Do you tell your wife/GF exactly how much you lose when things go DEFCON 5?

[SBR_John]

A little while back I was going through my Pinny account and my girl was there and asked about it so I showed her. Big mistake. Among other losers I had lost $2k on the USC -20.5 vs Arizona game(fvckers - that gm still burns my arse). Now suddenly I have a gambling problem in her eyes. And often reminded too!

Do you guys share your big losers, the ky jelly ones or keep that a bit grey?

I would defintely recommend you not share those big losers.

[SBR Lou]

There's no upside to doing it. They talk a lot, and it also provides them ammunition when things aren't going so well between you.

[shady610]

I dont advertise amounts i win or lose, but i dont hide the fact that i love to gamble.

[Destroyer]

I don't tell her nothing. The less she knows, the better I'm off. Women are biologically programmed to always remember a man's shortcoming and they will use it against you each and every time. Women can be really cruel and manipulative.

[DrunkenLullaby]

I think it's far more important to keep the big winning days under wraps than the big losing days. Much easier to maintain a household budget that way.

[Thremp]

I only share the losers.

[Louisvillekid1]

She can tell if i bet by the way im watching the game. When i win there is no complaints, when i lose ; well you know the rest.

[Bullajami]

Once.

[robzilla]

2K is considered alot by some and not much by others. Maybe it just seems like too much to her. maybe her parents were as cheap as mine.

[ChuteBoxe]

She knows I do it, and doesn't like it. So, I really don't go into details about it. It's just ammo for her in future arguements. She rarely knows when I'm on a gm, and never knows how much.

[thebigguy]

Loose Lips Sink Ships!

Keep the loses to yourself and when you win shout her dinner or lingerie then she just thinks you are generous!

[eyeball]

Never, They won't understans.. she knows I bet but not how much..Im never share wins or losses


Don,t do it its a NO WIN SITUATION

[idontlikerocks]

i think the family figures it out while i am swearing at the television......

[McBa1n]

It was the beginning of the end with my x-wife to be. I was winning at a nice clip, too - not only on sports, but on the felt playing cards. I don't regret doing it - but there's no way I would ever mention wins/losses financially again to anyone.

People won't ever understand any form of betting as hobby, profession or second income.

[SBR_John]

Yea I hear you.

Im kind of worried it will come up over the holidays. Plus ive lost a lot in the stock market and she helps me with the tax return so i got that crap to look forward to next month. I think Im getting tired of losing to be honest.

[rmcaj]

Lets all rob a bank and stop the losing!

[Arhimed]

The worst thing to do!

[Willie Bee]

I know this will shock the hell out of many, but there are very few things that I don't tell my wife. I don't tell her what she's getting for Christmas. I don't give her all of the details about the gal I might be eyeing and fantasizing. I did once, saying something like, "Wow! Look at the sh¡tter on that critter" or "That gal musta' gone back for seconds and thirds in the boob department," and she told me to keep that to myself, so I do. But otherwise, she knows the good and the bad. As incredulous as it may sound, honesty can work in a relationship.

[buztah]

Love my wife. Would never tell her. NEVER!

[Bullajami]

As incredulous as it may sound, honesty can work in a relationship.

I hear ya' Willie, but not saying something is not the same as being dishonest. I just don't bring it up. If she does, I say as little as possible, but I don't lie about it.

[Dark Horse]

I have a cool wife. She was a model, so she points out beautiful women to me. I learned, like Willie, that this doesn't mean I can join her in this.

[ShamsWoof10]

HAHAHAHA you guys are a riot... When I was with my last X I told her and she gave me more sh*t about weed but the gambling came up and I would recommand not tellin'.. As Crazy said there is very little up side to it... I also don't gamble much when I am dating..

Oddly enough they don't react the sameway when you lose in the market...

[RageWizard]

My wife knew 10 years ago that I started with $2,000, and she knows that the profits from the last 10 or so years is kept for next year. I have also been adding about $2,000 every year and this year the amount is $25,000 for investing. My weekly betsize is $2,500 and this year I have been getting killed, I'm down about 50 %, and she knows it. The other day she saw the actual amount and started whinning about being down about $12,500 for the year. Now she knew I was down about 50 units and that each unit is worth 1% of the bankroll, but she didn't put it together until she saw the actual amount on the computer screen. My advise is to notify your wife and/ or girlfriend at the begining of the year, but keep your emotions in check when you win or lose. Women pick up on the emotional part of the game. My wife is astonished at my ability to not let on about how much money is either coming or going on each sunday.

[SBR_John]

Good advice RageWiz.

This time of year you dont want them on the gambling thing. You know you try to tell them well lets get the inlaws a little less for xmas and the next think you know they are slipping in the ole oh, so you can lose some more on football?? grrr....

[Dark Horse]

Gamblers have to disassociate bet size from real world money. To us money is an abstraction. You can't expect women to make that leap. They translate losses into what they could have bought with it instead. Women don't think abstract (first). They feel first. There are exceptions, but for a ratio look no further than the World Series of poker.

Thank God for women. I only consider man superior because woman is by far the superior creation, so man must be superior in that he gets to enjoy her.

[DrunkenLullaby]

Oddly enough they don't react the sameway when you lose in the market...

That's because they, like most of the rest of the world, has fallen into the dupe that playing the market is somehow not gambling. Good work by Big Brother on that one.

[Shark79]

My wife is my bank ... and like at any bank you need to withdraw ... so yes ... she knows .. when a withdrawal is over $500 ... then something is up ..

[jjgold]

I brag about it, ladies then think your big time

At least around big gamblers=bigger status

[flyingillini]

I tell her all about my profits from my graded card business but she knows when I am losing bets I get quiet.

[the_orangekat]

A little while back I was going through my Pinny account and my girl was there and asked about it so I showed her. Big mistake. Among other losers I had lost $2k on the USC -20.5 vs Arizona game(fvckers - that gm still burns my arse). Now suddenly I have a gambling problem in her eyes. And often reminded too!

Do you guys share your big losers, the ky jelly ones or keep that a bit grey?

I would defintely recommend you not share those big losers.

John, same thing here. I used to brag to her about winnings but as soon as the shit hit the fan with the losses, all of a sudden I belong in GA.

[swede96]

I know this will shock the hell out of many, but there are very few things that I don't tell my wife. I don't tell her what she's getting for Christmas. I don't give her all of the details about the gal I might be eyeing and fantasizing. I did once, saying something like, "Wow! Look at the sh¡tter on that critter" or "That gal musta' gone back for seconds and thirds in the boob department," and she told me to keep that to myself, so I do. But otherwise, she knows the good and the bad. As incredulous as it may sound, honesty can work in a relationship.

From a woman's perspecitve: I'd be more pissed if my man lied to me. He can do what he wants with his money, but if it's from OUR checking account or the kid's college fund, there's going to be a problem.

That being said....some women ARE manipulative bitches and would never let a guy live it down. Luckily for me (and my man), I don't have the energy to manipulate him. He knows what pisses me off and he's decided life is a lot happier (and hotter) when I'm happy...so he stopped screwing up.

[MJFtheGenius]

From a woman's perspecitve: I'd be more pissed if my man lied to me. He can do what he wants with his money, but if it's from OUR checking account or the kid's college fund, there's going to be a problem.

That being said....some women ARE manipulative bitches and would never let a guy live it down. Luckily for me (and my man), I don't have the energy to manipulate him. He knows what pisses me off and he's decided life is a lot happier (and hotter) when I'm happy...so he stopped screwing up.

COUGH COUGH !!!!!! I wonder who that could be

[swede96]

Umm, "Genuis" did you not see the rest of my post?

I'm not the manipulating type. I'm mature enough to know that getting what you want out of a man by manipulating him still doesn't make him the man you want him to be. Trust me, I have plenty of amo to hold over my man's head, but I don't...why? Because I made the decision to forgive him and stay with him...and I want us to have a strong, healthy relationship.

[MoneySportsGuy]

Gamblers have to disassociate bet size from real world money. To us money is an abstraction. You can't expect women to make that leap. They translate losses into what they could have bought with it instead. Women don't think abstract (first). They feel first. There are exceptions, but for a ratio look no further than the World Series of poker.

Thank God for women. I only consider man superior because woman is by far the superior creation, so man must be superior in that he gets to enjoy her.

I agree with you DarkHorse. Its interesting as now I have recently had this gambling discussion two different times with two women interested in. It seems in my case, women I talk to about it, think all gamblers are addictive and its something that is uncontrollable.

You make a good point about the losses. She told me she didnt like it, and asked her why. To her, she said if I set X amount each week I can use that money to buy something with it and I phsycially have that, while if your setting X amount each week for bets, you don't have anything to actually show for it, especially when you lose. In my case I have always had good money management and I explained there is a limit I set. If I sit at poker table and lose $100 I might buy in for another $100 but that is my limit. I am not going to keep pullling out more $100s to get back a loss because that isnt the way to play. Same with making sports bets, I will set a side and if I lose 4 games in a row, I am not stupid to then bet 2 games that I am "so sure about" and double the bets. Thats retarded.

I guess everybody is unique and for me, its not a problem its something that I enjoy as I love everything about sports, debating it, describing it, sharing it, experiencing it, playing, watching, and betting. As long as your smart, and for me, I am fairly new in sports wagering I look as this as something I enjoy, that I can put in the effort and really learn as much as I can and eventually improve to become even more knowledgeable and that will translate to bigger and better things, but along the way, there will be roadblocks or little speed bumps and with advice, common sense, etc you can get by that.

[rugbybdyb]

I have had a few friends that have totally gone broke, bankrupt etc betting so I never go in for huge amounts, I do tell my wife everything because she can keep me in check, and I know for a fact that I would be out of control as evidenced by 14 hour poker sessions(I won but could have easily lost as well). I think that if they know ahead of time that you like to gamble and you just incorporate that into your part of the budget then you are fine, she can go get her hair and nails and all the other expensive things chicks like to do and you can get your $7 hair cut and bet the rest. I always tell her prior to kickoff, get her to yell for the team I bet on and then she has now become a part of the bet and I dont feel as bad if it looses. She would rather I just win money in beat the prick and things like that, but she does not bitch if I bet games here and there.