ladies, i would like to have your point of view

[framboise]

I already asked this question to a gentleman. Now, i would like to have the point of view from the opposite sex.

Ok, you ended the relationship with the one you loved. After a while, you and the one you loved, see each other again. You seem to develop some kind of friendly relationship.

Later, the one who ended the love relationship, find someone, a lover.
Knowing that the person you loved is no longer single, will it affect the friendly relationship you have with the one you loved? Will you keep seing the one you loved? or will you just totally forget about your old love?

[big joe 1212]

get this shit outta here!

[Teela]

Why would dating someone affect a friendship?

[cobalt king]

forget the bitch go to eharmony or adult friend finder or a bar. the best way to get over someone is get under someone else

[dtp]

lol

[obamaismyuncle]

[The Seer]

forget the bitch go to eharmony or adult friend finder or a bar. the best way to get over someone is get under someone else

I know this referee that got on adult friend finder and was banging horny housewives at least twice a week. Man, he had some stories. He was talking about going to trailer parks and having to run out the back door and shit. Hilarious. Everytime he had one of our games, I would ask him about it and he would tell me more stories.

[Masu485]

I know this referee that got on adult friend finder and was banging horny housewives at least twice a week. Man, he had some stories. He was talking about going to trailer parks and having to run out the back door and shit. Hilarious. Everytime he had one of our games, I would ask him about it and he would tell me more stories.

i waNT THAT LIFE!!!

[CarpeDime]

I know this referee that got on adult friend finder and was banging horny housewives at least twice a week. Man, he had some stories. He was talking about going to trailer parks and having to run out the back door and shit. Hilarious. Everytime he had one of our games, I would ask him about it and he would tell me more stories.

is this for real??

I WANT THAT LIFE TOO!!

[framboise]

Why would dating someone affect a friendship?

her love will get all her attention which is completely normal. I think when she will dates someone i will be all but history. what would be the reason(s) she would still want to see me?

[Teela]

It's obviously more than a friendship then. If it were just a friendship, it shouldn't matter.

If the two of you are just using each other to fill some emotional void, it's best to go your separate ways. It's like having the codependency of a relationship minus the physical intimacy. What's the point?

[pavyracer]

I love SBR. Guy asks for women's opinion and 1 gal and 9 dudes chime in.

[sickler]

From a sexual relationship to being just friends?

Not easy.

[Teela]

There's a great rule in dating that I adhere to: No take backs

[james4512]

your friendship is ruined. Girls are willing to give up friends/family for love. As time goes on the less and less you will see her

[Mudcat]

From a sexual relationship to being just friends?

Not easy.

Indeed, complications can arise.

My ex and I developed a friendship after the break-up - but there were signs at times that she may have been having trouble letting go. Even after a few years she still got a bit too emotional when I started dating someone. She would try to hide it from me but I knew.

I didn't know what to do. I seriously wanted her to consider just totally going our separate ways - which I would have hated because I like her so much - but I imagined her carrying around this inner pain and I didn't want that. But it's a hard topic to bring up - and I never did. Neither did she.

It's been over 10 years now and she is probably my best friend. I feel as sure as I can that she has now totally accepted that we are only friends period. When I date, she makes friendly remarks about how I can't let my girlfriend forbid me from remaining friends with her. She seems at peace with it. So I guess it is possible to come out the other side. Well who knows really?



If I was on the other side of that situation and there was an ex I truly couldn't let go of, I would just regretfully insist we go our separate ways. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. An unrequited torch like that would be too much baggage to haul around for me.

[StraitShooter]

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[sickler]

Indeed, complications can arise.

My ex and I developed a friendship after the break-up - but there were signs at times that she may have been having trouble letting go. Even after a few years she still got a bit too emotional when I started dating someone. She would try to hide it from me but I knew.

I didn't know what to do. I seriously wanted her to consider just totally going our separate ways - which I would have hated because I like her so much - but I imagined her carrying around this inner pain and I didn't want that. But it's a hard topic to bring up - and I never did. Neither did she.

It's been over 10 years now and she is probably my best friend. I feel as sure as I can that she has now totally accepted that we are only friends period. When I date, she makes friendly remarks about how I can't let my girlfriend forbid me from remaining friends with her. She seems at peace with it. So I guess it is possible to come out the other side. Well who knows really?



If I was on the other side of that situation and there was an ex I truly couldn't let go of, I would just regretfully insist we go our separate ways. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. An unrequited torch like that would be too much baggage to haul around for me.

Mudcat, it seems like she didn't hook up with someone else.

I learnt early that it's difficult to maintain the relationship without the sexual component. Girlfriend and I had broken up (we were both 20, I think). She had been seeing another guy for a couple months. She calls to talk and ends up picking me up in her car. We go for a long drive. I was having difficulties coping with certain things, she wanted to help. Problem was I associated her with sex. I used to have sex with her. She was wearing the same perfume that always turned me on. It was an awkward situation. She talked about her new boyfriend, how things were going good. She didn't pick me up to go somewhere for sex, she was just a caring person. She was so nice though, I screwed up that relationship by not fulfilling her emotional needs.

Some people have to try to maintain a friendly relationship because there might be children involved.

Guess it depends on the type of person you are. I'm not cut out for it.

[sickler]

There's a great rule in dating that I adhere to: No take backs

Teela, you heartbreaker!

[Bread]

Mudcat are you still hitting that on the side? And if not, why not???

[Teela]

Teela, you heartbreaker!

No way! If things didn't work out the first time, it's doubtful that the stars aligned, personalities changed, and all complications disappeared in order to make things work a second time around.

[Bread]

Tella? are you single again? If you ever want to come to Tampa area you can stay in our spare bedroom. Or our room.

Serious offer.

[Teela]

Seriously, when aren't I single?

[Bread]

Call me. Please.

[framboise]

I don't think she is using me to fill some emotional void. Yes, the last time she talked to me, she was not doing good. She lost her job and asked me for help. She knew she could count on me cause i was there for her last job application.

It happens she is talking to me just to tell me what's going on with her life.

On my side, i don't really talk to her. not because i don't want to.

She's now 21 years old, building her life.

Mabe i should focus less on her but it's hard not to because i care much about her.

[framboise]

From a sexual relationship to being just friends?

Not easy.

It wasn't a sexual relationship. We were together.

Now, we are friends.

Yes, it's not easy being just her friend.

[framboise]

your friendship is ruined. Girls are willing to give up friends/family for love. As time goes on the less and less you will see her

I know this will happen someday and that's what makes me sad. I don't want to lose touch with her.

[DwightShrute]

[sickler]

No way! If things didn't work out the first time, it's doubtful that the stars aligned, personalities changed, and all complications disappeared in order to make things work a second time around.

That's how you see it, but he's left out in the cold should he have second thoughts, no chance of reconciling.

Gonna start calling you the ice queen.

[sickler]

It wasn't a sexual relationship. We were together.

Now, we are friends.

Yes, it's not easy being just her friend.

You mentioned it being a "love relationship". I assumed sex was involved at some point. That would further complicate things.

[purecarnagge]

Indeed, complications can arise.

My ex and I developed a friendship after the break-up - but there were signs at times that she may have been having trouble letting go. Even after a few years she still got a bit too emotional when I started dating someone. She would try to hide it from me but I knew.

I didn't know what to do. I seriously wanted her to consider just totally going our separate ways - which I would have hated because I like her so much - but I imagined her carrying around this inner pain and I didn't want that. But it's a hard topic to bring up - and I never did. Neither did she.

It's been over 10 years now and she is probably my best friend. I feel as sure as I can that she has now totally accepted that we are only friends period. When I date, she makes friendly remarks about how I can't let my girlfriend forbid me from remaining friends with her. She seems at peace with it. So I guess it is possible to come out the other side. Well who knows really?



If I was on the other side of that situation and there was an ex I truly couldn't let go of, I would just regretfully insist we go our separate ways. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. An unrequited torch like that would be too much baggage to haul around for me.

There is a simply yet complicated way to test your theory...

you want to see if there is a can of worms in the can essentially... that have been hidden for all these years...

1. Get somewhat drunk where you can say I'm drunk and don't remember this... but you really do.
2. Go try and **** her. If you score you know where she stands.
3. If you crash and burn you were just drunk and she should forgive you...

[PingPong]

^^^ excellent advice lol

[Mudcat]

I confess I am quite confused about the nature of the framboise relationship. I thought there was a parallel between it and my situation which I described but at this point I have no idea.

[sickler]

I confess I am quite confused about the nature of the framboise relationship. I thought there was a parallel between it and my situation which I described but at this point I have no idea.

Prolly one of those "no sex before marriage" deals.

[framboise]

Indeed, complications can arise.

My ex and I developed a friendship after the break-up - but there were signs at times that she may have been having trouble letting go. Even after a few years she still got a bit too emotional when I started dating someone. She would try to hide it from me but I knew.

I didn't know what to do. I seriously wanted her to consider just totally going our separate ways - which I would have hated because I like her so much - but I imagined her carrying around this inner pain and I didn't want that. But it's a hard topic to bring up - and I never did. Neither did she.

It's been over 10 years now and she is probably my best friend. I feel as sure as I can that she has now totally accepted that we are only friends period. When I date, she makes friendly remarks about how I can't let my girlfriend forbid me from remaining friends with her. She seems at peace with it. So I guess it is possible to come out the other side. Well who knows really?



If I was on the other side of that situation and there was an ex I truly couldn't let go of, I would just regretfully insist we go our separate ways. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. An unrequited torch like that would be too much baggage to haul around for me.

If things have worked out with you and your friend, your friendship, it means that you trully loved and cared about her.

I look at it and it looks like that the fate of the person who has been rejected has her fate between the hands of his/her old love.