed to being miserable. Most divorces are initiated by women because sometimes a bad relationship is better than none.and most men don't take change well. Plus, their all crazy, just a matter of degree. They look for a perfect projects to make better. They're all sisters. That's my EX-perience.
OMG, B o a. That is so incredibly funny. Not funny ha ha but so strange. I have written many times about my late friend Joe. Maybe, you have read some maybe not, but he said those exact words...they are all crazy. I guess it just depends on your perspective, however when I seperated from my wife I had to agree with Joe. Almost every single woman I had contact with was a little crazy or a lot crazy. I just didn't know when I had it good.
My buddy joe must have been with hundreds of women in his life, I know that sounds like BS but believe me every month there were another two or three and that went on for decades. He used my appt all the time. He was simply unbelievable, they chased him for the most part. Now not all the time, he failed often but he tried with most. lol true story. He just could not get enough. He would chase them, they would chase him. But, he told them, every one of them I love my wife and I am not leaving her. True story, he told them that right from the beginning. Oh the stories I could tell you about Joe.
One day I will tell you guys/gals a story and every one of you will say that story is BS. I would say it is BS, but it is gospel. It is an amazing story and it should be made into a movie. lolComment -
If you are dumb enough to marry some dumb -- then you deserve whatever you getComment -
Some good posts in here.
DDD, it's a long story, but she started to develop a spending problem to mask a deeper problem that stemmed from before we met. I was one of two people who really knew her deal and that made her feel threatened because I started to be firm in that she get help. Looking back, I was the frog in boiling water with no real way of getting out/being happy--I'm pretty simple in that if my spouse is happy, I am happy.
I did not want divorce because I was terrified at the idea of my little one getting hurt/confused. Fortunately, she has done real good and that's taken a load off my mind.Comment -
words of wisdom from the dog boy.
Well mr dog boy most of us that do get married usually marry a "kunnt" and some of us don't get what we deserve because of the marriage but because we are assholes, there are good women. I had a good woman and in the end I got what I deserved but not because of my marriage--oh no. Only because I was an asshole, had to have it all and fcked up. I take 100% of the blame, I and many others, I am sure, have or had a good woman. They exist my friend.
My youngest is married to a sweet little girl, both of them were only average students in HS. Both of them turned it around in college and she graduated with one B, my son graduated with three B's. Highest honors for both and I am incredibly proud of them. However, that isn't what I want to tell you about. What I want to say is in all the years they have been married I have never, not once heard a mean or cruel word said or mentioned by either one of them. And I am close to my son, he tells me everything. If there is anything close to a perfect marriage they have it. Neither looks at another person, both live for each other. Both have been nominated as highly effective in their occupation.
It can work my friend, it may be rare but it happens.Comment -
Its cheaper tokeep her, kill her,never get married.Comment -
I will probably remarry--it's just the way I'm wired. Being single in your 30s is pretty nice though.Comment -
Up to 80% of divorces are initiated by women. If anyone does, they have all the incentive to, that's why it happens --- like anything in life. What other industry has such thing as "alimony" (legalized theft) or provides so little incentive for women to stick around in a society where not being a good woman, wife or mother is fairly normalized?
Certainly, it's not shamed anymore. I believe in marriage, the holy type, not the legal one. Why? There is not a single law that is pro-father or even when considering the man in the relationship. None. Without social shaming around, and with vestigial laws from 60+ years ago when women didn't make money in the marketplace, but now do, it's not wonder why the number is close to 80%. Generally speaking, you get the kids and free money, and you walk. How can you beat that when you are an irrational, selfish person without scruples? That's why it happens.
Marrying a woman in the West where all these insane laws exist already have, and will have even greater, impact on the declining fertility rates or quality of offspring. There's only one exception, and you're still rolling the dice given the debased culture --- closeknit religious communities. Men who don't believe in anything (or have a woman that does) should not even think of getting married by law at this point. It's quite honestly the only check on her.Comment -
Just because you were a dikk doesn't mean your ex wasn't a dumb --
Assholes usually attract eachother
Your kid will be divorced before age 40
Men are pathetic, women even worse
Just don't get married and have kids
Divorce and lack of 2 sane parents creates school shootersComment
