I need advice on a difficult parent.

jeffksu · 02-17-13, 10:19 AM

hey mike, how's everything, good I hope...people like this tool Opie make me want to vomit..sounds like he is one of "those" parents. Fukkin Fool...

str · 02-17-13, 10:21 AM

Opie's comments are pathetic but on a lighter note, it's good to see that his 5 year old girl picked up some traits from mom's side of the family.

BIGDAY · 02-17-13, 10:21 AM

Originally posted by MMAchicka

Aren't we the lucky ones... Being in a profession where most think their children could do no wrong and are the best at everything? Ask her questions... Make her feel like she's been heard. Ex: what is the challenge? What do you feel your child needs? How can I help with that? Always bring it back to the child not the adult. If you want more info ask her Tell me more about that. What I hear you saying is... Is that right? Also let her know that you want to respect her but you expect the same, so that means talking and discussing not yelling in public or via email. I often say respect is a two way street not a one way! Good luck pal!

MMAChicka in the HOUSE!!

milwaukee mike · 02-17-13, 10:22 AM

Originally posted by MMAchicka

Aren't we the lucky ones... Being in a profession where most think their children could do no wrong and are the best at everything? Ask her questions... Make her feel like she's been heard. Ex: what is the challenge? What do you feel your child needs? How can I help with that? Always bring it back to the child not the adult. If you want more info ask her Tell me more about that. What I hear you saying is... Is that right? Also let her know that you want to respect her but you expect the same, so that means talking and discussing not yelling in public or via email. I often say respect is a two way street not a one way! Good luck pal!

good post

tell me more about this two-way and one-way action, any possibility of 3-way?

(and not including bigday or mrs milw)

GP · 02-17-13, 10:24 AM

Salon this chit!

Next time, hand over the clipboard and visor to her and say I quit.

milwaukee mike · 02-17-13, 10:25 AM

Originally posted by jeffksu

hey mike, how's everything, good I hope...people like this tool Opie make me want to vomit..sounds like he is one of "those" parents. Fukkin Fool...

his online persona is much different than he is in person.

everything is good, how are you doing jeff? you live in vegas right? do you see any sbr posters other than mario? other than jakepeavy i'm not sure which other posters live there (i'm jealous!)

MMAchicka · 02-17-13, 10:26 AM

Originally posted by milwaukee mike

good post

tell me more about this two-way and one-way action, any possibility of 3-way?

(and not including bigday or mrs milw)

I gave it to BigDay so good last night he'll be sore for a week. So we are safe of him in any of the action.

BIGDAY · 02-17-13, 10:28 AM

Unreal. MODS!! Ban MMAChicka!!

milwaukee mike · 02-17-13, 10:28 AM

Originally posted by MMAchicka

I gave it to BigDay so good last night he'll be sore for a week. So we are safe of him in any of the action.

jeffksu · 02-17-13, 10:34 AM

yes, I've lived in Vegas since '97...it's all good...-FH- has blessed us all by moving back out here..rarely see him as he lives in Henderson and I live in the northwest part of Vegas...I work with Mario so I see him M-F...and some weekends...get moved out here...

milwaukee mike · 02-17-13, 10:42 AM

Originally posted by jeffksu

yes, I've lived in Vegas since '97...it's all good...-FH- has blessed us all by moving back out here..rarely see him as he lives in Henderson and I live in the northwest part of Vegas...I work with Mario so I see him M-F...and some weekends...get moved out here...

4 year plan my friend, trying to wind down my cpa business
mrs would rather not move, all her family is here, only arguments we have had in 20 years are about moving

opie1988 · 02-17-13, 10:49 AM

Originally posted by jeffksu

who the penetrate is this opie1988... Sure your 5 year old is better than 8 and 9 year old kids...just like your better than every poster here...if you repeat it long enough it becomes you and all of a sudden, hey I'm better than everyone including GOD...

what a fuckin tool and dipshit...

Uhhhh......she's not just better, pal, but WAY FUKKIN BETTER!! HAHAHAHA!! ITS SO AWESOME!!!

Now as far as all this "I'm better than God" deal, not sure what that's all about. I mean, I don't think I'm better than God. Now if God had a young girl playing softball......well than, let's just suit them up and see once and for all who's better. You know what I'm saying??

King Mayan · 02-17-13, 11:11 AM

Originally posted by str

Opie's comments are pathetic but on a lighter note, it's good to see that his 5 year old girl picked up some traits from mom's side of the family.

thank god the lil girl didn't get her clumsy, stumbling, un-athletic, dads genes...

pavyracer · 02-17-13, 11:12 AM

Originally posted by Cheme82

Ok so I coach my daughter's 10-u softball team and there is this bitch lady who is the mother of one of my players that is fuking insane. The bitch sends me e-mails to bitch me out (and she presses reply all so everyone reads them). And today she bitched me out in front of other parents and players.

So far I have handled that shit like a baws and kept my cool but I'm afraid one of these days she's gonna catch me in a bad mood and I'm gonna get my daughter's DeMarini and beat her senseless with it.

Any advice?

Use earplugs when you coach.

opie1988 · 02-17-13, 11:17 AM

Originally posted by King Mayan

thank god the lil girl didn't get her clumsy, stumbling, un-athletic, dads genes...

King Mayan · 02-17-13, 11:20 AM

opie1988 · 02-17-13, 11:24 AM

Good things.

Cuse0323 · 02-17-13, 11:30 AM

Give her whatever she wants, let her daughter try to be the star and fail. Maybe she'll shut up.

In reality, I have no idea, wouldn't be kind to embarrass a 10 year old.

Cuse4tw · 02-17-13, 11:43 AM

ill tell you what....id get out of coaching the boys as soon as he gets a little older.

boys parents are an absolute trip....thinking their sons should be pitching and batting cleanup...those parents will make u go ape shit

InTheDrink · 02-17-13, 12:06 PM

two cusers?

jeffksu · 02-17-13, 12:07 PM

NO...I AM NOT HEARING YOU....can you tell us once again how good your family is compared to the others....

Mitchell88 · 02-17-13, 12:10 PM

Look obama said it "no child left behind" even if they suck at everything.

opie1988 · 02-17-13, 12:21 PM

Originally posted by Mitchell88

Look obama said it "no child left behind" even if they suck at everything.

Exactly right. I, for one, refuse to stand here and champion mediocrity. If it wasn't about winning.....then why is there a scoreboard?

Remember......Winning builds character too!

Mitchell88 · 02-17-13, 12:34 PM

Originally posted by opie1988

Exactly right. I, for one, refuse to stand here and champion mediocrity. If it wasn't about winning.....then why is there a scoreboard?

Remember......Winning builds character too!

agree and also if we dont prepare the kids for the real world they are in for a shock when they dont get into the college they want or the job they want. Just showing up doesnt mean that you are in, but right now we are teaching that show up try hard and even if you are mediocre or suck you got it, thats not the real world.

tto827 · 02-17-13, 12:41 PM

Originally posted by Mitchell88

agree and also if we dont prepare the kids for the real world they are in for a shock when they dont get into the college they want or the job they want. Just showing up doesnt mean that you are in, but right now we are teaching that show up try hard and even if you are mediocre or suck you got it, thats not the real world.

There's a fine balance here. I've had coaches on both ends growing up. One coach who literally rotated every kid equally at every position, so we sucked and it really wasn't fun.

I also had the coach who stacked our team cause he was the head of the park district, and would play me and 2 other kids at pitcher, shortstop, and first base all game 2 innings each (max allowed by league) and other kids got so mad and jealous that it wasn't fun for us.
Your best players should get a bit of preferential treatment (starting at 7-8 years old or so) and obviously it increases as time goes on, but before that it should just be for the fun of it.

A 7 year old doesn't have to be GOOD to participate, and your a jerk if you think he does. He's seven, its not like he is going to ride the bench for a season, then say dad, I really want to get better and work hard at baseball next year, come the fuk on.

chopperocker · 02-17-13, 12:42 PM

you got a buddy from out of town you can hook her up with? if shes getting laid she will chill.

gl, man. thats drama.

Mitchell88 · 02-17-13, 12:44 PM

Originally posted by tto827

There's a fine balance here. I've had coaches on both ends growing up. One coach who literally rotated every kid equally at every position, so we sucked and it really wasn't fun.

I also had the coach who stacked our team cause he was the head of the park district, and would play me and 2 other kids at pitcher, shortstop, and first base all game 2 innings each (max allowed by league) and other kids got so mad and jealous that it wasn't fun for us.
Your best players should get a bit of preferential treatment (starting at 7-8 years old or so) and obviously it increases as time goes on, but before that it should just be for the fun of it.

A 7 year old doesn't have to be GOOD to participate, and your a jerk if you think he does. He's seven, its not like he is going to ride the bench for a season, then say dad, I really want to get better and work hard at baseball next year, come the fuk on.

no kid should ride the bench the whole season and yes that is much to young of an age to make a huge deal of winning every game. IMO though America seems to worried about everything being fair that we are not preparing the youth for the real world, its cruel and rough. At that age though I think most leagues have certain rules and rotations that make everyone get a chance.

yahoonino · 02-17-13, 01:12 PM

trade her daugheter , for a player to be name later

BIGDAY · 02-17-13, 01:27 PM

Honestly. At a certain age you will find out if you suck at a sport. Even if you LOVE it...

My brother loved hockey. But the shrimp was 102 lbs playing against 160lbers. His nickname was timex. Took a lickin but kept on tickin. Lol

Then I as a brother told him as aggressive as you are, you would absolutely destroy kids your own size. Try wrestling. He left the state of ND with one of the most decorated records. Went on to be a 2 time AllAmerican at the Collegate level.

As parents I think it is important to introduce as many activities as possible. And find a niche for our children to find their own sense of success. The feeling of success is amazing and that is what we all should strive for. Find your children something to be successful in. Doesn't have to be sports.

Cuse4tw · 02-17-13, 01:28 PM

Originally posted by InTheDrink

two cusers?

always has been

InTheDrink · 02-17-13, 03:34 PM

Originally posted by Cuse4tw

always has been

i hope that mother fukker lives cleaner than you cuser

El Nino · 02-17-13, 03:58 PM

Roofy her and steal her kidney. Classic move that will let her know what's up.

milwaukee mike · 02-17-13, 04:25 PM

Originally posted by BIGDAY

Honestly. At a certain age you will find out if you suck at a sport. Even if you LOVE it...

My brother loved hockey. But the shrimp was 102 lbs playing against 160lbers. His nickname was timex. Took a lickin but kept on tickin. Lol

Then I as a brother told him as aggressive as you are, you would absolutely destroy kids your own size. Try wrestling. He left the state of ND with one of the most decorated records. Went on to be a 2 time AllAmerican at the Collegate level.

As parents I think it is important to introduce as many activities as possible. And find a niche for our children to find their own sense of success. The feeling of success is amazing and that is what we all should strive for. Find your children something to be successful in. Doesn't have to be sports.

Absolutely. Losing, sucking, and dragging your team down only teaches you how to lose, suck, and drag people down. It's ok at the age of 5, but at 10 and up it's quite frustrating to the other kids and parents, my 11yo's team would've won the basketball championship yesterday but they have a kid who is less than worthless on the team, and they have to play everyone at least 1/2 the time.

So it's a good lesson, it's a team sport and life is often affected by people and things beyond your control.

Also i told him some days you're the dog and some days you're the hydrant which made him laugh. He has a great attitude, which is reflective of having good-natured, laid back parents.

turtlejc · 02-17-13, 05:09 PM

tell her that her 10 year old fat cartman looking like daughter is not the next Jenny Finch and she needs to shut the fukk up

Cheme82 · 02-17-13, 07:20 PM

Thanks guys, some good advice. The reason I had the tryouts for positions is because although I know who can play where and who can't, I wanted to give every girl the opportunity to try to play a position and then have everyone see wether or not they were qualified to play it. Instead of my opinion, I wanted to have some hard evidence that everyone saw that some girls just can't play certain positions.

I rotate my 2 bench players every inning, and continue in the next game until I have benched everyone one inning and then start again. I also rotate positions, if I have 5 girls that can play second base, I make sure they all get to play at least an inning (once again, I use more than one game for this rotation since most games are 3 innings only.) I also have 3 batting orders that I alternate through to make sure that all girls bat towards the top, middle, and bottom of the lineup. I try to be a good blend of fairness and also try to win. I believe I'm pretty fair but then again only a douche bag would be unfair on purpose.

Anyway, we played the opening day tournament this weekend and even though I rotated everyone in the matter I have described, we won that shit! I guess being in a championship team will also work to get her off my back no?