Cheap people

[Mudcat]

I am pissed off right now. Let's see if I can make a long story short.

Every Super Bowl for the last ~15 years I get together with the same 3-4 guys. This year's host was circulating an e-mail today about what time to arrive and checking who wants what as far as food we order. In my response to the group, I asked if it was my turn to pay.

The host sent me a personal e-mail chuckling and saying he hoped Rick would take a hint and realize it was his turn. I seldom see Rick besides the Super Bowl but apparently to people who know him, he is notoriously cheap. And apparently he has never sprung for the Super Bowl feed. I am so trusting and assuming the best of everyone that it never occurred to me that could be going on.

I interact with the other guys more and know they would insist on paying their shares. Everyone in my close circle of acquaintance is like that.

Sure enough, Rick's e-mail response comes. He is completely side-stepping my message that brings up the issue that the food needs to be paid for. He responds directly to the original message with a list of stuff he likes on his pizza. That's it. He e-mails a list of what he feels should be bought for him.

He considers 50 bucks or whatever to be life-changing enough to duck, but it's okay with him if his friends spend it.

Little thing, I know. But it is making me mad right now. I guess I witness so few cheapskate incidents, that coming face-to-face with one has knocked me off my pins a bit. What kind of weasely, spoiled brat attitude . . . ?!?!





I seriously wish I didn't even know this was going on.

Do you know cheap people? Are you cheap? Pay your share, you cheap bastards!

[Shortstop]

[Boner_18]

You know what bothers me? Passive aggressive people who wont tell their friends that they are cheapskates and it is their turn to pay.

No but really, just say something. If he is really your friend one of two things will happen:
(1) he will begrudgingly pay after being brow beaten by the other three of you. or,
(2) you all will have a knock down drag 'em out fight about it and next year it will be worth a good laugh (whether or not he is there to laugh is another issue).

[Dark Horse]

It's a non-issue, isn't it?

Unless he's a friend, tell him the party is off and don't invite him anymore.

[nobshine]

Its the principle not the $. Used to let a few of my friends off the hook but now I get in their face, I am done with cheap people.

[Panic]

I would order personal pizza's for everyone but him. He'll get the hint.

[smitch124]

I make Rick look like a drunken Sailor...

[jjgold]

Gamblers are the cheapest people in the world

[AMBlai01]

Mudcat...I have a friend exactly like this. Me and all my friends go out for happy hour often and sometimes drinks later on. It is understood between all of us that we take turns buying rounds over and over until the night is done. Sometimes we lose track and someone will just jump in and buy that round and the circle continues again.

We have this one friend though that never steps up and offers or says "oh its my turn to buy this round". Sometimes we will even sit there for 10 minutes with an empty beer or drink in front of us waiting for him to actually step up and say....it is my turn. I know this seems small too but a few rounds over the course of a night adds up after a while. It is not like he has just done this once too, it has been an ongoing issue since we have known the guy. So after a few dozen times going out and you add up all those rounds hes skipping out on, it is costing us all quite a bit of money.

I definitely feel your pain, it is really annoying and the only thing you can do is either bite the bullet or just not invite the guy to any events any more. I know its frustrating but what more can be done?

[Willie Bee]

I would order personal pizza's for everyone but him. He'll get the hint.

Have to agree with Panic on this one, make sure his pizza preference isn't there and if he has a specific drink/beer that he likes, I'd make sure that wasn't in the cooler as well.

[pavyracer]

Sorry guys. If this guy is cheap he will eat any pizza and drink any beer available.

[AMBlai01]

I think pavy is right on this one...only way is to not invite him...

[onthewhat]

Don't invite this kid

My biggest pet peeve is being cheap, I will never use a coupon or anything, I don't care

[Panic]

Sorry guys. If this guy is cheap he will eat any pizza and drink any beer available.

Thats why I would get those personal pizza's where its only 4 slices to each one. I 'd hand out the boxes to all the guys but him and sit down and start watching tv like there wasnt a problem in the world.

[smitch124]

Ya, just don't invite him, if he's a veteran freeloader he has backups. Let them foot the bill this year.

[Boner_18]

You all are suggesting passive aggressive solutions. What are we chicks playing games? Just tell the fvcking guy.

[Willie Bee]

Sorry guys. If this guy is cheap he will eat any pizza and drink any beer available.

You may be right, but at the same time, at least he won't get his way completely.

Mud, if I was part of this group, I'd have no trouble just hitting him up for the money the very minute he walked in the door. I do have friends that are 'cheap' but at the same time, they know when it's their round because we tell 'em it's their round. Hand him a crowbar and say, "Pry that wallet open, brother!"

[Bread]

I'm with Boner. Kick him in the ding ding and take his money.

[Panic]

You may be right, but at the same time, at least he won't get his way completely.

Mud, if I was part of this group, I'd have no trouble just hitting him up for the money the very minute he walked in the door. I do have friends that are 'cheap' but at the same time, they know when it's their round because we tell 'em it's their round. Hand him a crowbar and say, "Pry that wallet open, brother!"

And if he doesnt open the wallet, hit him in the head with the thing and forceably take the wallet.

[onthewhat]

Willie, if he is as cheap as he sounds, he is coming prepared with excuses.

Left his wallet at home, times are tough and he lost his job, something like that.

[smitch124]

And if he doesnt open the wallet, hit him in the head with the thing and forceably take the wallet.

If there's anything of value in there he's a rook...

[Panic]

If there's anything of value in there he's a rook...

If nothing's in there, I'd hit him in the head again.

[Mudcat]

That's the other thing about this guy now that I think about. I almost guarantee he'll show up empty-handed and drink the host's beer. Never hosted himself.

I dunno. He's not really my friend. Other than Super Bowls, I have probably seen him 3 times in the last 15 years. The other guys have more of an issue. I guess they have weighed the pros and cons and decided to keep him in the circle.

Looking at my close circle of friends, I recognize little negative things I am choosing to accept. The guy I shoot pool with has an annoying chronic lateness problem. Every time we get together, there has to be some little keep-Mudcat-waiting incident. I've talked to him about it. It usually has a minimal temporary effect. I could just say, "Screw you until you learn to have more respect for my time." (I feel another rant thread coming on.)

But we also have a lot of good memories and I was the best man at his wedding and we have a good time at billiards so I put up with this negative bit.

I guess these other guys have decided to take the same approach with cheap guy.


See now I feel like I have to make some kind of confrontation at the Super Bowl. I don't need that shit.

[so im zach]

You all are suggesting passive aggressive solutions. What are we chicks playing games? Just tell the fvcking guy.

+1

[BAUS]

To quote former WWF superstar Irwin R Shyster: "Quit your crying and pay what's due....or IRS WILL AUDIT YOU!!!!!"

That's what I would tell this dude Mudcat.

BAUS

[PuckOff]

It's a non-issue, isn't it?

Unless he's a friend, tell him the party is off and don't invite him anymore.

I agree and if he asks tell him it was for membership only and since he has never offered to pay then you and your friends figured he wouldn't pay the membership.

My wife's bro-in-law is a cheap prick. He actually had the nerve to ask her other sisters for gas money for driving them home one time.

My wife's sister once had a xmas party for mostly family members and a handful of friends and he was a great host to his friends only. Not once did he offer to get any of her family members anything. I never forgot that so when he comes to my house I simply ignore him. I think he has finally figured it out that I don't care for him.

[PuckOff]

Mudcat...I have a friend exactly like this. Me and all my friends go out for happy hour often and sometimes drinks later on. It is understood between all of us that we take turns buying rounds over and over until the night is done. Sometimes we lose track and someone will just jump in and buy that round and the circle continues again.

We have this one friend though that never steps up and offers or says "oh its my turn to buy this round". Sometimes we will even sit there for 10 minutes with an empty beer or drink in front of us waiting for him to actually step up and say....it is my turn. I know this seems small too but a few rounds over the course of a night adds up after a while. It is not like he has just done this once too, it has been an ongoing issue since we have known the guy. So after a few dozen times going out and you add up all those rounds hes skipping out on, it is costing us all quite a bit of money.

I definitely feel your pain, it is really annoying and the only thing you can do is either bite the bullet or just not invite the guy to any events any more. I know its frustrating but what more can be done?

The next time when the waiter or waitress comes to your table say I'll have this , my friend will have this and my other friend that and skip the cheap prick who is supposed to be your friend. We all have friends or know people like that. This is exactly what I would do and have done.

[mathdotcom]

Mudcat,

Tell the host to reply to the group: "I believe it is Rick's turn to pay".

Then you or some other guy can reply "Oh yeah, that's right".

He can't avoid that e-mail then.

Easy.

[Immortality]

You all are suggesting passive aggressive solutions. What are we chicks playing games? Just tell the fvcking guy.

If someone is my friend and they are being a cheap fvck, they are definitely going to know I feel this way.

[Mudcat]

You all are suggesting passive aggressive solutions. What are we chicks playing games? Just tell the fvcking guy.

There may be some truth to that. I don't know what the other guys have done or not done about it. Maybe they are subject to legitimate criticism.

Maybe they react poorly but I still say the main issue is the cheap dude and his sucking. You should be paying your way like a man and not have to be dragged kicking and screaming.

Get your shit together and don't be a lummox. I don't know how people can be that way. I'd be ashamed to show my face. I'd take it as an offense to my manhood if anyone accused me of that kind of behavior.

You shouldn't be putting your friends in a position of needing to confront. Particularly not on the holiest of days, Super Sunday.

[compaqDikk]

this is exactly why JJ and i choose NOT to have friends. too much drama and distractions. watch your superbowl in a suite like he did last year at his aunts house in a closet

[mathdotcom]

There may be some truth to that. I don't know what the other guys have done or not done about it. Maybe they are subject to legitimate criticism.

Maybe they react poorly but I still say the main issue is the cheap dude and his sucking. You should be paying your way like a man and not have to be dragged kicking and screaming.

Get your shit together and don't be a lummox. I don't know how people can be that way. I'd be ashamed to show my face. I'd take it as an offense to my manhood if anyone accused me of that kind of behavior.

You shouldn't be putting your friends in a position of needing to confront. Particularly not on the holiest of days, Super Sunday.

Everyone knows this guy is a loser and all the reasons why. Why do you keep talking about that?

Any "legitimate criticism" you throw at your friends applies right back at you, too. Why don't you show some balls already and just say, word for word, "Hey Rick, I think it is your turn to pay." What is so hard about that?

Guys, this is a typical case of the retarded Canadian mentality. They will never say or do anything even when they know they're right. It is no surprise that Boner 18 from NYC gives you the simplest answer.

[Panic]

Just hit the guy in the head with the fvcking crowbar already.

[Dark Horse]

I just realized that Mudcat is Seinfeld.

He probably wouldn't wink at losing a couple of thousand on a night, but don't buy pizza and you got a problem...

You never heart of potluck? Instead of ordering pizza, let everybody bring something, and agree upfront on what to bring.

[smitch124]

I wouldn't have mentioned it, but it was a "big" salad.