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I posed as a girl of 14 on Facebook. What followed will sicken you
By MARK WILLIAMS-THOMAS
Last updated at 7:57 AM on 10th March 2010
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Even after 15 years in child protection, I was shocked by what I encountered when I spent just five minutes on Facebook posing as a 14-year-old girl. Within 90 seconds, a middle-aged man wanted to perform a sex act in front of me.
I was deluged by strangers asking stomach-churning questions about my sexual experience. I was pressured to meet men with whom I'd never before communicated.
So I wasn't surprised that a vulnerable teenager, Ashleigh Hall, was groomed on Facebook before being brutally raped and killed.
Paedophiles' playground: Child sex offenders actively search for young girls on social networking sites who will fall prey to their false charms (posed by model)
Anyone who knows what an adventure playground social networking sites offer paedophiles would only be surprised that such tragedies don't occur more often.
For the internet is full of people with sexually deviant desires - the level of danger goes way beyond even the most worried parent's imagination.
Child sex offenders existed before the internet, but with the inviting, anonymous environment such sites provide, they have greater access and opportunity, which they exploit all too readily.
For these depraved men are not just lurking online hoping youngsters will find them; they are actively searching for young girls who will fall prey to their false charms, as I discovered when I set out to investigate this dangerous environment.
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I am vastly experienced in the field - I was a police detective specialising in major crime and worked on some of the biggest murder and paedophile investigations in the country, before gaining a masters in criminology and setting up a child protection consultancy.
I knew the enormity of the problem, but I wanted to make public how easy it is for paedophiles to approach youngsters online.
So, I created a fake profile and photograph portraying me as a pretty, slim, 5ft 2in brunette who liked music and dance.
Within five minutes of the profile going live on one of the biggest social networking sites, messages from men poured in. The first three who approached me were aged between 20 and 40. Each asked 'A, S, L?' - teen text speak for: 'What is your age, sex and location?'
Monster: Peter Chapman used this fake picture of a young man on his Facebook page to lure his next victim
These hunters know their prey chillingly well; using teenage language nourishes girls' trust.
They could have easily turned themselves into teenagers - as I had done - but many make little effort to disguise themselves because they think they'll get away with it. And many do.
After I typed back messages saying '14, female, London', the replies flew in: one man wanted to meet up immediately and asked what I liked doing or if I'd enjoy a trip to the cinema. Another promptly asked: 'Are you a virgin?'
Their audacity was shocking - they made no attempt to hide their intentions, despite the fact that having sex with a 14-year-old girl is classed as rape. They aren't afraid to be up front because - nauseatingly - they have found this approach to be effective.
Clearly, enough girls are intrigued by these crass invitations to make it a worthwhile strategy.
Some men approached me more slowly, building up rapport through normal conversation - all in abbreviated language or child-like spelling. Then they started springing crude questions, such as: 'Had I had sex? Who with? Did I like it?'
Some would make relentless and disturbing requests: would I perform sex acts for them on a webcam? Could they perform sex acts for me?
Too late: Like Ashleigh Hall, 25 per cent of girls and 14 per cent of boys who make contact with someone online will go on to meet them in person
Gruesome though it is to hear, the question 'Have you ever touched yourself?' is frequently fired off to young girls.
Some men checked to see if I really was a young girl by asking innocent questions about my likes and dislikes, such as my hobbies and where I went to school.
Then, once they'd had the responses that showed I was young, they followed up with crude sexual requests or the constant chat and attention that experienced abusers use to groom girls.
And I had been online for only an hour. The scale of potential abuse is mind-blowing. Especially if, like me, you're a parent.
Our children might be savvy and aware, but, by nature, they are trustworthy and believing. Meanwhile, online paedophiles are devious, clever, calculating and manipulative.
They use photographs of other people - easily found and copied off the internet - if they want to make themselves look younger or more attractive, just like Ashleigh Hall's murderer, Peter Chapman.
And they constantly develop strategies to combat children's wariness. One new tactic is introducing victims to another teenager, who they say is a friend.
In fact, the other girl's profile is fake, created by the abuser to allay concerns. The victim believes that the stranger must be trustworthy because he has other young friends.
The 'other girl' will tell them: 'I was a bit scared, too, when I started speaking to him, but he's a really nice man, very genuine; we've met and he is who he says he is.'
Other abusers use a fake girl to encourage the victim to engage in sexual behaviour, saying such things as: 'He gave me a kiss the other day and it was nice' or 'My first sex was with him and he's careful and delicate.'
It's horrifying, yet this is happening to teenagers right now across the internet.
Once we taught children that strangers held the greatest danger, but in the world of instant intimacy that is cyberspace, teenagers don't consider these men to be strangers; they think they are friends.
And the stereotypical image of the weirdo couldn't be more misleading: these men appear responsible and respectable. One thing they have in common is that they are confident and able when dealing with children and young people.
Parents need to realise that these people are clever at appearing normal. They don't stand out in a crowd; they look no different to you or me.
The Government must provide police forces throughout Britain with the resources for covert policing, so they can lure men with fake teenage profiles before they ruin the lives of real children
They hold down jobs and are able to perpetrate abuse by hiding behind the internet for anonymity.
I know, because I have met some of the most dangerous sex offenders in the country in prisons.
The problem is that they can be caught far too late - like 33-year-old serial rapist and killer Peter Chapman.
What happened to Ashleigh Hall is desperately sad, but not surprising, given the proliferation of paedophiles online and the fact that 25 per cent of girls and 14 per cent of boys who make contact with someone online will go on to meet them in person.
That is why the policing of social networking sites must be changed radically.
I have followed a Metropolitan police paedophile unit that uses a covert approach to ensnare online abusers and arrest them.
It was incredibly effective, putting ten men in jail, but it is not practised enough. Tragically, the common police approach is reactive: finding and arresting abusers once they have been reported. By then the damage has been done.
What is needed is a pro-active approach. The Government must provide police forces throughout Britain with the resources for covert policing, so they can lure men with fake teenage profiles before they ruin the lives of real children. The hunters must become the hunted.
At present, these monsters wander the internet without fear or caution - evident by the onslaught of inappropriate messages I received when I put my fake profile online.
For what is most shocking about my investigation is not only the number of predators waiting to pounce, but also the lack of policing.
Those men who approached me are probably still there, waiting for young girls. In fact, they may have already found and preyed on many more.
But because we don't have proactive policing, they will remain at large until someone they abuse reports them. As a parent, I don't consider that acceptable.
Yes, my 14-year-old daughter uses Facebook, but with stringent privacy settings and a maximum of 30 friends, all of whom she must know genuinely - and I am one of them.
What happened to Ashleigh must never happen to another child. We need to turn around the online environment by targeting sex offenders before they target young girls.
Ultimately, it's up to all of us - parents, teachers, police and internet companies - to educate and protect our children. Otherwise there are going to be many more Ashleighs.
• Interview: Laura Topham
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By MARK WILLIAMS-THOMAS
Last updated at 7:57 AM on 10th March 2010
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Even after 15 years in child protection, I was shocked by what I encountered when I spent just five minutes on Facebook posing as a 14-year-old girl. Within 90 seconds, a middle-aged man wanted to perform a sex act in front of me.
I was deluged by strangers asking stomach-churning questions about my sexual experience. I was pressured to meet men with whom I'd never before communicated.
So I wasn't surprised that a vulnerable teenager, Ashleigh Hall, was groomed on Facebook before being brutally raped and killed.
Paedophiles' playground: Child sex offenders actively search for young girls on social networking sites who will fall prey to their false charms (posed by model)
Anyone who knows what an adventure playground social networking sites offer paedophiles would only be surprised that such tragedies don't occur more often.
For the internet is full of people with sexually deviant desires - the level of danger goes way beyond even the most worried parent's imagination.
Child sex offenders existed before the internet, but with the inviting, anonymous environment such sites provide, they have greater access and opportunity, which they exploit all too readily.
For these depraved men are not just lurking online hoping youngsters will find them; they are actively searching for young girls who will fall prey to their false charms, as I discovered when I set out to investigate this dangerous environment.
More...
Facebook 'putting children at risk' by snubbing paedophile panic button
ALLISON PEARSON: A mother's love means sometimes saying 'no'
MAIL COMMENT: Policing the dark side of the internet
I am vastly experienced in the field - I was a police detective specialising in major crime and worked on some of the biggest murder and paedophile investigations in the country, before gaining a masters in criminology and setting up a child protection consultancy.
I knew the enormity of the problem, but I wanted to make public how easy it is for paedophiles to approach youngsters online.
So, I created a fake profile and photograph portraying me as a pretty, slim, 5ft 2in brunette who liked music and dance.
Within five minutes of the profile going live on one of the biggest social networking sites, messages from men poured in. The first three who approached me were aged between 20 and 40. Each asked 'A, S, L?' - teen text speak for: 'What is your age, sex and location?'
Monster: Peter Chapman used this fake picture of a young man on his Facebook page to lure his next victim
These hunters know their prey chillingly well; using teenage language nourishes girls' trust.
They could have easily turned themselves into teenagers - as I had done - but many make little effort to disguise themselves because they think they'll get away with it. And many do.
After I typed back messages saying '14, female, London', the replies flew in: one man wanted to meet up immediately and asked what I liked doing or if I'd enjoy a trip to the cinema. Another promptly asked: 'Are you a virgin?'
Their audacity was shocking - they made no attempt to hide their intentions, despite the fact that having sex with a 14-year-old girl is classed as rape. They aren't afraid to be up front because - nauseatingly - they have found this approach to be effective.
Clearly, enough girls are intrigued by these crass invitations to make it a worthwhile strategy.
Some men approached me more slowly, building up rapport through normal conversation - all in abbreviated language or child-like spelling. Then they started springing crude questions, such as: 'Had I had sex? Who with? Did I like it?'
Some would make relentless and disturbing requests: would I perform sex acts for them on a webcam? Could they perform sex acts for me?
Too late: Like Ashleigh Hall, 25 per cent of girls and 14 per cent of boys who make contact with someone online will go on to meet them in person
Gruesome though it is to hear, the question 'Have you ever touched yourself?' is frequently fired off to young girls.
Some men checked to see if I really was a young girl by asking innocent questions about my likes and dislikes, such as my hobbies and where I went to school.
Then, once they'd had the responses that showed I was young, they followed up with crude sexual requests or the constant chat and attention that experienced abusers use to groom girls.
And I had been online for only an hour. The scale of potential abuse is mind-blowing. Especially if, like me, you're a parent.
Our children might be savvy and aware, but, by nature, they are trustworthy and believing. Meanwhile, online paedophiles are devious, clever, calculating and manipulative.
They use photographs of other people - easily found and copied off the internet - if they want to make themselves look younger or more attractive, just like Ashleigh Hall's murderer, Peter Chapman.
And they constantly develop strategies to combat children's wariness. One new tactic is introducing victims to another teenager, who they say is a friend.
In fact, the other girl's profile is fake, created by the abuser to allay concerns. The victim believes that the stranger must be trustworthy because he has other young friends.
The 'other girl' will tell them: 'I was a bit scared, too, when I started speaking to him, but he's a really nice man, very genuine; we've met and he is who he says he is.'
Other abusers use a fake girl to encourage the victim to engage in sexual behaviour, saying such things as: 'He gave me a kiss the other day and it was nice' or 'My first sex was with him and he's careful and delicate.'
It's horrifying, yet this is happening to teenagers right now across the internet.
Once we taught children that strangers held the greatest danger, but in the world of instant intimacy that is cyberspace, teenagers don't consider these men to be strangers; they think they are friends.
And the stereotypical image of the weirdo couldn't be more misleading: these men appear responsible and respectable. One thing they have in common is that they are confident and able when dealing with children and young people.
Parents need to realise that these people are clever at appearing normal. They don't stand out in a crowd; they look no different to you or me.
The Government must provide police forces throughout Britain with the resources for covert policing, so they can lure men with fake teenage profiles before they ruin the lives of real children
They hold down jobs and are able to perpetrate abuse by hiding behind the internet for anonymity.
I know, because I have met some of the most dangerous sex offenders in the country in prisons.
The problem is that they can be caught far too late - like 33-year-old serial rapist and killer Peter Chapman.
What happened to Ashleigh Hall is desperately sad, but not surprising, given the proliferation of paedophiles online and the fact that 25 per cent of girls and 14 per cent of boys who make contact with someone online will go on to meet them in person.
That is why the policing of social networking sites must be changed radically.
I have followed a Metropolitan police paedophile unit that uses a covert approach to ensnare online abusers and arrest them.
It was incredibly effective, putting ten men in jail, but it is not practised enough. Tragically, the common police approach is reactive: finding and arresting abusers once they have been reported. By then the damage has been done.
What is needed is a pro-active approach. The Government must provide police forces throughout Britain with the resources for covert policing, so they can lure men with fake teenage profiles before they ruin the lives of real children. The hunters must become the hunted.
At present, these monsters wander the internet without fear or caution - evident by the onslaught of inappropriate messages I received when I put my fake profile online.
For what is most shocking about my investigation is not only the number of predators waiting to pounce, but also the lack of policing.
Those men who approached me are probably still there, waiting for young girls. In fact, they may have already found and preyed on many more.
But because we don't have proactive policing, they will remain at large until someone they abuse reports them. As a parent, I don't consider that acceptable.
Yes, my 14-year-old daughter uses Facebook, but with stringent privacy settings and a maximum of 30 friends, all of whom she must know genuinely - and I am one of them.
What happened to Ashleigh must never happen to another child. We need to turn around the online environment by targeting sex offenders before they target young girls.
Ultimately, it's up to all of us - parents, teachers, police and internet companies - to educate and protect our children. Otherwise there are going to be many more Ashleighs.
• Interview: Laura Topham
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