If you reject a girl

[ztballer]

once, 2 years ago and since then she's ignored you, what are the chances you could make her like you again?

Real advice fellas

JJ feel free to jump in here, I need solid advice

[Deuce]

Initiate conversation with her via email and start a warm relationship again. Ease into it.

[ztballer]

I've sent her a few texts here and there, she even got me a job at her work. I'll be working with her for a month 5 days a week.

I am an idiot for rejecting her!!

[johncrud]

Money can buy almost anything. IF she sees that you got properties you can still be with her no matter how many times you screwed her over.

[Deuce]

I've sent her a few texts here and there, she even got me a job at her work. I'll be working with her for a month 5 days a week. I am an idiot for rejecting her!!

She will have her guard up, she will bury you at first just ease it in.

[ztballer]

Money can buy almost anything. IF she sees that you got properties you can still be with her no matter how many times you screwed her over.

she's not a prostitute mate

[KingCrimson21]

Might we know why you rejected her in the first place? I know it is not popular, but try the got damn truth. Jesus Christ we make simple things hard nowadays with bullshit and lies.

[AMBlai01]

Shit happens people grow up and change. You guys are probably both in a different place in your life so like Kinger says...just go after it and see what happens. Open a conversation some way or another....email, facebook, text...however you can and just get a feel to what is going on in her head.

[twister]

Might we know why you rejected her in the first place? I know it is not popular, but try the got damn truth. Jesus Christ we make simple things hard nowadays with bullshit and lies.

People telling the truth on the internet? Will never happen.

[ztballer]

I liked another girl at the time who I was seeing on and off. I was also starting college that year and didn't want to committ to anything - I rejected her because she was always calling me, always wanting to see me, etc. My friends always tell me I'm an idiot for saying no. I would have to agree with them.

I wanna ask her out just to see how things would go. Not sure if after a month is rushing things

[FreeFall]

No once an ex always an ex. Man up this is why Americans are pussies. They go back for seconds in everything. Theres 3 billion women in the sea and your fighting over one?

[ztballer]

Shit happens people grow up and change. You guys are probably both in a different place in your life so like Kinger says...just go after it and see what happens. Open a conversation some way or another....email, facebook, text...however you can and just get a feel to what is going on in her head.

we met up for dinner a few months ago and I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she told me she had given up.. when the hell do girls get back in the game

[AMBlai01]

Well if she had it that bad for you previously...she probably will at least give you a shot. Ask her to dinner..what is the worst that happens? She says no and you are back where you started. Nothing to lose.

[Vesuvius]

you got it in the bag! grocery bag

[twister]

No once an ex always an ex. Man up this is why Americans are pussies. They go back for seconds in everything. Theres 3 billion women in the sea and your fighting over one?

Never a truer word spoken.

That single-mindedness causes all sorts of shit. People killing and starting wars over 1 girl, whose pussy is gonna feel just the same as that girl across the road. Need to open their minds, do some people.

[ztballer]

No once an ex always an ex. Man up this is why Americans are pussies. They go back for seconds in everything. Theres 3 billion women in the sea and your fighting over one?

I guess I will always be wondering what could have happened. Yeah there are a billion in the sea but the rest are like bait. This girl is unreal.

[AMBlai01]

we met up for dinner a few months ago and I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she told me she had given up.. when the hell do girls get back in the game

Well girls will say that until they meet someone its worth getting back into the game for. Just show a little interest. You never know....maybe you are the guy that can get her back in the game and a reason to do so.

[Karayilan9]

Stop making a problem out of nothing, if you reject a girl the odds are very high that you can get her whenever you want. Girls hate getting rejected but love a guy who does because they have shown there not just after the sex and if you act like you don't want it but they like you odds are very high they wanna fuk you.

[ztballer]

Well if she had it that bad for you previously...she probably will at least give you a shot. Ask her to dinner..what is the worst that happens? She says no and you are back where you started. Nothing to lose.

true

I don't want it to come off weird, 2 yrs later...

but you're right, at least I will know

[AMBlai01]

If you don't at least give it a shot and show some interest you will always wonder in the back of your mind. Give yourself a little credit and be confident that you still can get her. If you don't show confidence she will read that and think that you are going back to her as a fallback and it isn't the case at all.

[lyon804]

I had a similar situation years ago. I was in a relationship, but when it was over I called the girl. It was early one morning before like 7am. I had went to bed thinking about this girl and woke up thinking about her. Haven't spoke to her in quite some time and just called her out of the blue real early in the morning.Neither one of us are morning people, but it seemed like the timing and the unexpectedness of it definitely worked in my favor. We had a nice conversation, we had both just woke up so it was really as good as could be expected. Things developed quickly from there. I was about your age at the time. Now this chick I am talking about is my wife and we have a child together.

[twister]

true I don't want it to come off weird, 2 yrs later... but you're right, at least I will know

If you go out and bang 3-5 different girls over the next few weeks/months, you will completely forget about this chick. She's only "special" because your dick is screaming for some female attention. Once it's had its fix, you won't give a flying **** about her.

[KingCrimson21]

No wonder AMB gets ALL the ass. The man knows the (how to) score!

[JoshW]

You have to get her friends intersted in you. Then you can go out and have fun with everyone but her. If she ignored you for two years, you have got a long way to go and likely should forget about it. Only shot is to make here extremely jealous.

[ztballer]

I had a similar situation years ago. I was in a relationship, but when it was over I called the girl. It was early one morning before like 7am. I had went to bed thinking about this girl and woke up thinking about her. Haven't spoke to her in quite some time and just called her out of the blue real early in the morning.Neither one of us are morning people, but it seemed like the timing and the unexpectedness of it definitely worked in my favor. We had a nice conversation, we had both just woke up so it was really as good as could be expected. Things developed quickly from there. I was about your age at the time. Now this chick I am talking about is my wife and we have a child together.

wow!!!

I used to talk to this girl every night and she would come over to my campus and surprise me then when she told me, I rejected her, she began ignoring me like I didn't even exist. Wouldn't talk to me anymore, didn't wanna see me.

Thanks for sharing the story. Epic

[ztballer]

You have to get her friends intersted in you. Then you can go out and have fun with everyone but her. If she ignored you for two years, you have got a long way to go and likely should forget about it. Only shot is to make here extremely jealous.

my mate thinks I should talk to her best friend about it, afterall girls tell each other everything

[JoshW]

Don't talk to the best friend, hit on her. Or at least have fun with her where your original target can see it.

Honestly, if she has ignored you for two years, this isn't playing hard to get, she wants nothing to do with you. The best advice is move on.

[AMBlai01]

I don't think the fact that she hasn't been around for 2 years means she wants nothing to do with him as much as it means she had moved on. That isn't a bad thing but she figured there was no shot so why should she continue to pine over him.

[lyon804]

wow!!!

I used to talk to this girl every night and she would come over to my campus and surprise me then when she told me, I rejected her, she began ignoring me like I didn't even exist. Wouldn't talk to me anymore, didn't wanna see me.

Thanks for sharing the story. Epic

Your welcome! Well, it definitely seems like you have your work cut out based on these comments. I really don't know the girl so I can't be any help to you. The only advice I can give you is to think about your move and be bold and confident with it and follow up with it in a few days. The only thing I can guarantee you is, initially you will probably get the cold shoulder. This should be expected. I am dure the chick has some pride and ego just like all hot chicks. Either way it appears the chick has been or feels stifled and hurt by you. It happens, no big deal. I seen another poster mention a good point. If she has had feeling once before about you chances are they can be rekindled. It sounds like she is not use to being turned down. Expect the initial cold shoulder once you make your move. One thing I left out about my play earlier. I was coming across as only being friends, which always leads to more and better things if you play it right. I keep digressing, but another good point a poster made is this. Don't make it seem like your are dropping to her or she is second choice. Make her feel like she is the one. All girls like this. Either way the situation is attainable, but you will have to be the one to pull it off. Have confidence and be direct. Not to sound corny and gay here, but speak from your heart and be direct with her on how you feel. Tell her why you initially rejected her advances. Don't want to sound like a mac daddy here, but I have always got girls latter that I initially shunned. There was something there in the first place for her to like you. Question, is are you the same?

[ztballer]

Thanks guys, I'm going to ease into it and become her friend again and go from there

some gold advice in this thread

Thanks

[AMBlai01]

Lyon is putting more eloquently everything that i have been trying to say! haha

[lyon804]

Lyon is putting more eloquently everything that i have been trying to say! haha

Thanks! It is just really a game that never ends. I am obviously thru getting into new relationships since I am married now, but I haven't forgot. It's like riding a bike. I was once so full of shit and cocky when I was his age I believed my on bullshit. Girls love confidence. At times I bordered on a little belidgerant or arrogant, but it's better to error on this side rather than being meek or a pussy with no confidence and no answers. No chick will respect that. Act like you are it and have the answers.Be bold and be strong, but do it in a way that let's her know you are so in to her.


Once you get thru with her vagina you can repeat these steps with many other females. This process is alot easier than gambling.

[acarmelo1]

Send her a condom, she will get the idea

[Karayilan9]

You played a sharp game Ztballer but just haven't recognized it yet, just be cool with her, act like you don't give a sh*t about her but then drop in a few comments about how her shoes or whatever she got on looks nice, keep her confused and interested. You'll be in there in no time

[jjgold]

Baller no clue because I never rejected a girl let alone even had a chance to reject one. I am the wrong guy to ask.