Originally on 10/29/2016:
Alrighty buddy, first off, it's been way too long.
Secondly, fukk AA and all of that BS. Can you imagine trying to cope your whole life without ONE drink? No thanks. I guarantee you that it is easier to moderate than to live in the top of that knife for the way of your existence.
I too have had my issues. When I get drunk, I get absolutely hammered. And I mean blackout drunk where I may remember half of my night at best. Now, that is clearly not good and my wife never likes to hear 'I am not really sure what happened last night, dear' after I have been out for the night, so....
I started to drink less. Seriously. I drink less. That's it. These are a few of the things that help:
- When I go out, I do not drink by myself before I leave the house.
- I drive my car more, which forces me to stick to one or two drinks.
- I go out on a full stomach.
- I no longer go out with two or three grand in my pocket (yes, this was very typical) and I leave all of my high limit cards at home. This keeps me from turning into the idiot in the bar that is bombed and buying everyone drinks.
- I have a real plan to get home.
- I try (note, try) to stay away from hard stuff while I am out. I have been drinking double Black Russians and Drambuie for years, so this is not easy.
I try to continue to think of my wife and her feelings while getting drunk. This keeps me from going too far a lot of the time.
It's still a work in progress man. I am going to Aruba in two weeks without her....and frankly it scares me a bit, but if I follow a lot of my rules it should be fine.
I would rather do these things than do 'ten steps' and be a donkey for the rest of my life. I cannot imagine the pressure every day and I would fall off the wagon....then I would feel like a loser in life instead of a winner. That could be very damaging psychologically.
Anyway, know that D2D loves you man. It will all work out.
D2D
Alrighty buddy, first off, it's been way too long.
Secondly, fukk AA and all of that BS. Can you imagine trying to cope your whole life without ONE drink? No thanks. I guarantee you that it is easier to moderate than to live in the top of that knife for the way of your existence.
I too have had my issues. When I get drunk, I get absolutely hammered. And I mean blackout drunk where I may remember half of my night at best. Now, that is clearly not good and my wife never likes to hear 'I am not really sure what happened last night, dear' after I have been out for the night, so....
I started to drink less. Seriously. I drink less. That's it. These are a few of the things that help:
- When I go out, I do not drink by myself before I leave the house.
- I drive my car more, which forces me to stick to one or two drinks.
- I go out on a full stomach.
- I no longer go out with two or three grand in my pocket (yes, this was very typical) and I leave all of my high limit cards at home. This keeps me from turning into the idiot in the bar that is bombed and buying everyone drinks.
- I have a real plan to get home.
- I try (note, try) to stay away from hard stuff while I am out. I have been drinking double Black Russians and Drambuie for years, so this is not easy.
I try to continue to think of my wife and her feelings while getting drunk. This keeps me from going too far a lot of the time.
It's still a work in progress man. I am going to Aruba in two weeks without her....and frankly it scares me a bit, but if I follow a lot of my rules it should be fine.
I would rather do these things than do 'ten steps' and be a donkey for the rest of my life. I cannot imagine the pressure every day and I would fall off the wagon....then I would feel like a loser in life instead of a winner. That could be very damaging psychologically.
Anyway, know that D2D loves you man. It will all work out.
D2D