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  • HAPPY BOY
    SBR Hall of Famer
    • 08-10-05
    • 7109

    #1
    Family skeletons revealed
    hey gang, just came from my dads house. i brought over a bottle of scotch. we started drinking smoking cigars and shooting the breeze. After a few more drinks my dad began sobbing uncontrollably. he informed me for the first time that he had aborted a child after I was born, he said his mom convinced him to do this as it might hamper his chances of leaving Cuba for the U.S. after Castro took over power. He sobbed like a baby asking God to forgive him for not defending this Innocent child. I was rocked by all this as I never knew about this incident. i comforted him and told him things happen for a reason. i tried my best to ease his pain. It was pretty sad to See my dad cry the way he did. I'm sure this was eating him inside for decades. Have anyone of you guys ever been hit with a fast ball u didn't See coming? Man this was one weird afternoon. It's amazing how when you think you know all about your family something like this can rock you out of the blue. I felt real bad for my dad.
  • robmpink
    SBR Posting Legend
    • 01-09-07
    • 13205

    #2
    Sorry to hear that. I'm sure it caught you off guard. The best thing to do (what you did) is to be understanding.
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    • louisvillekid
      SBR Hall of Famer
      • 08-14-07
      • 9263

      #3
      best wishes for you and your dad HB. its good you could be there for him and understanding of the situation for him.
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      • BigBollocks
        SBR MVP
        • 06-11-06
        • 2045

        #4
        I also wish the best for you and your Dad Happy Boy. It sounds like an understandably tough decision that still haunts him. There's part of me that thinks he shouldn't have told you this, as it puts a double burden on you in terms of both knowing about the event as well as worrying about your father's well being.

        I'm certain there's a lot of things about my family (particularly my Dad as well) that I'd be better off never knowing. Keep us posted on everything HB
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        • HAPPY BOY
          SBR Hall of Famer
          • 08-10-05
          • 7109

          #5
          hey thanks guys. Hopefully my brother's wife had a baby girl last night. So with his new grand daughter Im sure he's gonna feel a lot better today. He will be ok, just tough when your alone in the back yard and your old man starts crying and asking God for forgivness. Never want to do that again.
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          • RageWizard
            SBR MVP
            • 09-01-06
            • 3008

            #6
            Originally posted by HAPPY BOY
            hey thanks guys. Hopefully my brother's wife had a baby girl last night. So with his new grand daughter Im sure he's gonna feel a lot better today. He will be ok, just tough when your alone in the back yard and your old man starts crying and asking God for forgivness. Never want to do that again.
            Glad to hear about the new birth in the family.

            After my grandfather died about 15 years ago a lady contacted my mother and started spouting off about being her sister from New Jersy. Well it turns out Old Grandpa had been married and fathered 6 kids in New Jersey before he just bolted down to Florida and married my grandmother, making him a bigamist for the entire time I knew him. He whent on to father 4 more kids in Florida and now the entire family knows except Grandma who is now 92 years old and really doesn't need to know that the man she loved and cared about for over 45 years was actually married to another woman before and just left like a pussy.
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            • HAPPY BOY
              SBR Hall of Famer
              • 08-10-05
              • 7109

              #7
              Damn Rw thats a crazy story. man when you hear about stuff like that in your family for the first time it's like a bucket of ice water. Good choice on not telling the Grandma. What for 92, no need to upset her at this stage of life.
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              • RageWizard
                SBR MVP
                • 09-01-06
                • 3008

                #8
                Originally posted by HAPPY BOY
                Damn Rw thats a crazy story. man when you hear about stuff like that in your family for the first time it's like a bucket of ice water. Good choice on not telling the Grandma. What for 92, no need to upset her at this stage of life.
                I guess gramps had the last laff. He was able to pull it off his entire life. The man can keep a secret. Now I've got a load of half whatevers that I'm related to and we actually hang out together now that I live in East Pennsylvania. They are pretty cool people.
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                • BrentCrude
                  SBR MVP
                  • 11-16-05
                  • 4665

                  #9
                  I think the majority of posters have gone through similar events.

                  It's pretty sad when family secrets come out of left field to knock you off your feet and then seeing the suffering a loved one went through keeping the secret inside of him for so many years.You seem like a nice understanding guy and maybe you should take it as a compliment your dad confided in you and poured out his soul to you that way.Sometimes people do desperate things in desperate times where any decision made isn't one you are proud of or happy to do and it sounds like your parents were put in that position by a demon like Castro.Sometimes things are totally out of your control and you can't be held accountable for what you think was a bad deed that you have done.There is a movie about a Latin Marumba band''bad on Latin-Cuban terms''that was out a few years back that really intrigued me and gave me an insight to how desperate a person can get to make it out of Cuba.It takes so much arranging,deceiving people,sacrificing family ties,allienating yourself from family,going along with the program when you feel ashamed to be subservient.etc.etc.

                  I give the people who turn 57 Chevy's into motor boats a lot of credit for taking to the ocean to break away from tyrany.
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                  • Red_Sux
                    SBR MVP
                    • 06-25-07
                    • 1262

                    #10
                    yeah, that is though. it is better to let it out.
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