Losing my dad for the holidays..

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  • borednaz
    SBR MVP
    • 08-28-10
    • 3809

    #1
    Losing my dad for the holidays..
    My dad has long since suffered from Vascular demensia. Which basically is a form of alzheimer's where his blood gets restricted in his viens thus cutting off the flow to his brain. I've slowly watch him progress in this and it's been hell.

    They say the holidays are a time when lots of people tend to leave us. This has been my holiday with a loss of my grandma in a carwreck (she was dying of spinal cancer anyways so I guess this was mericiful?) and now my father. He is progressing faster and faster. You see my dad wakes up everyday asking two things.

    "Son where is my Harley I want to go for a ride" and "Has my mom called yet, we're supposed to go to lunch today". And each day like I get to freshly reopen those wounds for him with the news his mom is dead plus his Harley is gone. His Fiance heard he was going to progress with Dementia so she promptly cleaned out thier bank accounts (He was the only one contributing to them), ran his credit to the ground, and so kindly took the only worldy possesion he had left that was paid for and sold it.*(The Harley he saved for his whole life)

    Of course she skipped town leaving a depressed and deminishing 50 yr old man to the NY winter streets homeless until I found him. I give you this long winded back story because before he dies I want to do one thing, I want to give this man his Harley back. I'm going to try and do the impossible again and run $50 to a harley. I did $25 to 4k (Maybe once in a lifetime) and I just ran $50 to 300. It was more but I lost on the colts.

    I'm writing this not for sympathy or condolences, but because I want your support. I want open discussion in here about people's picks without put downs for the remainder of the season. My dad as a retired military man taught me to never ask for hand outs, to always do whats required of me, and to never leave a man down,hungry, or behind. I will be making my own picks off my own decisions so I won't be holding any posters responcible for my actions.

    I just find it to disconcerning reading all the threads with picks that later turn into verbal fights with internet ghosts. Well thank you for your time, hope to hear from you guys.
  • brahmabull117
    SBR Hall of Famer
    • 11-08-10
    • 8622

    #2
    honest to god man, you are not gonna be able to win that sort of money unless you start out with about $3-4,000 at least

    after that point, just play very smart, parlay your good spread picks with sure Money Lines and slowly build up your bankroll


    the odds are definately stacked against you, however I wish you and your father the absolute best luck
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    • Dr.Money
      Restricted User
      • 04-01-10
      • 155

      #3
      Prayers and thoughts for your pops man. I wish him a painless exit from this world we live in.

      As far as buying the bike goes:

      think about the long term: buying a harley vs. cost of funeral and planning.
      Not to be cold, sincere I am in my thinking....I just dont see the point right now in buying someone who is not getting better a gift they will not remember.....

      my wife's grandmother just passed away from a slew of things and dementia was one of em. It was tough watching her in the latter months of her life, you would walk in the room and she was aware that you were someone, but she didn't know you from joe. It progressively got worse, and at the hospital she was talking to things on the wall, her hand, and there was no one in the room with her....we'd hear her from the family waiting room.....its a hard thing to deal with especially seeing that in your case, its your actual father.....I had a hard time dealing with it, and it was my wifes grandmother....

      I know it's not easy man, but the best thing you can do at this stage is prepare for the inevitable and that means financially securing your position, not spending now. I think the average cost of a funeral in the United States is somewhere in the $7500-$15000 range......thats a good chunk of change....

      think about it.
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      • Maxlock
        Restricted User
        • 11-09-10
        • 397

        #4
        Check out my picks: maxlock. I've been hitting about 67% on the year. Bol to you and pops.
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        • ebbearsfb1
          SBR Posting Legend
          • 12-07-08
          • 18815

          #5
          sorry to hear about your family borednaz... very sorry for that... wish you the best of luck on your journey... check the college hoops forum wizardofbeantown, james14542 gatorbcs are all very good

          follow guys like that ... clearly theres some people in here who are insenstive to other people and just don't understand
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          • AribaAriba
            SBR MVP
            • 04-03-09
            • 2922

            #6
            put your entire life savings plan on the eagles on SNF and u'll get ur dad something special, I GUARANTEE u that
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            • borednaz
              SBR MVP
              • 08-28-10
              • 3809

              #7
              I like my family , I like my savings account, and I keep my gambling in control. I never load more than I can afford to lose. Someone asked above "What would you father think?" Well if he knew I risked everything he'd be dissappointed in me. However if I used my mind risked very little and because of research with a little hard work won something big he'd be proud.

              Sorry that is not directed at the statement of the eagles winning or not . I think they should because I'm a square for certain teams. However I couldn't focus on the play because all my mind saw was "risk everything". BOL on your plays sir..
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              • dimon
                SBR MVP
                • 08-14-09
                • 1159

                #8
                100% support man, do what you think is right, don't ask anyone...my support be with you, even I never saw you, but want to just say that you got my support
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                • FindTheLock
                  SBR Hall of Famer
                  • 02-27-10
                  • 7194

                  #9
                  Well I can't blame you for trying to win some money on the colts. That game really ended in unbelievable fashion. As far as gambling for a Harley goes, well my friend I hope you win one for your old man. If there is one last wish of a dying man he deserves to have it granted regardless of his mental and physical disablities. I wish you the best of luck, and Don't listen to anyone else, you do what you think is the best for your dad. GL man. Follow the sports betting professor NBA. he has been on fire lately. Fade lang too. try to hit a parlay or something crazy maybe? I don't know, it is hard to turn 50 bucks into 50 grand! I hope your dad get's his Harley for christmas.
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                  • jas19illini
                    SBR Wise Guy
                    • 10-27-10
                    • 682

                    #10
                    Some people just cant seem to escape their own ego. Dont let it bother you borednaz. Keep this thread on topic and ignore the useless hate. Addressing it only fuels the fire.
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                    • borednaz
                      SBR MVP
                      • 08-28-10
                      • 3809

                      #11
                      Your right Jas19illini, thank you all for the kind words and sound advice. The thread should stay on topic. But one last thing I never said I wanted a new harley, my dad sadly saved up and bought a used bike I don't even know the name of it I'm not a motorcycle guy.

                      All I know is if I bought anything it would be used in the 5-9k max range. Won't care about the mileage etc as I mean I have to face facts he won't be able to ride it safely much longer. So it will be a buy it and keep it as a memory sort of thing (I know big waste, but for me the sentimental value is worth it).
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                      • collecting_pips
                        SBR Rookie
                        • 12-05-10
                        • 7

                        #12
                        I just want to say good luck. I lost my dad almost 3 years ago when I was 23. Do whatever makes you feel good and make the most of your time with him.
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                        • Prey
                          SBR Sharp
                          • 02-10-10
                          • 457

                          #13
                          get a job or rob a bank, this shit wont work
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                          • Fleeben
                            SBR Wise Guy
                            • 12-08-09
                            • 601

                            #14
                            I'm on a $25 to $1k streak right now, seeing how high I can go. GOOD VIBES MAN you can do it.
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                            • ebbearsfb1
                              SBR Posting Legend
                              • 12-07-08
                              • 18815

                              #15
                              if your gonna say something negative just get out of the thread.... good luck man.. you can do it!!! good karma in here
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                              • tad0matic
                                SBR Wise Guy
                                • 10-09-10
                                • 621

                                #16
                                Good Luck in this, but keep in mind that if it doesn't pan out alot of the larger Harley dealerships now offer a rental opportunity. If nothing else you can both go on a ride together, that memory would be worth more than a bike sitting in a garage.
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                                • zoso11871
                                  SBR Sharp
                                  • 01-04-10
                                  • 452

                                  #17
                                  Good luck man.
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                                  • 847jhop10
                                    SBR Hustler
                                    • 10-04-10
                                    • 99

                                    #18
                                    Hey man im glad i saw this thread cause i wanna help u out a lil. Today I have a very confident play on western kentucky -6 in college bball. The line continues to rise so get it quick.
                                    Its definately my pick of the week..... Enjoy
                                    Bol man
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                                    • borednaz
                                      SBR MVP
                                      • 08-28-10
                                      • 3809

                                      #19
                                      tadomatic, that's about the smartest thing I've heard in a long time. The funeral planning was also good but I never considered the rental idea. Maybe grab two for a weekend. Thank you I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
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                                      • 847jhop10
                                        SBR Hustler
                                        • 10-04-10
                                        • 99

                                        #20
                                        hope u took western kentucky as I did and cashed bigggg
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                                        • borednaz
                                          SBR MVP
                                          • 08-28-10
                                          • 3809

                                          #21
                                          Actually I did do a small play 25 bucks. It did cash so ty.
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                                          • 847jhop10
                                            SBR Hustler
                                            • 10-04-10
                                            • 99

                                            #22
                                            ok another play tonite is Giants mL -230. I know its high but I can guarantee the giants win although they may not cover the spread. I made a big play on the moneyline and a small one on the spread at -4. BOL tonite Borednaz
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                                            • ebbearsfb1
                                              SBR Posting Legend
                                              • 12-07-08
                                              • 18815

                                              #23
                                              Agreed can't see giants losing either
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                                              • RunEmHard
                                                SBR Hustler
                                                • 09-15-10
                                                • 51

                                                #24
                                                Prayers to you and your dad .
                                                I wish the best for the both of you and the rest of your family.
                                                And for the money hungry bitch that ran with the cash , I say every dog has it's day.
                                                And good luck on your picks , I hope you rack'em up!
                                                God Bless and Aloha!
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                                                • Hammer47
                                                  SBR Rookie
                                                  • 11-24-10
                                                  • 29

                                                  #25
                                                  Sorry to hear about your dad man.Lost my grandfather to alzheimers so know what you're going through.Good luck in your quest.
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                                                  • CappinTerp
                                                    SBR Hall of Famer
                                                    • 11-26-09
                                                    • 9650

                                                    #26
                                                    borednaz listen to me I have been there with my dad he had the same thing was in a nursing home for a few years it was hard. Anyway do not buy him the bike.!! You will be so very happy to give him it and then 2 hours later he will say I wish I had that bike.! You will be crushed. Iknow from experience with this affliction with your dad....God bless.
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                                                    • TR88
                                                      Restricted User
                                                      • 06-10-10
                                                      • 9364

                                                      #27
                                                      good luck to you and your family man!!!
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                                                      • pronk
                                                        Restricted User
                                                        • 11-22-08
                                                        • 6887

                                                        #28
                                                        Any luck catching that crazy bitch?
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                                                        • sapidoc
                                                          SBR MVP
                                                          • 03-25-10
                                                          • 1273

                                                          #29
                                                          I've only got one play tonight. Hope it helps you:



                                                          Good luck with your goal man.
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                                                          • Cicima6709
                                                            SBR MVP
                                                            • 09-12-10
                                                            • 1023

                                                            #30
                                                            good luck man. hope u do it...you deserve it
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                                                            • 847jhop10
                                                              SBR Hustler
                                                              • 10-04-10
                                                              • 99

                                                              #31
                                                              Hope u tailed me on the giants I hit huge tonite...... been hot lately will keep u updated with just my best picks of the week
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                                                              • PSABB
                                                                SBR High Roller
                                                                • 11-19-10
                                                                • 198

                                                                #32
                                                                Bored, I just saw this thread, and wanted to tell you that I am truly sorry to hear about your dad. It's hard to hear about this, but it's even harder because he's so young. And I'm sure it must be incredibly difficult for you.

                                                                I admire what you are trying to do, and will certainly be here to offer support and any advice I can. I truly hope you achieve your goal. But if not...the rental program sounds like a great backup plan...and it's the memories that count.

                                                                As a dad myself, I can comfortably say that I'm sure your dad is very proud of you. Not only for wanting to make one last dream come true...but for being the type of man that would want to.

                                                                Hang in there, bro.
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                                                                • JPeso
                                                                  SBR High Roller
                                                                  • 01-04-10
                                                                  • 229

                                                                  #33
                                                                  Sorry about your loss. Hop in my thread for some winners beginning Thursday.
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                                                                  • xxxvince
                                                                    SBR MVP
                                                                    • 12-17-07
                                                                    • 2567

                                                                    #34
                                                                    harley sounds nice and he needs u more now.. i am happy u are one responsible caring son.. kudos to u buddy
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