Girl Using Me For $$$...Should I Care?

[GiveMeaBJ]

I don't see anywhere in your story that she asked for money. It's obvious that you wanted her. You took her to the mall and paid for her shit to prove that you are somebody. If you are single, go for it. A girl can only milk your money if you allow her to. You can change you nick to IGotaBJ. Take a naked picture of her and use it as your avatar.

Use your imagination.

[kato]

you are way cool

[RobbReport]

Trust me, I know. But do I want the whore who will leave our kids with single parents after 3 years?

just don't fall in love, there are a million dream girls.

[GiveMeaBJ]

Where is Paco when you need him?

[Bigcheez]

Hit it and quit it. Don't buy anymore shit though. If you do it again she might hold out on the poon. And even if she does you still have a girl on the side.

[bobbyfk]

what about your GF??

[GiveMeaBJ]

So what should I do? I hear what you guys are saying but I need specifics.

Next time we hang out should I pay for anything? If so up to how much?
If I do choose to pay for things how long should I let this go on for?

[GiveMeaBJ]

what about your GF??

She doesn't know as I said. I have been juggling these two with snow removal for the past few days. I have a feeling this may end badly. BJ girl owes me one though, she doesn't have much room to get pissed if she finds out.

[G's pks]

till she puts out...than dump her...leave as soon as sex ends..jump up before she asks you for more money and run out with shoes in hand..

[flyingillini]

Next time you bust out the yayo for her put some good powda heroin instead.

[GiveMeaBJ]

I don't do that shit illini.

[GiveMeaBJ]

Someone give me solid specific answers.

[Bigcheez]

She doesn't know as I said. I have been juggling these two with snow removal for the past few days. I have a feeling this may end badly. BJ girl owes me one though, she doesn't have much room to get pissed if she finds out.

What do you mean that she "owes you one?"

[GiveMeaBJ]

What do you mean that she "owes you one?"

Long story short, she is my girlfriend, cheated on me a while ago, got pregnant, claimed it was the other dudes, she asked me to pay for it, Paco told me I should probably pay for the abortion in case it turned out mine, she blew up my phone with texts and calls about how she was sorry and I should take her back, I payed for the abortion and gave her a second chance, we are living happily ever after. There is a thread about it somewhere on the forum. I think its called something like "It's 11:00 and I already had the craziest day ever".

[The Seer]

remember the 14th step "Crush your enemy's" See them driven before you and Denigrate their women "

Conan style

[DOMINATER]

my buddy , you went through high school wth a crush on her I THINK THAT HAPPENS TO ALL OF US,sorry caps, when i was a kid i played football i was 10 th grade there was 2 cheerleaders were in lov with me i was so shy i did not even know how to say hello, so ive been their, back to your situation, you are with your steady girl, but you guys did cheat on each other a few times. now, since the pregnacy scare have you guys grown closer ,are you telling each other that you love each other. and do you love her more? THESE ARE ALL THE THINGS YOU MUSTANSWER HONESTLY. The first thing you must do is protect yourself, if you have sex where a rubber you don't want to screw up again secondly if its oral they say u should still wear a rubber god if you ever get hiv from oral then give it to your real girl. not worth it. use your head besides they the sex will last longer. Nowthe most important thing to keep yourself happy and not get depressed you must again be honest, I know you said you had a crush on her, if you start having sex with her all the time hearts will break. will you be sane enough to control your urges. o.k the next day you met her for lunch, she knows about your girl did you tell her all the details of knocking her up. when she came over does hooked up mean you had sex if so she really made love before you gave her the money. I BET WHEN YOU WALKED THREW THAT MALL YOU FELT LIKE A MAN. WOW good for you. wait a minute bj, she isn't neccesarly all depends if she had sex before the money. i know you were all pumped up ,but next time try to control yourself you just started up and your giving her gifts dont worry i know the feelings come gushing out good judgement gets screwed up its like having vertigo,lol. ok is this girl also in college. also when you went back to the party that she did not know about did any of her friends see you thats important if so you have to talk to them , let me know we can make up a good story, now shes hanging on you why? and do you live on campus or off in housing private? your taking a hell of a chance. Listen there are more important issues here the first is protect yourself. the second if you get caught you may lose the first one and the second want molla. well youknow your getting oral and you feel likes it cost 200 dollars plus your girl may find out and there go that steady piece thats the worst of it. If it was just sex you coulg go to the best strip club and get a bj from hot stripper for 100 dollars, and no worries about your girlfriend finding out. I know she is your dream girl and does she have a boyfriend to worry about. this has to be your call if your only problem is the anger guilt or shame for paying for it , dont feel like that it is all a bell curve lol. do you think if you get a bj and if its in your houe she will probably let you bang her to so for two hundred you did well take out to eat and thats it for now. but if shes trying to grab more cash and you did not bang her yet well then its strictly business if you want to bang her for old time sakes and cost 400 , if you can offord it o well like they say thanks for the memories lol. but dont feel guilty no reason to shes being the pig, you knew her, would you ever think she was like that when you were in high school. just take care of you first, and try your best in life not to have too many things hanging in the closet. what i mean dont overload your self with things that are going to upset you. the more of those the more chance you will wallow in guilt it will drive you crazy. you got my tel number, my o,m doesnt work byt i ll be here if you need help gluck my young and crazy buddy'

[RobbReport]

wtf! your girl got preggers with some guys kid that you paid to abort?? wtf are you doing man. this shit is crazier than as the world turns.

[RobbReport]

no rubbers?...what if you got aids?

[DrStale]

No offense BJ, but you fvucked this one up. She has the upper hand now because you did not play the "asshole card". You go to the mall, tell her to pay for her own shit and she'd still want you. Now she knows she can use you. If you had been a dick right off the bat you'd have the power and she'd still be interested. Now she's only going to be interested until she can't use you anymore. You either need to make a power grab here or cut the line now, cuz you're not gonna be happy going down this road. BOL.

[RobbReport]

yeah, you should of said we aint even dating how can i pay for your shit.

[GiveMeaBJ]

my buddy , you went through high school wth a crush on her I THINK THAT HAPPENS TO ALL OF US,sorry caps, when i was a kid i played football i was 10 th grade there was 2 cheerleaders were in lov with me i was so shy i did not even know how to say hello, so ive been their, back to your situation, you are with your steady girl, but you guys did cheat on each other a few times. now, since the pregnacy scare have you guys grown closer ,are you telling each other that you love each other. and do you love her more? THESE ARE ALL THE THINGS YOU MUSTANSWER HONESTLY. The first thing you must do is protect yourself, if you have sex where a rubber you don't want to screw up again secondly if its oral they say u should still wear a rubber god if you ever get hiv from oral then give it to your real girl. not worth it. use your head besides they the sex will last longer. Nowthe most important thing to keep yourself happy and not get depressed you must again be honest, I know you said you had a crush on her, if you start having sex with her all the time hearts will break. will you be sane enough to control your urges. o.k the next day you met her for lunch, she knows about your girl did you tell her all the details of knocking her up. when she came over does hooked up mean you had sex if so she really made love before you gave her the money. I BET WHEN YOU WALKED THREW THAT MALL YOU FELT LIKE A MAN. WOW good for you. wait a minute bj, she isn't neccesarly all depends if she had sex before the money. i know you were all pumped up ,but next time try to control yourself you just started up and your giving her gifts dont worry i know the feelings come gushing out good judgement gets screwed up its like having vertigo,lol. ok is this girl also in college. also when you went back to the party that she did not know about did any of her friends see you thats important if so you have to talk to them , let me know we can make up a good story, now shes hanging on you why? and do you live on campus or off in housing private? your taking a hell of a chance. Listen there are more important issues here the first is protect yourself. the second if you get caught you may lose the first one and the second want molla. well youknow your getting oral and you feel likes it cost 200 dollars plus your girl may find out and there go that steady piece thats the worst of it. If it was just sex you coulg go to the best strip club and get a bj from hot stripper for 100 dollars, and no worries about your girlfriend finding out. I know she is your dream girl and does she have a boyfriend to worry about. this has to be your call if your only problem is the anger guilt or shame for paying for it , dont feel like that it is all a bell curve lol. do you think if you get a bj and if its in your houe she will probably let you bang her to so for two hundred you did well take out to eat and thats it for now. but if shes trying to grab more cash and you did not bang her yet well then its strictly business if you want to bang her for old time sakes and cost 400 , if you can offord it o well like they say thanks for the memories lol. but dont feel guilty no reason to shes being the pig, you knew her, would you ever think she was like that when you were in high school. just take care of you first, and try your best in life not to have too many things hanging in the closet. what i mean dont overload your self with things that are going to upset you. the more of those the more chance you will wallow in guilt it will drive you crazy. you got my tel number, my o,m doesnt work byt i ll be here if you need help gluck my young and crazy buddy'

Great post. Could have been spaced out a bit, but this was what I was looking for. Let me try to dive into this. I have been up all night thinking about some of the questions you said I should. I guess if we are keeping score here I now cheated on her four times and she cheated on me once (that I know of but I sincerely think that was it).

Have we grown closer? Absolutley. I have been spending much more time with her and I think we have a more honest relationship then we had before.

Do we tell each other we love each other? Yes.

Do I love her more? It's tough to say. I don't know what she sees in our future but I understand what these young relationships are. The word "love" is thrown out a ton when often we don't know what it means. Do I see myself marrying her in several years? Right now, no. But, she definitley gets me and she loves me a lot. It's tough for me to say I don't love her more. She is a very good looking girl and I can spend all day with her and be happy. She has no problem with me gambling, chilling with my friends or anything, I do love her but at this point there are other urges that are in the way.

I am not going to use protection while getting oral sex, it's just not going to happen. I know these girls and I am comfortable saying that I don't think they have anything. If it was a random girl then absolutley. I do plan on wearing protection when and if I **** her though.

I think my obsession with the new girl is more that it is something I wanted to do for a long time. She claims to have been obsessed with me in high school but I never picked up on it. The other night was the first time I had seen her in about a year. I think once I do it I will be over it unless it is the best sex I ever had, then we have a problem.

She doesn't know about my girlfriend. I lied to her when my girl called and said it was my friend. When I say hooked up I just mean some touching and kissing. Nothing more then that.

I still don't know why I paid for some of her stuff. I guess I didn't really specify how it went down. We walked into the mall and went into a couple stores. I went to the bathroom and when I came out she had bought me a shirt. Then she went into some girl store and went crazy. She bought like $450 worth of shit and I gave her $200 towards that.

I don't think anyone saw us. We were outside on the back porch. Everyone else was downstairs. I live at home with my parents and commute to school. She does the same but at a different school.

Thats the thing! I wish she hadn't have texted me saying she wanted to blow me. Now I feel like she is a hooker. I didn't pay for it intending for it to happen like this.

It's very strange. I just kind of want to take her out to eat, bang her, and see where that takes me. Hopefully, I don't get attached. Or even worse I hope she doesn't get attached. At the moment I want to bang this girl and be done with her. If this girl hadn't come around I can promise 100% I wouldn't have cheated on my girlfriend.

I am really having second thoughts about banging her. I don't want to ruin what me and my girl have. For a college girlfriend she is truly irreplaceable.

Thanks Dom. Let me know what you think.

[GiveMeaBJ]

Oh and by the way I do realize it is sad the only people I can be 100% honest with and confide in is the SBR community.

[THEGREAT30]

Oh and by the way I do realize it is sad the only people I can be 100% honest with and confide in is the SBR community.

maybe sad, but you know where to go to get the degen luv

[S.K.M.]

Have you fukked her yet?
Did you fukk her before you went to the mall?
Did she know you had money before she fukked you?

Its one thing to pay for dinner and/or a movie but a fukking shopping spree at the mall? Do not EVER do that again with any woman ever!!!!!

[JohnAnthony]

boom boom, bang bang, thank you officer. Money whores are the most dangerous.

[iceminers26]

Someone give me solid specific answers.

**** her, I did

[Ace_of_Spades]

I get sick of these threads, i don't even know if their just shIt talkers or what half the time.

[AMBlai01]

Okay i will try to dive into this a little bit.

First and foremost this relationship with your GF is not going to go anywhere. The decision there is if you want to keep up the charade or not...because that is what it is. You guys both cheated on each other...oh and btw if she says once and there was a pregnancy scare...you better believe that she at least did 4 or 5 other times by random hooking up or making out. People don't go from being in a committed relationship to just fukking some guy one day.... I would guess as cool as your girl is, there are some major trust issues on both end with you two because of all the cheating. Which is where the problem is, those feelings will never go away.

Now as far as the new girl is concerned.... I read your story and the big piece of information that was out of the original post was the fact that she bought you a shirt at the mall too (and first). Is she after your money? Maybe...Is she a girl that just wants to be treated well and like a lady...more likely. The bigger issue is that it seems like you want to get this girl just to say "I had her". I mean if you are truly interested in her..take her out, talk to her and see if you think there is anything there between the two. If you are just looking to fukk her....well by all means do it but understand that it just damages your relationship with your gf even more (which I think is doomed anyway).

You really have to figure out what it is that you really want out of hanging with a girl. Do you want a long term relationship? Do you want to just mess around? and be honest with yourself.....

[jjgold]

I have to get this off my chest...

This is not the BJ girl. I was at a party on Monday and this girl I used to be friends with in high school was outside when I went out to smoke and we started talking. She is pretty damn hot and I was never lucky enough to hit it in high school. My girlfriend was inside so I didn't want to do anything to drastic, whether or not this girl knew I had a girlfriend or not is beyond me. But, we were flirting or whatever we were out there for 20 minutes until my girl called. I told her I'd be right in and told $$$ girl that it was my friend inside and he needed to show me something. She says, I have something to tell you meet me out here at 2:00. I said ok, went back in, drove BJ girl home because she was tired and went back to the party even though she didn't know. I go outside and she is standing there. We start flirting again and she starts touching me and stuff, nothing crazy just like a hand on the chest and that shit.

Whatever.

The next day we meet for lunch. All innocent, we talk whatever. Then earlier today she calls and says shes driving by my house can she stop by. I say fine, she comes in and as we are sitting downstairs talking she starts kissing my neck and shit. We hooked up, etc. Moving on, she tells me we should go to the mall later. I don't want to go to the mall but at this point this is baisically my dream girl from high school so I just say yes. Anyway we went to the mall and all in all I bought her $200 worth of shit. Now I am getting texts about how we should go out again tomorrow and she wants to blow me.

She is clearly using me for $$$. What do I do? If I buy her shit and end up ****ing her I am essentially paying for sex.

Someone lead me in the right direction. You guys really helped out with my last problem.

You got to be a jerkoff to let a woman use you for anything but your cock, fuk pay a hooker instead and get your choice of top woman and girls like 18, 19 of all races and types.

GiveMe your better than this

[jjgold]

Okay i will try to dive into this a little bit.

First and foremost this relationship with your GF is not going to go anywhere. The decision there is if you want to keep up the charade or not...because that is what it is. You guys both cheated on each other...oh and btw if she says once and there was a pregnancy scare...you better believe that she at least did 4 or 5 other times by random hooking up or making out. People don't go from being in a committed relationship to just fukking some guy one day.... I would guess as cool as your girl is, there are some major trust issues on both end with you two because of all the cheating. Which is where the problem is, those feelings will never go away.

Now as far as the new girl is concerned.... I read your story and the big piece of information that was out of the original post was the fact that she bought you a shirt at the mall too (and first). Is she after your money? Maybe...Is she a girl that just wants to be treated well and like a lady...more likely. The bigger issue is that it seems like you want to get this girl just to say "I had her". I mean if you are truly interested in her..take her out, talk to her and see if you think there is anything there between the two. If you are just looking to fukk her....well by all means do it but understand that it just damages your relationship with your gf even more (which I think is doomed anyway).

You really have to figure out what it is that you really want out of hanging with a girl. Do you want a long term relationship? Do you want to just mess around? and be honest with yourself.....

Now this is the Amber I like, great post.

[2daBank]

this thread made my day....i feel like a pimp right now....i mean damn ill buy a ho some drinks or do some dope with her, maybe dinner but fukkin shopping!!!!!!!! i dont take my fukkin wife shopping

[iceminers26]

this thread made my day....i feel like a pimp right now....i mean damn ill by a ho some drinks or do some dope with her, maybe dinner but fukkin shopping!!!!!!!! i dont take my fukkin wife shopping

[floridagolfer]

If you can afford to blow . . . so to speak . . . the money, go for it. Otherwise, be prepared to regret this heavily.

[dmtrader]

You're in a bad rut. I'm not the one to be helping you with this, but there seems to be no one else giving you good advice so:

1. STOP giving women money -- for anything! Once you do, they categorize you as someone they can take advantage of. That means they will only give you enough attention until you cough up the cash, then they will go away.
2. Any girl that tries to manipulate you sexually - walk away. You'll gain self respect and the respect of other women -- which will lead to more dates.
3. The most important thing -- don't care whether she likes you or not. Whether she sleeps with you or not. That kind of vibe attracts women. But it's impossible to fake, and you will have to work on that mentality for awhile before you see results.

So much more I could say, but that is enough for you to work on for now.

[scarp]

Yeah pretty sure she wants the $$$