Pretty sure my girlfriend is going to break up with me later tonight

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

Mo is in a bad spot. Not sure I can come back from this one. I fuccked up really bad on Thursday night. Not really sure what to do.

I think I have an alcohol problem and I need to go to AA but what remains a fuccking priority is convincing her that I am worth giving one more chance. I can start figuring my life out after. Without her I don't really see a reason to get my life together and will probably keep drinking myself stupid.

I'm not a very serious guy on here most of the time but I've never been at such a loss as to what to do or say.

What the fuuck do I do?

[Eddy Munny]

Take the points or tease up.

[Bostongambler]

Drink more. It's always the answer.

[mngambler]

PM Coach, he has tons of recent experiences with women, I'm sure he can help!

[jjgold]

Mo make a fukkin bet

Forget about her

She is no good

[eidolon]

[MoneyLineDawg]

You gotta give us more details on what happened in the first place

Hard to give advice without the full stiry

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

I didn't cheat or anything like that.

I just showed up to her place drunk and it ended with her crying in the bathroom for a half hour and she's been distant ever since

[mpaschal34]

If she's a normal woman who has a decent life, she's never going to want you if all you are doing is living for her. Women want men who can stand on their own and be successful....not have to be babysat and taken care of.
Priority number 1....fix yourself. After that, let the chips fall on their own. Whatever's meant to be will happen.

if you don't fix yourself, your situation will always be broken.

[pilebuck13]

Mo sounds like you have a alcohol problem man...this is on you to make this determination, but if your talking the way you are in your post more then likely you have a problem. My advice is to forget the girl man get your shit together with your drinking and then focus on that. Don't make a women your whole motivation and reason to stop drinking if you have a problem. Cause what you end up with is your sobriety completely depending on your relationship with your girlfriend and not focused on your own health and wellbeing...this is a set up for failure if things get shitty with you and her again. Because ultimately you will just drown it in the bottle...case in point man get yourself right if you feel you need it and the rest will come good luck mo

[mpaschal34]

PM Coach, he has tons of recent experiences with women, I'm sure he can help!

Whatever advice he gives....do the exact opposite.

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

Mo make a fukkin bet

Forget about her

She is no good

Oh I'm still betting.


Baylor -4 1u
TexTech +9.5 1u
Clemson-4.5 1u
Stanford -5 2u
Auburn -4.5 2u

[Mac4Lyfe]

I think I have an alcohol problem and I need to go to AA but what remains a fuccking priority is convincing her that I am worth giving one more chance. I can start figuring my life out after. Without her I don't really see a reason to get my life together and will probably keep drinking myself stupid.

What the fuuck do I do?

Dude, you already know what the fukk to do but you are in serious denial. You are an alcoholic that is lying to himself and others. You need held but you won't get it because you want to make excuses for your problem. The first step is to admit that you have a problem, then take care of it by immediately entering AA. Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go to AA immediately.

This has nothing to do with your girlfriend. You will most definitely lose her, then lose friends, family and eventually your life. Seek help now. Do not rely on your girlfriend to motivate you. You must do this alone.

[Pick9]

Cant see the problem. Find new gf.

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

If she's a normal woman who has a decent life, she's never going to want you if all you are doing is living for her. Women want men who can stand on their own and be successful....not have to be babysat and taken care of.
Priority number 1....fix yourself. After that, let the chips fall on their own. Whatever's meant to be will happen.

if you don't fix yourself, your situation will always be broken.

I never need to be taken care of. I have my life together other than substance abuse. I have money. I have friends. I have good relationships with pretty much everyone in my life. it's just the substances.

[d2bets]

I didn't cheat or anything like that.

I just showed up to her place drunk and it ended with her crying in the bathroom for a half hour and she's been distant ever since

What exactly did you say?

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

Mo sounds like you have a alcohol problem man...this is on you to make this determination, but if your talking the way you are in your post more then likely you have a problem. My advice is to forget the girl man get your shit together with your drinking and then focus on that. Don't make a women your whole motivation and reason to stop drinking if you have a problem. Cause what you end up with is your sobriety completely depending on your relationship with your girlfriend and not focused on your own health and wellbeing...this is a set up for failure if things get shitty with you and her again. Because ultimately you will just drown it in the bottle...case in point man get yourself right if you feel you need it and the rest will come good luck mo

I appreciate the advice. The thing is that I am right in pretty much every other aspect of my life. I had a drug problem for he better part of my SBR tenure. I managed to kick it with her help.

My substance abuse issues are the only thing she has an issue with. I'm a different person when I drink. I'm aggressive. I say dumb shit. I'm not the person she fell in love with. I hate that I drink but I just sit around feeling sorry for myself and he only thing that makes me feel better is drinking or being with her. I'd prefer the latter.

[Slipknot26]

I never need to be taken care of. I have my life together other than substance abuse. I have money. I have friends. I have good relationships with pretty much everyone in my life. it's just the substances.

You have that all now. Key word , NOW
The longer you head down that one way street , You'll lose all the things you care about.
Good luck to you

[Seaweed]

Mo

Listen to me

I will win her back for you but you must do as i say

1. Fake cry when you are with her that you are disaapointed in yourself for disrespecting her the way you did. Tell her how she deserves the best and when you dont give her that always you feel like a failure.

2. Go on to say "I won't blame you if you never want to talk to me again" (continue fake crying)

3. That is an all in bluff and your future depends on her response.

4. If she is cold and leaves you there soaking in your tears without comfort then she is really heartless and done for you. If she comforts you and says she is willing to give you another go, proceed to 5.

5. Tell her, "you know what, knowing you can love me at my worst really proves how special you are to me"

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

What exactly did you say?

Didn't say anything. it involves sex.

Can't really get into it. I just took it too far I think.

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

Mo

Listen to me

I will win her back for you but you must do as i say

1. Fake cry when you are with her that you are disaapointed in yourself for disrespecting her the way you did. Tell her how she deserves the best and when you dont give her that always you feel like a failure.

2. Go on to say "I won't blame you if you never want to talk to me again" (continue fake crying)

3. That is an all in bluff and your future depends on her response.

4. If she is cold and leaves you there soaking in your tears without comfort then she is really heartless and done for you. If she comforts you and says she is willing to give you another go, proceed to 5.

5. Tell her, "you know what, knowing you can love me at my worst really proves how special you are to me"

Saer this legitimately good advice.

I can garuntee I will use #5

The problem is that I have had the "give me one last chance" speech a few times now. Always cuz of shit I do when I drink.

I might just be out of chances.

[MoMoneyMoVaughn]

You have that all now. Key word , NOW
The longer you head down that one way street , You'll lose all the things you care about.
Good luck to you

I don't think it's that bad. Maybe that is in denial. I don't think I am at risk of losing anything other than her. Unfortunately she is the most important thing to me right now.

I will never forgive myself if I lose this one.

[triplecrown333]

talk is cheap...you always have control of the outcome, its never too late..good luck bro...

[pilebuck13]

Mo you know what you need to do man you already said it. Refreshing to see honesty and real shit from people, even though clowns still chime in with jokes. Mo being a functioning alcoholic is still a alcoholic, alcohol abuse is a progressive disease things could only get worse. If she doesn't want you to drink or use drugs enough that it actually angers her she must honestly care about you and is probably a great girl...do the right thing and get her support man

[pavyracer]

Go Trump on her and see what happens. She may like you groping her pussy.

[jjgold]

Mo post some nudes man

it is over anyway

[Otters27]

Sorry to hear Mo. You will have to decide what you want in life. Then convince her of that. Good Luck

[boeing power]

Not if she can't find you Mo.

[Dirty Sanchez]

Oh I'm still betting.


Baylor -4 1u
TexTech +9.5 1u
Clemson-4.5 1u
Stanford -5 2u
Auburn -4.5 2u

It's obvious your priorities are in the wrong place. If she means that much to you instead of going to her with flowers and telling her how you feel you're worrying about betting Stop feeling sorry for yourself and go do what's right....if you're still sitting at your place looking at spreads it's obvious the girl means nothing or you're a fukking idiot.

[MadTiger]

Tell her that you appreciate that she rode along with you when you dealt with the drug situation, but that if she doesn't want to ride with you while fixing this, then you don't agree but you understand.

EDIT: And you don't have it as together as you say if the only time you are happy is if you are drinking or with her. That is not the description of a well-adjusted adult. Something else is going on.

[Iwinyourmoney]

Wow, Seaweed with some good advice.

Play the poor me card. Look weak. Girls love that shit. Ask her to help guide you. Make her feel like she's your rock in this hard time

[Slipknot26]

Same boat as you about 7 years ago
Lost the girl , got worse and i mean bottomed ass out and l
Finally agreed substances controlled me, so Got help .
I'm not saying this is you but it can be anyone
It's been 5+ years with no drinking and drugs
Did it suck ? Absolutely but worth it.
You get to choose, how it goes is up to you . Hope you make the right choice early on .

[stealthyburrito]

As good a time as any to ask about spitroasting Mo

[Dollars2Donuts]

Alrighty buddy, first off, it's been way too long.

Secondly, fukk AA and all of that BS. Can you imagine trying to cope your whole life without ONE drink? No thanks. I guarantee you that it is easier to moderate than to live in the top of that knife for the way of your existence.

I too have had my issues. When I get drunk, I get absolutely hammered. And I mean blackout drunk where I may remember half of my night at best. Now, that is clearly not good and my wife never likes to hear 'I am not really sure what happened last night, dear' after I have been out for the night, so....

I started to drink less. Seriously. I drink less. That's it. These are a few of the things that help:

- When I go out, I do not drink by myself before I leave the house.

- I drive my car more, which forces me to stick to one or two drinks.

- I go out on a full stomach.

- I no longer go out with two or three grand in my pocket (yes, this was very typical) and I leave all of my high limit cards at home. This keeps me from turning into the idiot in the bar that is bombed and buying everyone drinks.

- I have a real plan to get home.

- I try (note, try) to stay away from hard stuff while I am out. I have been drinking double Black Russians and Drambuie for years, so this is not easy.

I try to continue to think of my wife and her feelings while getting drunk. This keeps me from going too far a lot of the time.

It's still a work in progress man. I am going to Aruba in two weeks without her....and frankly it scares me a bit, but if I follow a lot of my rules it should be fine.

I would rather do these things than do 'ten steps' and be a donkey for the rest of my life. I cannot imagine the pressure every day and I would fall off the wagon....then I would feel like a loser in life instead of a winner. That could be very damaging psychologically.

Anyway, know that D2D loves you man. It will all work out.

D2D

[pilebuck13]

Sadly there are people NOT all people who try rules and such to limit alcohol consumption and just can't and end up drinking themselves to death but you getting help or not getting help is your decision to make no one else's after 7+ years of no alcohol it's not miserable one bit it just becomes a way of life to not drink. I feel it takes more will power strength and self worth to admit if you have a problem and quit then try and hang on to the bottle and tread water but to each his own