May have to put Son in Rehab

**funnyb25** · 10-08-17, 07:15 AM

Just give him 10k for 1 bet today. He will get it back

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 07:16 AM

Funny , not funny

this is a true event

**baseballstud** · 10-08-17, 07:17 AM

Very sorry to hear this. Been there before it will get better.

**funnyb25** · 10-08-17, 07:18 AM

Originally posted by Sam Odom

Funny , not funny

this is a true event

Sammy..if this is true, I do apologize...It is not funny...Please forgive me

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 07:21 AM

Originally posted by funnyb25

...Please forgive me

done

but understand because so much here is bullshit

**phinfan27615** · 10-08-17, 07:22 AM

sending prayer

**El Nino** · 10-08-17, 07:24 AM

You can't "put" people in rehab. They have to want to change. It's addiction. If $8K is enough to break someone...they shouldn't have that much in their account. Hopefully, he figures it out.

**shadymcgrady** · 10-08-17, 07:26 AM

Is he still a kid Sammy? Everyone here has gone through gambling trials by fire, it's bound to happen just hope he learns from it

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 07:26 AM

Originally posted by El Nino

You can't "put" people in rehab.

correct

we are working with him

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 07:26 AM

Originally posted by shadymcgrady

Is he still a kid Sammy?

30+

**newguy** · 10-08-17, 07:31 AM

Shit man. I've been there. It's money so that's the good thing. I did this years ago except mine was credit card debt I was paying off for years. Gotta get it in control. If he's otherwise a good kid and this was his bottoming out you will be good man. Sending prayers your way bud.

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 07:33 AM

Originally posted by newguy

Shit man. I've been there. It's money so that's the good thing. I did this years ago except mine was credit card debt

told his wife to take all CCs & DCs from him - keep him off the internet until we get this sorta out

**shadymcgrady** · 10-08-17, 07:35 AM

Originally posted by newguy

Shit man. I've been there. It's money so that's the good thing. I did this years ago except mine was credit card debt I was paying off for years. Gotta get it in control. If he's otherwise a good kid and this was his bottoming out you will be good man. Sending prayers your way bud.

Times have changed haven't they newguy? So dangerous these days to replicate that behavior

Credit card companies are begging for action, 0% apr and low to no balance transfer fees. People can rack up what constitutes as a down payment on a house in no time

**El Nino** · 10-08-17, 07:36 AM

Originally posted by Sam Odom

correct

we are working with him

Good luck. Hopefully, this wakes him up and makes him realize the value of a dollar. We've all lost a good chunk of change in our lives. Just have to make sure the rest of his life is in balance.

**JAKEPEAVY21** · 10-08-17, 08:21 AM

pretty much what el nino said...gambling can be vicious if you don't have self control.

**JAKEPEAVY21** · 10-08-17, 08:47 AM

gambling within your means and being able to take a loss and walk away rather than tilting are musts if you want to stay in the game or eventually it will catch up to you.

He probably needs some time away from gambling and feel the hurt so it won't happen to this extent again.

**slayer14** · 10-08-17, 09:00 AM

Never keep large sums in account you always get tempted to chase losses

**RangeFinder** · 10-08-17, 09:02 AM

Sammy, it has to come through his change of heart. He needs to find something else to occupy his time and you can help him with that. Find something you use to do when he was young like fishing, golf, or whatever and do it together every week. Let him know that's it's okay to make mistakes, but to learn from them, recover and to teach others not to make the same mistakes. Good will come from this.

**jjgold** · 10-08-17, 09:12 AM

He is going down a terrible path

LIKE I SAID NOBODY WINS

Bet for fun only

**slayer14** · 10-08-17, 09:15 AM

Originally posted by jjgold

He is going down a terrible path

LIKE I SAID NOBODY WINS

Bet for fun only

JJ you given up being a pro gambler

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 09:18 AM

Originally posted by jjgold

LIKE I SAID NOBODY WINS

Bet for fun only

So... dont send any $$$ offshore

**opie1988** · 10-08-17, 10:12 AM

Here's the deal Sam...

30+ ain't no kid. Time to quit babying the motherfukker. He clearly knows mom & daddy will be there to bail his ass out, which is the only reason he called your ass crying. Why on earth would a grown, married man tell his parents all of his financial situation?

I know you love him....but time to give this motherfukker some tough love. Get him off that tit. Fukk spending 75k for fukkin gambli rehab. That's fukkin laughable to me. Not like he's got a heroin addiction. Tell him to grow the fukk up and quit being such a selfish prick.

**MickeyMan** · 10-08-17, 10:14 AM

Encourage him to keep on gambling, that a hot streak is just around the corner and post his picks on here so we can fade.

Thanks Sam

**thomorino** · 10-08-17, 10:19 AM

You can talk about money management all you want but you really have to lose money to learn the discipline you need to have any success gambling.

**bhoor** · 10-08-17, 10:23 AM

Originally posted by opie1988

Here's the deal Sam...

30+ ain't no kid. Time to quit babying the motherfukker. He clearly knows mom & daddy will be there to bail his ass out, which is the only reason he called your ass crying. Why on earth would a grown, married man tell his parents all of his financial situation?

I know you love him....but time to give this motherfukker some tough love. Get him off that tit. Fukk spending 75k for fukkin gambli rehab. That's fukkin laughable to me. Not like he's got a heroin addiction. Tell him to grow the fukk up and quit being such a selfish prick.

When you do something, it should not affect your loved ones and others. And he is 30-years-old after all.

**thomorino** · 10-08-17, 10:24 AM

Yeah, at some point people are more willing to change behavior if they know they won't be bailed out.

**Mac4Lyfe** · 10-08-17, 10:25 AM

Originally posted by Sam Odom

Gambling

Wife (and X) blame Sammy

Anyhow... Sammy in trouble

Kid lost $8K yesterday... all he had in 3 accts. Called last night crying

You need to emphasize that he called you. That means he wants to do something about it. Gambling is very easy to get a hold of, if you are accountable to someone else. Make him accountable to you. Determine a SET amount of money that he can lose per week and hold him accountable to that amount. Hell it may need to be $100 but once that is set, he cannot deviate. He has to be accountable by showing you his inflow and outflow of money. All accounts, all pay stubs, all bills. Maybe start him off betting points here at SBR only until he can be trusted with real cash.

**gauchojake** · 10-08-17, 10:25 AM

Sammy sorry to hear that. I worry about this type of thing coming back to bite me years down the road. I have always been open with my kids and wife about my gambling. I try to warn them about the dangers, but in the end they are going to do what they want to do.

**milwaukee mike** · 10-08-17, 10:26 AM

sorry to hear sammy

5-10 years ago i was doing the same thing... grind away and then get drunk and piss away thousands in online or real casinos

i'd like to say it's only money but it can lead to depression/worse issues. if you need any help just ask, i've had some experiences in this

**JAKEPEAVY21** · 10-08-17, 10:28 AM

Originally posted by opie1988

Here's the deal Sam...

30+ ain't no kid. Time to quit babying the motherfukker. He clearly knows mom & daddy will be there to bail his ass out, which is the only reason he called your ass crying. Why on earth would a grown, married man tell his parents all of his financial situation?

I know you love him....but time to give this motherfukker some tough love. Get him off that tit. Fukk spending 75k for fukkin gambli rehab. That's fukkin laughable to me. Not like he's got a heroin addiction. Tell him to grow the fukk up and quit being such a selfish prick.

gotta agree with this , Sammy

if you bail him out you aren't doing him any favors in the long run

**Sam Odom** · 10-08-17, 10:31 AM

thanks guys... in your own ways you all believe you made positive posts

no bailout... money lost was all postup . as far as Sammy knows

picking him up at 11am for a father/son talk

**gauchojake** · 10-08-17, 10:34 AM

If he says he needs to pay the man on Tuesday, do NOT give him cash. You can decide if you want to go with him and pay it or work out a plan, but giving him access to money if you can't control it is bad news.

**JAKEPEAVY21** · 10-08-17, 10:36 AM

I think many of us have been in a similar situation at some point.

this is going to be painful for him in the short term but can actually be beneficial long term if he learns from his mistake.

**Louisvillekid1** · 10-08-17, 10:39 AM

Gl Sammy

Hope fam gets well