For all you married guys if u could go back in time would you have stayed single? I'm afraid of marriage. Gimme sum advice
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Probably not the best place to look for marriage/relationship advice...Comment -
I was nervous to get married. Three years later, I couldn't be happier. Best decision I ever made.Comment -
going on 5 years of marriage. Got 2 beautiful kids.
Its fine, as long as ur wife knows ur a gambler, (mine does). Some guys turn into little bitches after marriage and dont/cant never hang out. Dont be that guy, and ull be fine.Comment -
Best thing I ever did. Got to find the right gal, tho.Comment -
It's ok as long as you realize it just brings fake happiness. Most people find it hard to be alone, especially when older, so find a partner just to make life easier.Comment -
LLXC, what u say is true but I'm talking about those who are still marriedComment -
My parents celebrated their 40th anniversary last August. They are my main reason for never getting married. Ive never seen two more miserable fukin peopleComment -
14 years. Like most couples we have had our ups and downs but the vast majority of it I have been happy or at least content.
There is a saying that "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" but for every reason I can think of to have stayed single and can think of two which makes me realise that I did the best thing.Comment -
look dude find a woman oooh yeah and you find love. but dont forget son you dont have to f' in marry... big mistake... when you find the one that feels the same, you better tighten up... your kids wont worry and no one else mattersComment -
Get one who isnt a gold digger. A good percentage of marriages end in divorce and she can easily get half unless you have a prenuptial.Comment -
Been married 4 years. Sometimes it's great and I couldn't imagine being single, other times it's hard and a lot of work. It's all about finding that right person that you've got chemistry with and can stand being around even when things are bad.Comment -
no.
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Its worth it if you want to be married. If you don't want to get married, don't do it.
I first started dating my wife over 15 years ago. For years I told her I wasn't getting married. At one point I realized how bad she wanted to be married so I told her to leave me, I had no desire to be married. We did end up getting marred about 5 years after that when I was less against it.
It doesn't really matter. Live with someone too long and they still can take half of your shit.
I'm happy I did it. I'm glad I waited till I wanted to do it.
JamesComment -
Been officially married for less than a month....essentially been married though for almost 9 years. She knows I gamble, and has never minded. Just make sure you take care of your business first. She is a sports lover, and doesnt mind that I am obsessed with sports. She makes way more money than I do, and I don't make a bad living. So far so good.Comment -
Not married but my advice is don't do it.
The sanctity of marriage is an old-fashioned idea.Comment -
women marry men hoping they will change.
men marry women hoping the will not change.
women change men don't, that's why most marriages failComment -
Good stuff so far, seems like more yea's than no's.
To give u more info,I met my current girlfriend at a casino. She gambles too, loves blackjack, knows I gamble as well. Add to that she's a hot piece of ass and has a great personality. I kno I will propose soon but not in a hurry.Comment -
marriage is an old fashioned religious thing that is out dated. 2 people aren't meant to fuk only that person & spend that much time with only one person, its not healthyComment -
Been married for 17 years and have 2 great kids.
Without a doubt, getting married was the best decision I ever made.
My wife got a 6 digit inheritance a few years after we got married and even though she didn't have to, she just handed me the check to put in our joint account. Then a few years after that, I lost almost all of it daytrading (shorting internet stocks near the top of the market but not quite at the top).
She had every reason to be furious, but instead was incredibly supportive telling me everything will be OK.
I knew then she was the woman I was going to spend the rest of my life with and only then did we decide to start a family.
Now I have more money than I will ever need and she spends an absolute ton but since she was so great during the rough times, I don't mind it so much.
A couple tidbits of advice:
Make sure you move in and live together before getting married. If she objects, tell her you'll set a wedding date if she moves in as even living with her for as little as 30 days can be crucial in your decision to marry her or not.
Secondly (and FAR MORE IMPORTANT) do NOT have children until you know for certain she is the one. If you're the slightest bit unsure, then don't have children. As far as birth control, you need to put it on yourself as its quite common for a woman to get pregnant even against her husband's wishes since she is now married.
If you find the right one, you'll know. Good luck.Comment -
i will let u know in ten years if it happensComment -
I know a couple that is married and seem to be very happy. They also are not only ******* each other from what I hear.
For me I'm not religious at all. Not even close. So it wasn't about that for me.
I feel its wrong to say its not healthy. Its different for everyone. Some people shouldn't date someone for more then a week.
JamesComment -
YES but not too young...get it all out of you first.Comment -
Try to find someone in your social class or higher otherwise stuff tends to happen. I guess a better statement would be both partners should bring something to the table. Good luck!Comment -
Been with my girl for 12 years. Since junior year of college. It took me till july of last year to finally propose. Don't do it till the time is right. You will get questions all the time, " when you gonna put a ring on her finger" from family and friends. Go at your own pace. I will be getting married on 7-23-11, so wish me luck. Not really nervous though, after 12 years I truly feel she is the one and i'm making the right decision.Comment -
if you like not getting laid over 50% divorce just save the timeComment -
Been there once. Total disaster. Went there again. Couldn't be happier. I didn't change so it must be a question of finding the right person. If you are not feeling it then don't do it. If the both of you are crazy about each other not just plain crazy you just might live happily ever after.Comment -
women marry men hoping they will change.MarkDee, I don't know where you came up with this or if you found it somewhere but it neatly sums up the true reason why so many marriages end in divorce.men marry women hoping they will not change.
women change men don't, that's why most marriages fail
Impressive stuff.Comment -
My 1st marriage sucked ,it lasted 3 years.My 2nd marriage i found the right girl.She 's a true partner and my biggest fan
.I been with her for 10 years..Best move i ever made
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28 is awful young. Trust me....you don't have it all out of you.
Marrriage is an extremely difficult gig. That being said.....isn't everything worth doing difficult? Its like every other significant thing in one's life.....you get out of it pretty much whatever you're willing to put into it.
For me personally, I didn't take my marriage near seriously enough until after we had our daughter (9 years into our marriage). Once she came......everything kinda cleared up for me.
You don't really need to hear what people on here have to say. You already know the answer to your question. Go with what you really think in your heart.
Good luck.Comment
