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When a dude makes a retirement thread and then doesn't follow thru, he loses all respect.
We need men on this forum. Not whiny attention seeking queers. If you make a "I'm leaving the forum" post, then leave. If you come back, you should be banned for not keeping your word.Comment -
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funny thing is, if I say anything negative back to this clown plaza, 20 people report the post
he thinks he is in safe space now
it is clear even mods against me
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5 Reasons to Do What You Say You Will Do
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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Do you mean what you say? Do you say you will do something and then not do it?
I experience this often. Someone says they will call and they don’t. Someone says they will follow through on a project and they don’t. Someone says they will get something important finished by a particular time and they don’t.
How do you feel about someone who says they will do something and they don’t do it?
Before I get into the importance of keeping your word, let’s explore some of the reasons for not doing this. If you are a person who doesn’t do what you say you will do, what is behind this behavior? Here are two possibilities:
- When someone asks you to do something, do you say yes to control how they feel about you? Are you afraid of their disappointment? Do you give yourself up by saying yes so they won’t get mad, even though you don’t really want to do it?
- Do you say yes, thinking you will do it, but then a part of you that hates to be controlled takes over and you go into resistance? Is it more important to you to not be controlled than to be true to your word?
Lydia, a client of mine, operates from both of these reasons. Her husband, Jackson, often asks her for help with something. She always says yes because she experiences his request as a demand and is afraid of his reaction if she says no. But then a resistant, wounded part of her that was very controlled as a child takes over, and she ends up not doing what she said she would. She always has an excuse: “I forgot.” “I haven’t had the time.” “I don’t know how.” “I’m afraid of not doing it right.” Jackson feels frustrated and gets angry, which serves to create more fear and resistance. Lydia ends up feeling badly about herself and Jackson feels as though he is unimportant to her. Their power struggle has gone on for many years and will not shift until one of them starts to take responsibility for themselves, rather than trying to control the other or resist being controlled.
Five Reasons to Do What You Say You Are Going to Do
1. Integrity
For me, doing what I say I will do is a matter of integrity. I wouldn’t feel good about myself if I didn’t keep my word. My word means something to me — I do not take it lightly. If your keeping your word doesn’t mean much to you, why is that?
2. Trust and Reliability
I do not trust people who don’t keep their word. If someone lets me down a number of times, then I know they are not reliable. I find that this limits my desire to spend time with them, which is sometimes sad, but I have learned to accept that I cannot trust them to follow through on what they say they are going to do. Friendships and deeply connected relationships thrive on trust.
Years ago I had a webmaster who consistently said he would get something done by a certain time and often didn’t. Of course, he is no longer my webmaster. While my current webmaster, who I adore, doesn’t always get things done right on time, I can feel that it is not due to resistance or a fear of being controlled. He is a man of honor and tries his best to do what he says he will do. His caring and sense of integrity make all the difference to me.
3. Respect
I lose respect for people whose word doesn’t mean anything to them. I end up feeling manipulated when someone says they are going to do something and then doesn’t do it. Of course, I give them leeway at the beginning. There may be a good reason they didn’t do what they said they were going to do. But if it happens over and over, I accept that I can’t rely on them and my respect for them goes down.
If you want to feel respected by others, then you need to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no, and not allow your fear of rejection or your fear of being controlled to get in the way of being a trustworthy person.
4. Self-Worth
We cannot feel worthy when we let ourselves down by letting others down. People who renege on their word do not value themselves enough to act with integrity. Is resistance to being controlled really more important than your self-worth? Are you kidding yourself that you can feel inwardly worthy when you don’t keep your commitments? Self-worth is the result of treating ourselves and others with caring and respect.
5. Personal Power
Personal power is the result of behaving in ways we value. I remember, when I was a young woman, seeing the play A Man for All Seasons by Robert Bolt. This is the story of Sir Thomas Moore, who refused to endorse King Henry VIII’s desire to divorce his wife, Catherine of Aragon, because she could not bear him a son. He wanted to marry Anne Boleyn, the sister of his former mistress. I was so impressed by Moore, whose sense of principle was such that he chose to die rather than lose his integrity. He was a man of great personal power, greatly loved by his family and the people. I recognized that it was his personal power that gave him the strength to die rather than compromise his integrity in order to live. I understood that, in his eyes, his life would not be worth living if he were not true to himself.
Are you being true to yourself by keeping your word? If not, you might want to explore why.
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I have 3.5 mods reviewing every single post I make
I was sent a list of 25 adjectives that I am allowed to use to describe posters
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After a poster makes this thread more than once in a month, mods should oblige
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You wouldn't last 10mins in the octagon with me.
Even a short trained long hair like me can fukk up 90% of males up to double my weight with basic Muay Thai/Krav Maga training....
Jail? Only idiots get caught. So you are telling me you did hard time?
Another lie... cool.Comment -
Fact is most don't even know how to throw a punch, much less a kick... clinching? gimme a fukkin break
Don't be poking bears Rudy-PoohComment -
dunno. hair pulling was like the nuts in the ufc before they banned it. gracie pulling ppls hair then knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, knee to the groin, then win.Comment -
steve is here because I laughed at him for losing his gf to a BBC
he became a cuckold and we laughed together...we finished 3rd and 4th and were GREAT
he became a methhead and made really stupid threads on sbr
I wished him well and hoped he got better. even in sbr poker I said come on steve don't do that, get off the meth
well I won from steve and he got mad at me
fast forward, he leaves sbr
goes to tgf
I said hey eggs, great seeing you bro. we are friends there
he gets banned for stiffing and leaving a jerking off voicemail
he comes back to sbrpoker cussing me out nonstop
I didn't do anything
I keep asking if it was the bbc, the meth, the stiff, the jerking
he wont tell me
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So you're arguing with him in the very thread in players talk that you announced you were leaving players talk?
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Keeps trying to save face with made up nonsense every time. In this thread he also made up things about moderators, a new low.
Truth speaks louder then fiction, every time.
Claiming you're leaving for more attention is the lamest thing anyone will ever see and no babble will ever overcome that.
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Just fukkin leave like u said you fukkin would!!!
No one gives a fukk about your bullshitt aint it obvious???? most are annoyed
yesterday you said you were behaving, no fighting
couldnt even stick to your word for 2 hours
you have no word, no balls, nothing
fukkin slimeball
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Never said I didn't, just like occupying my mind on productive stuff, e battles are for the feeble minded
So I can understand why is your fave past time
Came back from my 40min jog... already worked 8am-4pm... capped 10 games, 8 pending
Lifting time
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Boondock Saints motherfukkerComment
