OT: A question for the men

[Robyn]

Shamsy, I think that you have a secret crush on Swede.

[MJFtheGenius]

open up a zoo

[BadNina]

Would you be my lion and tiger keeper?

[MJFtheGenius]

No I hate zoos

[ShamsWoof10]

Shamsy, I think that you have a secret crush on Swede.

Yeah.. uh huh... and Magic has a secret crush on "A.I.D.S."

[BadNina]

There is that slight possibility that he is waiting for you to ask him to go but I don't think so... I think he is preparing you for the fact that he might not be back.... at least for a long time..

See, he has mentioned me traveling with him before. But that was mainly in the Carribean, England, Italy, Australia, across the US...

[JBC77]

Bad Ninas post counts/views are up. Traffics rolling in boys. Someone throw this girl a contest to manage and toss her a few bucks.

[SBR Lou]

See, he has mentioned me traveling with him before. But that was mainly in the Carribean, England, Italy, Australia, across the US...

I'm sure he tells that to every broad he bangs back home. Get real, this guy probably has a broad lined up in China waiting for him. You are his plaything in the States, and clearly he doesn't play with you very often..

[BadNina]

If that is the case, then he won't be the first man to be a lowdown piece of crap. And it wouldn't be the first time I placed my trust in someone undeserving.

[MJFtheGenius]

Crazyl you are one fuked up goofball.

[thegreatdiatchi]

Nina - Is this something that he needs an answer on quickly or do you have some time?

Regardless, it sounds like you need to think out each scenario. While I can see that you want to make him happy make sure you are satisfying numero uno first.

[Willie Bee]

Nina, any chance you could take a leave of absence for 6-12 weeks from your job? Sort of depends where you're going to be in China; there are some real sh¡tholes there like anywhere else. But if you two do decide to try life together abroad like that, it'd be nice if you could do it on a temporary basis to start with.

[BadNina]

Nina - Is this something that he needs an answer on quickly or do you have some time?

Regardless, it sounds like you need to think out each scenario. While I can see that you want to make him happy make sure you are satisfying numero uno first.

There's time. It isn't a done deal. He doesn't want to live there that long. His father has had some health problems this year too. He would prefer to stay in the SE part of the US.

[BadNina]

Nina, any chance you could take a leave of absence for 6-12 weeks from your job? Sort of depends where you're going to be in China; there are some real sh¡tholes there like anywhere else. But if you two do decide to try life together abroad like that, it'd be nice if you could do it on a temporary basis to start with.

I am an old fashion kind of girl. Before I go chasing panda bears in China, he has to become Mr. Nina in an official capacity...aka that for better for worse thing.

[MJFtheGenius]

China is a very large gay community.

[BadNina]

China is a very large gay community.

I suspected as much

[Thor4140]

If that is the case, then he won't be the first man to be a lowdown piece of crap. And it wouldn't be the first time I placed my trust in someone undeserving.

Im sorry Nina but something isn't right here and hopefully im wrong. Just for shits and giggles ask him if he would like for you to go with him. Why in the world hasn't he already? Watch his body language very closely. Hell he might need 18 months to raise some kid he had with someone in China. sorry Nina but i have seen some stunning shit in my life from people very close to me so i would cover every base. You would be surprised some of the things people hide. Just saying.

[BadNina]

Oh I know, Thor. I did learn a lesson from my ex aka The Donkey.

[Thor4140]

Oh I know, Thor. I did learn a lesson from my ex aka The Donkey.

When you get thru this i would love to hear your story about the Donkey as long as i don't throw up. Bet i can top it.

[ShamsWoof10]

I suspected as much

What would make you suspect that China has a large gay population..? I am asking because this is news to me and I wondered why it would be suspected...

from my ex aka The Donkey.

Damn you southerners are brutal with the name calling..

[robmpink]

As you might or might not know, Mr. Nina travels a LOT in his job. This year he has been overseeing a project in China which has required a rotation of 3 weeks in China, one week home, 3 weeks, etc. He got in Wednesday night from the latest stint over there. Then Friday he flew to Oklahoma and then to California yesterday. He should fly home tonight and then leaves again for China on Wednesday. And to make you sure you have all the pertinent facts, he and I live in different states, about 3 hours from each other.

So...Thursday night, out of nowhere, he asks me what would I say if he had to stay in China until the whole project was complete which is about 18 months.

How the heck am I suppose to answer that? We started seeing each other almost 2 years ago and then he got busy with work and I stopped hearing from him for about a year. Then last fall, he e-mailed me, asking how was I and all that. I responded cause I really like him. And things have been wonderful and all that since then except that trying to get together is a pain. And now 18 months in China maybe? Was I suppose to say "I've always wanted to go there."?

He said that he has received another job offer from an automotive company and will talk to them. That will put him closer to where I live now but I can tell he really enjoys his job even though the travel gets to him at times. And he is about to currently add 4 members to his staff to take up some of that travel. And lets face it....automotive industry v. gaming industry means he has more job security with gaming and gamblers. I can always count on you guys for that.

So, gents (and ladies cause I know you will have lots to say too) how was I suppose to answer that? I want to make sure to get this answer right. He brought it back up Saturday night so my guess is we will discuss it again before he leaves Wednesday.

I didn't read anyother replies, but here is mine. I take it he is only a boyfriend, not your husband. If so, I wouldn't wait around.

[katstale]

I would need to probe you very deeply before i could give a really good response. maybe Vegas?

[BadNina]

I would need to probe you very deeply before i could give a really good response. maybe Vegas?

Oh now that was smooth. And I am a sucker for a smooth talkin' man...

[SBR Lou]

Oh now that was smooth. And I am a sucker for a smooth talkin' man...

Then how come we haven't hit it off yet?

[BadNina]

What would make you suspect that China has a large gay population..? I am asking because this is news to me and I wondered why it would be suspected...



Damn you southerners are brutal with the name calling..

Genuis was making a funny and I responded in kind. Except for the security risk and the noticable lack of dogs and cats, it is a gorgeous country full of history and mystery.

As for The Donkey...it isn't my fault he is a walking, talking jackass. The short story with him is 3 weeks before our wedding, I discovered that while he claimed to have been married twice previously, he neglected to mention that he had failed to divorce either said wife.

[BadNina]

Then how come we haven't hit it off yet?

Actually we were making some progress but then you had to go and act all stupid.

[MJFtheGenius]

Shams speak for yourself, the chinese are born gay. take a look for yourself.

[MJFtheGenius]

Asian women is a different story. Besides it's alright for women to be gay.

[moneyline]

Nina, you are not as important to him as his job -- he stopped talking to you for a year and now he is leaving for another 18 months. He is not Mr. Nina. Or if he is, to you, he is also Mr. Janice and Mr. Susan, and Mr. all of the other women he hangs around with during these long stretches he decides you are not the flavor of the month (or the year, or the 18 months) ...

Show some self respect. You are not getting any younger. Find a man who actually wants to be with you and won't treat you as a toy he plays with, tires of, throws in the corner and then picks up whenever he is bored again.

Is this really not obvious/so complicated? As PT Barnum once said, "You can never go wrong underestimating the intelligence of the American woman."

(okay, maye not an exact quote, but it should have been

[BadNina]

Sorry Genuis. I will never accuse you of making a funny ever again. Please forgive me?

[BadNina]

Nina, you are not as important to him as his job -- he stopped talking to you for a year and now he is leaving for another 18 months. He is not Mr. Nina. Or if he is, to you, he is also Mr. Janice and Mr. Susan, and Mr. all of the other women he hangs around with during these long stretches he decides you are not the flavor of the month (or the year, or the 18 months) ...

Show some self respect. You are not getting any younger. Find a man who actually wants to be with you and won't treat you as a toy he plays with, tires of, throws in the corner and then picks up whenever he is bored again.

Is this really not obvious/so complicated? As PT Barnum once said, "You can never go wrong underestimating the intelligence of the American woman."

(okay, maye not an exact quote, but it should have been

Thank you for your insight as well. However, I did not say he is definitely going. He does not want to go there for that long of an extended stay.

[ShamsWoof10]

The short story with him is 3 weeks before our wedding, I discovered that while he claimed to have been married twice previously, he neglected to mention that he had failed to divorce either said wife.

ahhhh... oh... damn! I can see how you would feel that way about him.... and most men...

[MJFtheGenius]

Sorry Genuis. I will never accuse you of making a funny ever again. Please forgive me?

It's ok I forgive you. A little advice would be next time just make sure someone is joking.

[moneyline]

He already abandoned you for his job for a year, according to you. Now, he says he is considering going to China for 18 months and believe me, your input does not seem to be the deciding factor in his decision.

He seems to be very comfortable being apart from you for long periods of time. Not the stuff of Rhett and Scarlett, ya know?

(well, maybe in Alabama)

[BadNina]

ahhhh... oh... damn! I can see how you would feel that way about him.... and most men...

He ever walks in front of my SUV, I'm gonna swear it was brake failure.