Fell Off The Wagon

[HedgeHog]

Yes, it is pathetic and awful of me to think about.* 100% agree.* I think everyone in here, however,* has done something in their life that they were not proud of.* I need to know if this is my time to be awful, will it just hurt me worse.

Woe is me.* Get help instead of asking for pity.* Today it was just a grand--consider yourself lucky.

[INVEGA MAN]

Guys, he just wants someone to tell his problem to. Hang tough Harold, if this is the worse think you do in the next 30 years, you will be one hell of a husband. Yes, tell your wife. You don't want somone else telling her what you did.

[WileOut]

harold some people had heart attacks and strokes and lost their loved ones to bullets in Iraq this weekend. Put it in perspective. You lost 1000. Suck it up and move on. In the scope of life its no big deal.

I'm sorry for your loss, not trying to be scornful, just think about what others are suffering through and it will put it in perspective.

[SBR Lou]

Harold would it be too personal to ask if you've ever spoken to somebody or a group about your gambling habit? Whether or not you screw the book, this problem isn't going to go away. You've shared some personal details about your marriage with us, so if this is for real and you really don't want to break up your home, I'd seriously stop gambling entirely. Don't try to do both because you've proven you cannot handle it, and aren't in a comfortable position to give it a realistic go. If your wife has stood by you in the past, don't put her through this anymore, let this $1k be a final wakeup call.

[harold3]

Guys, he just wants someone to tell his problem to. Hang tough Harold, if this is the worse think you do in the next 30 years, you will be one hell of a husband. Yes, tell your wife. You don't want somone else telling her what you did.

Thanks for giving me a sounding board. We have a great marriage--so i know it will be ok---I just know its the one thing that scares the crap out of her that I will really screw up someday and bet the house or something.

[HedgeHog]

Worst thing you can do is enable this loser. Some people should never gamble. He is obviously one.

[harold3]

Harold would it be too personal to ask if you've ever spoken to somebody or a group about your gambling habit? Whether or not you screw the book, this problem isn't going to go away. You've shared some personal details about your marriage with us, so if this is for real and you really don't want to break up your home, I'd seriously stop gambling entirely. Don't try to do both because you've proven you cannot handle it, and aren't in a comfortable position to give it a realistic go. If your wife has stood by you in the past, don't put her through this anymore, let this $1k be a final wakeup call.

Yeah, I know. I thought I had finally turned the corner and could control things and have it back to small stakes on rare occasions. After many good years, I finally blew up.

I never went to a GA or anything like that. It was my young/single days that things went to hell. I now have a house and a wife and a real career, etc...fear of losing those things had been enough to keep me straight--i just dont know what happened to me yesterday.

[Poker_Beast]

You play, you must pay. Pay up, you think everyone that loses should be given a free ride? Suck it up and learn from your mistakes.

[twtb19]

No bank will call on Sunday. If the bank actualy called on Sunday it was most likely a machine. Books do not ask for credit card copy and ID unless you want to cash out which you won't. Harold, you are a bad story teller.

I am not saying this isn't a story because $1000 to be this stressed out about at 30 sounds rediculous, go to work for a week or two and pay the ****er off.

But is isn't the bank that calls, it is someone that works for the card company to moniter fraud and they are there 24/7 so that part isn't impossible. I was called on a Sunday depositing to a book making sure it wasn't fraud. I just told them it was me and they put it through.

[accuscoresucks]

how many of these posts and why??

mabye people will learn from this falling off the wagon story but probrably not..lol

[harold3]

I am not saying this isn't a story because $1000 to be this stressed out about at 30 sounds rediculous, go to work for a week or two and pay the ****er off.

But is isn't the bank that calls, it is someone that works for the card company to moniter fraud and they are there 24/7 so that part isn't impossible. I was called on a Sunday depositing to a book making sure it wasn't fraud. I just told them it was me and they put it through.

Well, 1k is a big deal to me--not compared to what i used to do, but we are stretched kinda thin at this point--and 1K may not seem like a lot to us, but to my wife who would hate to wager $5, it is a VERY big deal.

[Glenn Danzig]

I think someone has a PS3 for sale today that did not need. I forgot his name. He maybe willing to give it to you so you can use it at the pawn shop to get the cash and pay the credit card before your wife finds out. I can loan you the $1000 if you are that desperate. I made about $2000 today on soccer bets. I just want to make sure you get the help you need and stick to absitence from gambling.

[Panic]

Are you sure it wasnt more you lost? It seems you are very nervous right now over a dime.

[harold3]

I think someone has a PS3 for sale today that did not need. I forgot his name. He maybe willing to give it to you so you can use it at the pawn shop to get the cash and pay the credit card before your wife finds out. I can loan you the $1000 if you are that desperate. I made about $2000 today on soccer bets. I just want to make sure you get the help you need and stick to absitence from gambling.

Dude, that is really nice of you but I can't ask you to do that for me. I wouldn't be able to pay you back without my wife knowing anyway. I have 200bucks of my paycheck every 2 weeks into a checking account, and the rest goes directly into my wifes checking account. I went into my overdraft protection with those charges, but have money on a CC i can use to cover that.

[harold3]

Are you sure it wasnt more you lost? It seems you are very nervous right now over a dime.

Thankfully, yes, just 1K--Actually I think it's like $1,089--but when you haven't bet near that much in 5-6 years--it is a big deal.

[Mason]

Do not pander to this d-bag. If Harold really wanted help he'd be at a meeting right now. Maybe losing is the best thing to ever happen to Harold? How is he ever going to learn to stop gambling if he gets a free pass? Can't go on vacation? Boo-F'ing-Hoo. Pay up. Clearly did not use the wife's card but one of his own. Now go to the closet where she keeps your balls, dust them off and pay your bill buddy.

[goldengoat]

take this as a learning experience. whenever you get the urge to gamble again remember vividly how you fvcked yourself and your wife out of money

then start packing your lunch instead of eating out(bologna sandwich & water) as punishment for a couple months to save up the money and teach yourself there is consequence to your problem

lastly pay up and feel good about yourself because you owned up to your own mistake

[Dark Horse]

How can 1000 bucks be such a big deal? You're looking for an easy way out, and are definitely pissing up the wrong tree. If you would have won the money you would have kept it. You're toying with the same mentality as books that stiff players.

[Cannon]

Harold

Since I started posting my plays are 20-11-1 in NCAA baskets. Bet my games for 10 days at $100 a game and I will get it back for you. Tomorrow bet

Providence goes early for $100
Rhode Island for $100
Texas Am for $150
Pepperdine $100
Syracuse $100

lets get you money back.

[pat venditto]

fade those harold sharps dont give out free plays lol

[thezbar]

When to bet one dollar you are actually risking two dollars. The one you bet and lose plus the one you have to acquire to replace the one you lost. This to get back to square one. Plus the time and effort. Next time you have the urge to gambling with "case money" think about this.
I budget a set amount of my income towards my gambling activities. If I blow it I'm done. If I win I buy things or put it in a savings account. For example I've set aside five bills for March Madness.
My feeling is when I lose I just go out there and work harder to replace it.
Suck it up. Work harder and replace the loss. Be careful with the wife. Females and gambling is like oil and water in most situations. Do the right thing without endangering her trust in you. G.L.

[flyingillini]

What a punk. If you would of won everything would be great. Pay what you owe. I can't believe your even thinking about trying to get out of this. I feel sorry for your wife. She is married to a weasel.

[rjt721]

You get no sympathy here. You say "you're a good person who messed up." Your biggest mistake wasn't "falling off the wagon" and losing 1k but, rather, trying to get out of it by stiffing the book.

You took a shot and lost. You're every bit as pathetic as the books that scam players. Pay your tab and never return to this forum. Loser.

[rake922]

This looks like a joke.... 1000 bucks is freakin nothing

[Cannon]

Ask JJ if a $1000 is nothing,

[2Pac]

Chances are that the book you used has ****ed people over in the past, and chances are even better that the blackjack software is rigged.

Dispute the charge!

[HAPPY BOY]

Harold = JJ's Ghost. Hey coach no more new persona's. Make more vids and less ghost's Pal!

[harold3]

Harold = JJ's Ghost. Hey coach no more new persona's. Make more vids and less ghost's Pal!

I really wish i was joking or someone else on here--i just needed some people to talk to about this. I expected the bashers out there.

I'm not going to do it. I'm gonna tell the wife what happened, get a part time job if that is what she wants me to do, and not fool myself into thinking I can be a small timer again. I really do think that even if I did dispute the charge, with them having my signature and copies of the card, they would send it to a collection agency anyway. Regardles, I'm not risking it and just need to admit to myself that my old ways will still be there. Thanks for the people who gave real opinions, and for the bashers out there--next time you need advice in your life, try to remember how harsh you were on a guy having a rough weekend just looking for support.

[jjgold]

Harry back away for a while and don't worry most guys here are like you including me, most don't have the balls to admit it.

Good Luck Pal and hope to see you around posting.

[The HG]

I'm not going to do it. I'm gonna tell the wife what happened, get a part time job if that is what she wants me to do, and not fool myself into thinking I can be a small timer again.

This is the right think to do, and the best for you in the long run. Good luck.

[bookie]

I'm not going to do it. I'm gonna tell the wife what happened...

Good. That is the most important step. If you hide this you'll do it again, guaranteed.

Now you say that if she wants you to get a part time job you'll do it. I think that's putting a lot on her and kind of a little manipulative. You should have a plan to pay. If she has input you can change that plan, but kind of throwing yourself a her mercy like that is a drama queen move.

Also quit reading SBR and other such forums. If you're out you're out. Even if you get good advice about quitting drinking from us guys sitting here at the bar, look where you're getting it from.

I'd like to ask you what kind of work you do, and what your wife does.

[remmy358]

No bank will call on Sunday. If the bank actualy called on Sunday it was most likely a machine. Books do not ask for credit card copy and ID unless you want to cash out which you won't. Harold, you are a bad story teller.

this is not true. banks have fraud operations teams that work 24/7, 365

[harold3]

Good. That is the most important step. If you hide this you'll do it again, guaranteed.

Now you say that if she wants you to get a part time job you'll do it. I think that's putting a lot on her and kind of a little manipulative. You should have a plan to pay. If she has input you can change that plan, but kind of throwing yourself a her mercy like that is a drama queen move.

Also quit reading SBR and other such forums. If you're out you're out. Even if you get good advice about quitting drinking from us guys sitting here at the bar, look where you're getting it from.

I'd like to ask you what kind of work you do, and what your wife does.

Im in recruiting, and she teaches.

[SBR Lou]

Harold, one way or the other, you're getting back into gambling. Gamblers never stop after they screw up, gamblers stop after they ruin their marriage and have no one else to borrow or any more credit left to tap into. We both know you're going to gamble again, hopefully it's in a mature fashion and hope to see you posting here regularly. Any pics of the wife?

[harold3]

Harold, one way or the other, you're getting back into gambling. Gamblers never stop after they screw up, gamblers stop after they ruin their marriage and have no one else to borrow or any more credit left to tap into. We both know you're going to gamble again, hopefully it's in a mature fashion and hope to see you posting here regularly. Any pics of the wife?

Ya know, I always knew i would gamble again, but i wanted it to be the way it was when i first started. It was for fun and entertainment purposes only. Getting back into it recently i thought i was over it and my old "bad" habits wouldn't come back. They did. What i used to believe was cureable, i now know isn't. I really think i am ok with it this time. and no, sorry boys no pics!