I have seen some posts you have made, where you are chastising yourself way too much.
Do not let your personal inadequacies about yourself hold you back a minute longer.
Whats a good way to start doing that ?
By far the best way is too realize that 98% of us are in the same boat mentally.
It does not matter how successful, good looking, or outgoing someone seems on the outside,
we are all structurally flawed creatures.
This is because , no matter how intricately and amazing the human mind is, it is also just as flawed as it is
impressive. Just realizing how true it is, that all of us are going through the same thing ,
because all the unanswered questions most of us have about life,
and how crazy life can be on our already complex psyche .....
Sorry to get all weird about it,
but the main thing is too not be so hard on yourself about the feelings you are having.
It seems that everyone who is questioning themselves truly feel like they are one ,
of only a handful of people who are going through the mental mindfukk in this crazy ass life.
This is only one aspect Parlayin, but its a important one.
Once you stop beating yourself up, and accept who you are ,
and realize all humans are in the same boat with you ....
that is a good way to start coming out of your shell.
Quit lookin at other people you see out and about and thinking
"wow I wish I was them, they have it made, not a care in the world"
and realize that they most likely question themselves
internally damn near the same way you do yourself.....
So with this in mind, next time you are out ,
try to get to know some of these people you see daily, and I believe you
will see they face most of the problems every day as you do ,
rather mentally or physically, and then you should start to accept who you are a bit more.
As far as with women. The same could be said again that I said above.
Even the most beautiful woman in the world hashad her heart broken ,
has been rejected , has personal demons she is fighting for one fukked up reason or another.
NO WOMAN IS UNAPPROACHABLE. Everyone gets turned down
, never let rejection scare you off at a opportunity,
even if its only a 3% likely to succeed chance with a woman....
cuz I can tell you one thing, if you do not try at all the odds are always going to be 0%......
isnt a 3% chance better then no chance at all ?
You only live once brotha,start putting yourself in better situations to succeed socially and see where it goes.
At the end of the day, respect who you are,
you seem like a nice humble fella, and thats a outstanding quality for someone to have.
I appreciate the words, Fidel. I see what you're saying here.
My perspective is not reality, and I have to understand that everyone has their issues and baggage.
It's very difficult to not let the negativity creep in, but I owe it to myself to not expect too much out of myself and give myself a chance.
It's more important that I accept myself for my own confidence and happiness rather than doing it to attract a woman.
I know my best years are wasting away, and I want to go out. But having a night out by myself is hard to get through. I just want to enjoy myself and take control of my social life, but I get in my own way so much.
Thanks Fidel.
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smokenjoke
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10-16-12
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#22564
Fck you at FlowZ??? Bring your midget ass on!!!
Sup Count
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PerfectGrape
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smokenjoke
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#22566
Originally posted by ParlayininHTown
I appreciate the words, Fidel. I see what you're saying here.
My perspective is not reality, and I have to understand that everyone has their issues and baggage.
It's very difficult to not let the negativity creep in, but I owe it to myself to not expect too much out of myself and give myself a chance.
It's more important that I accept myself for my own confidence and happiness rather than doing it to attract a woman.
I know my best years are wasting away, and I want to go out. But having a night out by myself is hard to get through. I just want to enjoy myself and take control of my social life, but I get in my own way so much.
Thanks Fidel.
You aight with me H!!! Couldn't have said it better then FlowZ!!! Just be yourself and get out there!!! Most people don't like going out by themselves!!! Ask a friend, family member like a cousin round your age, hit the sportsbar and just do you. Talk sports, ask the next person (patron, bartender) what's good to eat here or what are you having, what's a good drink, etc…then take it from there!!! Do you my Dude!!! You might surprise yourself.
Get Bigg!!!
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smokenjoke
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PokinSmot
SBR MVP
08-21-10
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#22568
wazup wazzup
where u at Herbzzzzz....what u done to yourself ?
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PokinSmot
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Sunshine90
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12-06-12
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#22570
she ready
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Fidel_CashFlow
SBR Aristocracy
12-03-12
53970
#22571
6 foot 1 Smokey
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Fidel_CashFlow
SBR Aristocracy
12-03-12
53970
#22572
Originally posted by ParlayininHTown
I appreciate the words, Fidel. I see what you're saying here.
My perspective is not reality, and I have to understand that everyone has their issues and baggage.
It's very difficult to not let the negativity creep in, but I owe it to myself to not expect too much out of myself and give myself a chance.
It's more important that I accept myself for my own confidence and happiness rather than doing it to attract a woman.
I know my best years are wasting away, and I want to go out. But having a night out by myself is hard to get through. I just want to enjoy myself and take control of my social life, but I get in my own way so much.
Thanks Fidel.
No problem H-Town
baby steps yo. Small successes will gradually build confidence.
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Fidel_CashFlow
SBR Aristocracy
12-03-12
53970
#22573
Originally posted by JMon
count..flowster
Baseball season has arrived buddy
If you are using the same browser and using the youtube tab like you always have been ...
I cant imagine whats stopping them from embedding correctly? I know you like to post your tunes,
so hopefully it gets figured out quickly. You can always do it the old fashion link way if nothing else works out.
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Fidel_CashFlow
SBR Aristocracy
12-03-12
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#22574
Originally posted by smokenjoke
Fck you at FlowZ!!!
u best be careful Smokey, the next time you sit down to pee
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Fidel_CashFlow
SBR Aristocracy
12-03-12
53970
#22575
got the crib to myself = volume level all the way up