Am I having a mid life crisis at 34?

[Muller Rose]

I guess this isn't about you having a mid life crisis. It's reality. Like betting, you win some, you lose some. But one must get up and move forward.

[allabout the $$$]

This is the worst advice anyone can give. She will be very bitter if you call her and say that you miss her son and not her. She will prevent you from seeing the kid out of spite. Horrible advice. All you can do at this point is wait it out and maybe she calls you because the son wanted to see you and she needs help.

But, I would not hold my breath. Once you breakup with a girl, you breakup with her entire family. It is what it is. Which is why I highly recommend never get close to families, especially kids until you know she's the one. Until then, keep your distance so you don't create chaos, grief, sorrow, sore feelings when you're gone. It sounds like you still have feelings for her and you need to come to grips with that. If she's unstable and a liar, you need to let her go. The best way to forget about someone is to find someone else. I wouldn't get into another serious relationship right now. I would play the field, stick and sort until you find one that can put up with your shit. The more you date around, the more you won't put up with bullshit. If you only have one, you'll put with all kind of shit out of fear. You need to always be in a position of power.

we can agree to disagree here. its been about a year since they split up she should be over the situation. ive been in similar situations and imo he has nothing to lose by doing what i said in my original post.

some women are mature enough to realize that even though things didnt work between them that he is a good example for her son.

whatever you choose unde best of luck in this situation

[triplecrown333]

a good horse does not graze on old pasture, you are in your prime , time to move on bro..

[opie1988]

You're still young. I know it doesn't seem like this now...but this will just be a bump in the road. It's cliche, but time really does heal all wounds. Pretty soon...you'll barely remember how it was with this girl.

Everyone goes thru heartbreak. That's just part of life. Don't let this define you. You're better than that.

[ChuckyTheGoat]

Chuck, between you and me. She turned into a real bitch

unde, the boys are pulling for u. SOME good posts in here. I like the idea of a young colt (you) moving onto greener pastures.

As a guy that's been around the block a few times, I'll throw one bit of advice out there. Many more fillies out there. If u talk to DUDES that have played the field a bit...they'll tell u that AMERICAN women are way below par (like your handicap). For a variety of social reasons, American women feel like they have the upper hand. Foreign women, and Asian women in particular, are better. They'll appreciate u...and believe it or not, they LIKE to fu-ck.

[jjgold]

forget girls pal

Hey put a hammer to your teeth and get them all crooked like man and then nobody likes you

ISSUES OVER WITH WOMEN...I have not been laid in over 14 years and have no women ssues

[ChuckyTheGoat]

forget girls pal

Hey put a hammer to your teeth and get them all crooked like man and then nobody likes you

ISSUES OVER WITH WOMEN...I have not been laid in over 14 years and have no women ssues

Ignore this guy. Don't talk advice from a guy that's half a f\*g.

[Russian Rocket]

unde, the boys are pulling for u. SOME good posts in here. I like the idea of a young colt (you) moving onto greener pastures.

As a guy that's been around the block a few times, I'll throw one bit of advice out there. Many more fillies out there. If u talk to DUDES that have played the field a bit...they'll tell u that AMERICAN women are way below par (like your handicap). For a variety of social reasons, American women feel like they have the upper hand. Foreign women, and Asian women in particular, are better. They'll appreciate u...and believe it or not, they LIKE to fu-ck.

Sharp post from a sharp cat goat!

[unde0087]

Good stuff guys. Appreciate it, although it's not really about her but her son. I don't really care about her, it's just going from being around him everyday to I wake up one day and never get to see the guy.
I realize after time it will be less of an issue but for now it blows. I just want to be my old self again and after a full year it seems farther away then the first day. Very weird, never been in this spot before.

boys

[Mac4Lyfe]

we can agree to disagree here. its been about a year since they split up she should be over the situation. ive been in similar situations and imo he has nothing to lose by doing what i said in my original post.

some women are mature enough to realize that even though things didnt work between them that he is a good example for her son.

Are you sure you've been in similar situations? Because if you had, you should really know that it's time to move on. Nothing good will come out of this relationship. He must move on. He already said that she is unstable, so what makes you think she is mature? This is a toxic relationship that he needs to get over. Anytime spent with the kid means having to deal with his lying mother. Screw that. Time to move on. It's not his kid. If it was his goose would really be cooked and he would have hell to pay for the next 18 years. I understand he likes the kid but he comes with the mother. Move the hell on why you can. You need to run as far and fast from this lady before it blows up in your face. Go find someone else. The saying "more fish in the sea". So why hook a carp?

God always has a plan but if you can't read the signs and you can't discern when it's time to bail, then pain and suffering is on you. A grown man spending time with an exes son is creepy at best. Good luck when she accuses you of touching him inappropriately. Cut bait dude.

[jjgold]

It is called life

Move on not worth it

No idea how old kid is

American women are pure trash

[Snowball]

can't worry about women.. ever.

[BuckyOne]

Chuck, between you and me. She turned into a real bitch

It happens a lot - people can grow apart - a woman or a man can change - woman in particular have a maternal instinct to have a kid - be nice to the man - use them for that purpose - then they can turn into black widow spiders - don't need the man any more - they have what they want.

I am not saying women do it on purpose - their instincts change

[jjgold]

can't worry about women.. ever.

ruination of a man so best to stay away

Keep your life simple underhead

[Grits n' Gravy]

She already found new dick and you aren't going through mid life crisis. Either man up and move forward or start to piss sitting down because you are acting like a whiny bitch.

Someone needed to say that.

[JIBBBY]

forget girls pal

Hey put a hammer to your teeth and get them all crooked like man and then nobody likes you

ISSUES OVER WITH WOMEN...I have not been laid in over 14 years and have no women ssues

Lol.... JJ you're a funny dude.. Chicks are a pain in the ass most of the time... I still like them enough to keep trying..

[Ghenghis Kahn]

it's funny how you say you've in two 7 year relationships. 7 year itch might actually be true.

though it's a myth, you become a new person every 7 years...

[BuckyOne]

In this case, I think the woman was more or less jealous that her son was spending more time with the man of the family - that she had lost control - wanted control of her son back and blamed it all on her boy friend???

[survive]

Volunteer. Heck, you could teach kids how to golf who may never have the opportunity to do so

[jjgold]

34 is a child you're not in a midlife crisis pal

Pull together

[Ghenghis Kahn]

34 is a child you're not in a midlife crisis pal

Pull together

yup, things only get worse.

[montan]

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I saw your article by mistake - you`re winning like a girl.

[allabout the $$$]

Are you sure you've been in similar situations? Because if you had, you should really know that it's time to move on. Nothing good will come out of this relationship. He must move on. He already said that she is unstable, so what makes you think she is mature? This is a toxic relationship that he needs to get over. Anytime spent with the kid means having to deal with his lying mother. Screw that. Time to move on. It's not his kid. If it was his goose would really be cooked and he would have hell to pay for the next 18 years. I understand he likes the kid but he comes with the mother. Move the hell on why you can. You need to run as far and fast from this lady before it blows up in your face. Go find someone else. The saying "more fish in the sea". So why hook a carp?

God always has a plan but if you can't read the signs and you can't discern when it's time to bail, then pain and suffering is on you. A grown man spending time with an exes son is creepy at best. Good luck when she accuses you of touching him inappropriately. Cut bait dude.

i never said dont move on from the mom. if the kid looked up to him then it wouldnt be a bad thing to be there for the kid. he already said the father was a pos. nothing wrong with being a positive role model in a childs life. even if it isnt your kid. i have 3 kids, i coached a basketball team that i didnt have a child on. i started banging one of the moms we sopped banging and never any issues with myself and the kid. the mom was pissed at first but she knew i was a good role model for her son and when the kid needs some advice he calls me. everyones situation is different

[jjgold]

50 is midlife

Under head get gambling and playing golf

Life to short and this is not even close to a tragedy...baby stuff

[RudyRuetigger]

unde I had no idea you golfed pal

[RudyRuetigger]

I recommend chugging 2 beers before teeing off, should lower your score

[Dirty Sanchez]

ruination of a man so best to stay away

Keep your life simple underhead

Yeah...look how successful it's worked out for you

[lolz_69]

She already found new dick and you aren't going through mid life crisis. Either man up and move forward or start to piss sitting down because you are acting like a whiny bitch.

Someone needed to say that.

Seriously. This little bitch boy is whining because a single mother brainwashed him into believing the father was a "deadbeat." He's a blue pilled mangina who believes women can never do wrong. Wake the penetrate up f.ag. He doesn't understand women, and now he's crying because he's actually thinking for the first time in his life. Pal, shape up, men have dealt with tougher shit and come out stronger. A whore is gonna get you down? What are you gonna do, kill yourself? Do it or move on.

[lolz_69]

50 is midlife

Under head get gambling and playing golf

Life to short and this is not even close to a tragedy...baby stuff

Seriously, it's like this whiny little boy has never had any hardship ever. Time to wakeup pal. The world doesn't give a shit about you, and women sure as hell don't. Get a life

[jjgold]

Underhead is getting slammed here and should

I might give him an infraction

[BuckyOne]

Man, you guys are some cold mf'rs!

[JIBBBY]

50 is midlife

Under head get gambling and playing golf

Life to short and this is not even close to a tragedy...baby stuff

I think 40 is midlife crises.. 50 you should have already accepted the aging and deteriorating process of the human body...

When I turned 40 it was like a punch in the gut.. I was like really I'm 40 years old already... Shit this sucks!!!!

Have to eat better and work harder to keep the body up.. Hair starts to thin a bit too and you get a few grays to boot.. Got hairs growing out of your ears and nose like you've never seen before...

Enjoy your 30's while they last as they are short lived and go by fast..

[lolz_69]

Really good advice in here. Russian had a great post, Jibby, lots of good characters reaching out. Helping others really helps the psyche, it's a win win. Good for you that gambling isn't working as an escape too, that's a huge positive. If it did work as an escape, what does that say about your ability to become a better person? It would immensely limit your capacity to have a better life. Another good one will come around, there's so many of them. And so many of them fuckin suck. It just doesn't seem that relationships that involve a big break can ever get that far again though. There's probably plenty of counterexamples to the sentiment for people that did figure out a way to make it work, but there's a lot to be excited about because there is someone way better in store for you out there. Hardest thing in the world to move on, but it's the truth, you've got to do it. Even though a guy said it in somewhat of a trite manner, that another poster found rude, I think he's right. Don't you find it admirable when you see friends move on and create something new? Don't you always think there's something kind of weak about your friends who stay stuck in the past for something they've most likely romanticized into thinking it was far better than it actually was? A lot of it is about ego, control, and wanting what we can't have. It's against our nature to not want what's out of our control as it pits us against principles like mortality, finitutde, and closure. It's against our nature to just jump right into change and acceptance. The less you think about yourself, the better your life will be, go figure. And good for you for being such an asset to the young man, that's a great thing! A great thinker named Ram Dass says, "when you give it all up, you get it all." Best to you. Your not in a mid life crisis, your just at a turning point that is a good challenge for you to evolve.

Good post

[rockmvp1209]

im with the guy earlier...stop being a bitch and man up....your woman is probably with a dude with a bigger dick and bigger bankroll...hell probably already bought her son a new PS4 AND xbox one....now go make some money and stop dwelling

[unde0087]

im with the guy earlier...stop being a bitch and man up....your woman is probably with a dude with a bigger dick and bigger bankroll...hell probably already bought her son a new PS4 AND xbox one....now go make some money and stop dwelling

First off, I am not with her anymore. I don't know how many times I have to say I don't fukin care about the girl. Its not easy to raise a fukin kid and then have him taken because you don't have rights to him even though I paid for everything. If it was so easy to not care don't You fukin think I would be talking about it? I was around the kid 24/7 for his first 5 years of life. Let me just not care, fukin dumbass