guys, am i a fukkin idiot (this is regarding a chick)

[hoopster42]

guys i know i have a rep around here for being a pompous prick but trust me it's just a schtick, i'm nothing like that. im a dumbass who's not that smart and as i find myself approaching my mid-30s i realize that whatever little game i had w/chicks in my 20s is dwindling away along w/the hair on top of my head. i really do feel like crap about this chick and need some sense talked into me because i know most of you will think i'm a fukkin shmuck...............can you find it inside to put aside your dislike of me to help a fellow poster who really needs some fukkin advice??????

thanks guys


SHORT VERSION

ive been texting w/a 23 yr old chick from my summer class last yr, i am 33 but told her i was 29 then cause i knew she was young. weve been texting back and forth almost every day for 9 mos mostly talking sports and life and when ive mentioned twice about grabbing a drink she ignored them, and then a few months later breakfast she said yeah that might work then never got back to me, so a few months later i asked her to shoot hoops w/me cause she likes to play hoops, she said she just sprained her ankle real badly but would play if it wasnt sprained, she has flirted a few times clearly, when i confronted her about blowing me off she apologized and said that she has no clue what to do when it comes to dating and sux at it

is the chick continuing to respond to my texts cause she's somewhat interested or is she just too polite to ask me to stop texting her? we have been texting for 9 mos and almost every single day during that stretch, its 85% me initiating, 15% her, but when i initiate, she almost always responds and its w/in 15 mins so she's great about getting back to me

at this pt, if i have no chance to see her and eventually bang her, i have no intereste in keeping this "text relationship" goin

advice please, guys


LONG VERSION

so i took a class last summer at the local university, i was 10 yrs older than most of the students, i met a chick in the class who was a graduating senior, pretty cute, great , nice body overall, and just a cool chick, she was 22 at the time.............so the summer class ends and i ask for her email, we email from about august til nov, then somehow i get her number. she always returned my emails and seemed willing and eager to engage in conversation, but twice i asked her to grab a drink w/me and she ignored the 2 emails

then some time in nov she gave me her ph # for some reason, and then i started texting her. she loves sports. got to the pt we were texting each other like 5-6 times a day every day. i initiated most but she initiated maybe 15-20% of the texts. chick usually responds within 15 mins or so, rarely does it take longer than that. i'm thinkin she's diggin me so i ask her to meet for breakfast. she says that sounds like it could work and she'll let me know then the morning of no response and just pretty much blows it off. a few months later i figure since she likes hoops i'll ask her to meet up and shoot around then she says she's got a sprained ankle and would otherwise play but she can't move on the bad ankle

guys, we have been texting back and forth nearly every day for about 9 mos. i just wana chance to bang the chick because she's pretty cute and i guess it's a challenge. i finally got frustrated the other day and basically said that if she was never interested she shoulda come straight out and said it, that i would appreciate it more than being blown off at least 4 times (that i remember, any way)

the chick is only 23 now and i'm 33 but told her i am 29, she says she has no idea what she's doing when it comes to dating, but can sometimes imagine herself dating me and wondering where it could go. other times she has flirted w/me in text messages saying that "she's turned on" etc. i know she's really young compared to me but damn, she graduated college last yr and although she's not working yet she should be mature enough to date right? besides, i did not even ask her on a date, just to grab a drink, grab breakfast, play basketball

guys, if she was not interested in me whatsoever, why would she continue to respond to my texts in such a timely manner and engage me in convo? why would she not just say she's got a BF or that she only thinks of me as a friend. why flirt with me sometimes and other times take the time to explain why she has not seen me. she has even apologized on a few occasions for blowing me off!

i have always believed that actions are louder than words.......... am i completely wasting my time pursuing this chick or is she gona come around soon because she's just wanting to see how far i'll chase her? is she not telling me she has a BF or whatever because she is trying to save me for later?

i am addicted to texting the chick but have recently gone 4 days without texting her. then i texted her and she says "i thought about you today coz we did not talk about the NBA trades, etc"

why wouldn't she just ignore me if she's not interested?

wtf guys? please help me out here i need to ween myself off this chick, huh???

advice please, guys

[wtf]

my advice is to ignore her, totally

if she wants you, she will come to you

trust me this is the only way, you have made all the right moves

time to move on

[jjgold]

Hoopster I like you pal, solid poster, ect........

But your a fukkin mess right now, I think by now you would of known if she was interested. I think she just likes to texting, ect. Also I think your too old for her. Hoopster why even get involved with women?? They are fukkin headaches and eventually you will end up hurt and disappointed. I have not been laid in over 13 years but I have a clue about this stuff. Save a few bucks and once in a while get a blow job in an alley or go fuk some escort in the woods like I do.

Good Luck pal

[Bread]

She's only after you for your mind.

[jjgold]

She's only after you for your mind.

[hoopster42]

WTF, dude you make complete sense. if i ignore her totally itll probably put the mindfukk on her and she might start wanting me, but if not, i have not lost anything but just ignoring her totally and will in fact be helping myself, my fingers hurt from all the texting, i know deep down its time to move on but man ive gotten addicting to texting her at random hrs, i need to deal with it and move on, guess i have an addictive personality

Mr. Gold, i dont wana get involved in a relationship w/the chick, i just wana bang her, she is a hot little vietnamese-american w/a nice tan, nice , and athletic body, i think she'd be a great lay

Bread, cut me some slack bro. you're a very smart guy, can you please give me some serious advice?

[Bread]

Dood you're 10 years older than this chick. This should be a piece of cake. Spin it however you need to. The situation will dictate the circumstances and your actions.

Make this little hottie feel like a woman, and then keep her in your rolodex for some occasional bok choy lovins from time to time.

It's just that simple.

[wtf]

your ONLY chance is to ignore her

you will get the booty call unless your the elephant man

[hoopster42]

Dood you're 10 years older than this chick. This should be a piece of cake. Spin it however you need to. The situation will dictate the circumstances and your actions.

Make this little hottie feel like a woman, and then keep her in your rolodex for some occasional bok choy lovins from time to time.

It's just that simple.

Bread-man, how do i make the chick feel like a woman when i cannot even get her to meet up with me once in these 9 damn mos?

[Bread]

Offer her money to sleep with her. Half jokingly/half serious. Tell her that you really want to experience what she's working with. Tell her you're not being creepy, but this is what you want.

This will make her melt, guaranteed. I do this all the time btw.

[hoopster42]

your ONLY chance is to ignore her

you will get the booty call unless your the elephant man

the irony bro is that i used to get compliments on my looks fairly often (still do occasionally but not nearly as much as i did when i was younger esp in my early to mid-20s). i am 6'3 about 195 and still look pretty decent for a 33 yr old but nowhere near what i did 10 yrs ago. i pull chicks 35+ with relative ease probably just because theyre cougars but the 20-something babes are escaping me left and right these days

she did not question my age of 29 last yr but maybe she senses i am a bit older than that because my hair is starting to recede and ive got a bit of a bald spot brewing up top on my crown...........she did sit in the back of class and i sat in the front so she probably saw the back of my head losing hair and said "fukk this, i'm not touching that guy"

[hoopster42]

Offer her money to sleep with her. Half jokingly/half serious. Tell her that you really want to experience what she's working with. Tell her you're not being creepy, but this is what you want.

This will make her melt, guaranteed. I do this all the time btw.

dude, i told her early on that if she was a lesbian that i would get a sex change and become a female just for her

offering money to bang a chick is something i cannot see myself doing, plus the chick is pretty kiddish and immature it seems, i think she'll freak out

[Bread]

Older chicks are way easier to pull than young'uns. It will get harder and harder.

[hoopster42]

Older chicks are way easier to pull than young'uns. It will get harder and harder.

aint that the fukkin truth

[Junkyard Dog]

youve been texting for 9 months trying to get that pussy? that ship has sailed...

[hoopster42]

youve been texting for 9 months trying to get that pussy? that ship has sailed...

JD, do i get pts w/the chick for me sticking around so long or is there a better chance she's lost all respect for me?

not only have i not gotten the pussy for 9 mos, i havent even had a chance to see the chick since our class ended in the last wk of july last yr

we're goin on a yr that i havent even seen the fukkin girl and she lives maybe 20 mins away from me

[TheLock]

Hoopster, she's just keeping you around because women love to feel wanted but the fact is, most of them are always looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal).

If she liked you enough she would have made the time to see you LONG ago.

Don't waste your time with her. Plenty of other women out there.

[hoopster42]

Hoopster, she's just keeping you around because women love to feel wanted but the fact is, most of them are always looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal).

If she liked you enough she would have made the time to see you LONG ago.

Don't waste your time with her. Plenty of other women out there.

it does hurt my ego a bit but it is the truth. thanks for the honesty, i need to hear this.

[lakerboy]

Hey hoopster arent you married dude. The best thing for you to do is be happy with your wife man. Is this the reason your so interested in the McNair case casue you wanna be like him.

[hoopster42]

Hey hoopster arent you married dude. The best thing for you to do is be happy with your wife man. Is this the reason your so interested in the McNair case casue you wanna be like him.

goin thru serious marital problems the past yr or so.............have never cheated on a GF or the wife in my entire life but man i need some pussy right now.........havent gone this long w/out pussy since i was a 16 yr old virgin

[Wrigley]

Bread-man, how do i make the chick feel like a woman when i cannot even get her to meet up with me once in these 9 damn mos?

Ignore her and if she really likes you she will come back with legs spread wide open

[hoopster42]

Ignore her and if she really likes you she will come back with legs spread wide open

Wrig, it is no longer a 'lean' but a total lock that i will be ignoring the chick, and if she comes back w/legs spread i'm gona have my dick and hard and ready to penetrate that slot

but the little cocktease ho is gona have to work a bit for it...........hoopster is quite pissed at her behavior these past 9 mos

[hoopster42]

some more feedback please, maybe from some of the ladies as well?

thx

[Robyn]

First off, you started it all wrong with the lie about your age. Big no-no.

Secondly, women get completely irritated by guys who leave no intrigue...especially younger girls. Some girls are just a little nicer in the way they handle it. Some girls are even scared to piss the guy off and generate some kind of scary stalker situation.

My advice to you, do not text or email her and see how long it takes for her to send something to you. If she misses you or wonders why she hasn't heard from you, she will get in touch with you.

[KingRevolver]

Boy - this is a convoluted mess.

[Robyn]

Hoopster, she's just keeping you around because women love to feel wanted but the fact is, most of them are always looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal).

If she liked you enough she would have made the time to see you LONG ago.

Don't waste your time with her. Plenty of other women out there.

Also, to add to this....she may be interested in some other guy who is stringing her along and she is using your texts to make him jealous (to prove to HIM that she is wanted by other men).

[Robyn]

Wait, you are married??? Does she know this?

[hoopster42]

My advice to you, do not text or email her and see how long it takes for her to send something to you. If she misses you or wonders why she hasn't heard from you, she will get in touch with you.

Robyn, thanks so much for chiming in. my instincts say that when or if i hear from her, i should delete it. i should not respond to the first text. if she sends me a 2nd text, then i should consider what to do. if i do respond, i will wait a day or 2 instead of my normal 'within a few hrs' response time.

does this sound reasonable? will it possibly bring back some "intrigue" about me if i do this?

[hoopster42]

Wait, you are married??? Does she know this?

i hope you dont think i'm a piece o shit but no she does not know, at least i have not told her.........dont think we know any mutual ppl...... and my wife and i are seperated and in a total stalemate.......... the potential booty call is only 23 and all i want is a physical relationship and i can tell that she is not a commitment type right now any way, just wants to have fun, but then again so do i

i have not had sex in nearly a yr and i am dying without it............. i have never ever ever ever cheated in my life on a GF or my wife, but i need to at least kiss and touch this girl, just be kissed and touched myself, i am missing a woman's touch like crazy right now and feeling very sad without it............. this is one of the most trying times of my life

[Robyn]

Considering the fact that you are married, I suggest you deal with that whole mess first. Either reconcile or get a divorce. Then work on future prospects. Life is too short to spend any valuable time in a miserable relationship.

But if you are going the course of continuing the chase, if she texts you (especially with something gay like "Hey what's up?"), ignore it. If she texts you again, wait a while to respond. If she asks you what took so long for the response, you owe her no explanation other than you've been busy.

[Robyn]

i hope you dont think i'm a piece o shit but no she does not know, at least i have not told her.........dont think we know any mutual ppl...... and my wife and i are seperated and in a total stalemate.......... the potential booty call is only 23 and all i want is a physical relationship and i can tell that she is not a commitment type right now any way, just wants to have fun, but then again so do i

i have not had sex in nearly a yr and i am dying without it............. i have never ever ever ever cheated in my life on a GF or my wife, but i need to at least kiss and touch this girl, just be kissed and touched myself, i am missing a woman's touch like crazy right now and feeling very sad without it............. this is one of the most trying times of my life

If you really need sex that badly, go to a local bar. There are plenty of horny women there looking for a one night stand. Why invest so much time in something that isn't even the real deal? If you started dating her, chances are, you would have to invest a lot of money in dates before getting anywhere with her. Waste of time, in my opinion.

[hoopster42]

If you really need sex that badly, go to a local bar. There are plenty of horny women there looking for a one night stand. Why invest so much time in something that isn't even the real deal? If you started dating her, chances are, you would have to invest a lot of money in dates before getting anywhere with her. Waste of time, in my opinion.

i cant go hangin out at bars and clubs, unfortunately, because i am in law school and living off loans......... and when i do meet a chick at a bar, she is always interested in dating but not fukking right away

i hate that shit

[wtf]

fukin good advice from robyn and spot on

we should have like a permanent section on the site, robyn's corner

advice on love and releationships

[hoopster42]

one thing she told me that really pissed me off is that she dated a 30 yr old in the past 9 months which is during the same time that i was going after her.......... she gave him a chance but not me......... apparently he must have been hotter

[Flying Dutchman]

Late into this.

1) I think she may know more about you than you think. If she knows your married, big stop sign.
2) She may have a sense that you older than you say, another reason for her to be really careful.
3) If you just want to fvk, why spend all this time? Mixed signals, she can probably sense this.
4) Bar option (ala Robyn) is best for blue balls. Clear your head, MOVE ON, play more options.
5) Hoopy, face it, from her stand point, you're just another lying, cheating older prick. She may like you but bad signal flags are flying.