1. 02-16-12 11:20 PM #1
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    Me and the wife separated after 11 years this week.....

    The weird thing is now thats its finally happened ......I am not sure if I am happy or sad with it all. On one hand I feel relieved on the other hand I miss seeing my son every night but every other 2 days dont seem to bad yet.

    What a life...........
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  2. 02-16-12 11:22 PM #2
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    whose ghost are you
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  3. 02-16-12 11:33 PM #3
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    Congratulations, and I don't mean that in a smart ass way, seriously, congratulations!
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  4. 02-16-12 11:35 PM #4
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    Quote Originally Posted by mav2112 View Post
    The weird thing is now thats its finally happened ......I am not sure if I am happy or sad with it all. On one hand I feel relieved on the other hand I miss seeing my son every night but every other 2 days dont seem to bad yet.

    What a life...........
    I can relate, man.

    Im still not comfortable not seeing my 2 young boys every night.

    And I got separated 3.5 years ago.

    Let me put it this way.........4 years ago I didn't drink whiskey.
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  5. 02-16-12 11:43 PM #5
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    The current system is so backwards and non functional. What a fukkin joke
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  7. 02-16-12 11:47 PM #7
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLock View Post
    I can relate, man.

    Im still not comfortable not seeing my 2 young boys every night.

    And I got separated 3.5 years ago.

    Let me put it this way.........4 years ago I didn't drink whiskey.
    Good luck, Daft. You seem like a good guy, pal.
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  8. 02-16-12 11:49 PM #8
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    Quote Originally Posted by opie1988 View Post
    Good luck, Daft. You seem like a good guy, pal.
    Daft is a good guy.
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  9. 02-16-12 11:49 PM #9
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    Thats sad, especially when kids are involved, don't start drinking that won't help anyone.You didn't mention the age of the boys if you can coach baseba;; you can be with your son more.I f you think it hurts you just imagine being your son he doesn't know if you will have another family etc. My advice is get into some glsses with the boy and settle him first then worry about yourself later , reall ysorry about our situation.Your son is more confused and scared you help him out
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  10. 02-16-12 11:53 PM #10
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    Quote Originally Posted by ttwarrior1 View Post
    whose ghost are you
    What the fuk is wrong with you...fukking hamburger.
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  11. 02-17-12 12:08 AM #11
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    y did u 2 seperate?

    anyhow im sorry to hear that
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  12. 02-17-12 12:13 AM #12
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    She's gone, who knows what's gonna happen now?
    I think I might miss her a little.
    I know I miss my kids.
    I think I....
    Hey wait, where did all this gambling money come from?!
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  13. 02-17-12 12:19 AM #13
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    nothing,just wondered who ghost of is all
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  14. 02-17-12 12:19 AM #14
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    Sorry to hear about that Mav, tough break. It is a good and a bad thing as you said. Good for the variety of clam you may now sample but bad in regards to your boys.

    I would be pretty depressed not having my boys around each day and I cannot imagine your situation.

    Things will get better Mav, they always do. Hang in there bro.
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  15. 02-17-12 12:21 AM #15
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    The novelty of new TRIM wears off after 18 months or so


    Missing the kids doesn't go away.
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  16. 02-17-12 12:26 AM #16
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    and if your kids are retarded? well, **** em
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  17. 02-17-12 12:29 AM #17
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    What is worse Mav, the marriage falling apart and losing your girl or the loss of days you can see your son Mav? An 11 year marriage is not a small amount of time nowadays for alot of people and throwing kids into the equation makes it that much harder it would seem.

    I hope this new year brings you good fortune, hopefully you can meet someone and really get a good deal with seeing your son on a steady basis and being a major part of his life .
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  18. 02-17-12 12:31 AM #18
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    Quote Originally Posted by baskets View Post
    and if your kids are retarded? well, **** em
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  19. 02-17-12 06:20 AM #19
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    Verrrry hard situation. I wish you the best.
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  20. 02-17-12 06:35 AM #20
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    Best day of your life man

    You will be very happy
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  21. 02-17-12 06:45 AM #21
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    Many divorced dads disconnect from their kids when they separate from their ex-wives, do not let this happen use this as a chance to build an even stronger relationship with your boys.

    I don't know what happened or the reasons for the divorce, but try to maintain a healthy relationship with the ex it will make things 1000x easier, because after all she will most likely have the most say in how much time you get with your boys.

    Focus on the positives! I feel for you man.
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  22. 02-17-12 06:52 AM #22
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    hang in there man.. we are here your sbr brothers to support you!
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  23. 02-17-12 06:53 AM #23
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    Valentine's day is also a time for breakups, divorces, separation, etc. a time to really reflect on self evaluation and the relationship itself. You did say separated, so you have not officially ended the marriage. Work to either make the marriage work or make sure the kids get all of your attention.
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  24. 02-17-12 06:56 AM #24
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    having been married and divorced twice bro i know what you are going through just make sure that your kids know you are always there for them. i know its not the same but you can call him and talk to him everyday. hey its the simplest things you can do to let him know that just because im not there anymore im still your dad and i will always be a part of your life its not an easy situation but you will get through it keep your head up and dont go jumping into another relationship. when you do start dating make it VERY clear to whoever you are seeing that my children come first and DO NOT let your children meet a woman for at least 8 months - 1 year that you are seeing her this will save you plenty of headaches from your ex wife
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  25. 02-17-12 06:59 AM #25
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    Just divorce her ass then shoot for custody like I did! Been divorced three years now and I have full custody for the most part. Only draw back is I don't get a dime in child support. She's a broke crackhead.
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  26. 02-17-12 07:06 AM #26
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    Quote Originally Posted by allabout the $$$ View Post
    having been married and divorced twice bro i know what you are going through just make sure that your kids know you are always there for them. i know its not the same but you can call him and talk to him everyday. hey its the simplest things you can do to let him know that just because im not there anymore im still your dad and i will always be a part of your life its not an easy situation but you will get through it keep your head up and dont go jumping into another relationship. when you do start dating make it VERY clear to whoever you are seeing that my children come first and DO NOT let your children meet a woman for at least 8 months - 1 year that you are seeing her this will save you plenty of headaches from your ex wife


    Very solid advice right here.

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    Should be the best day of your life.. Congrats
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  29. 02-17-12 08:38 AM #29
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    I couldnt imagine not being able to see my boys every night. I have a few buddies who are seperated from their wives and kids. Sometimes I'll miss out on doing shit with my buddies because of the kids, and those guys always seem so jealous. They both would go back to their wives, just so they could see their kids full time.

    Good luck man, tough situation.
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  30. 02-17-12 08:39 AM #30
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    Sorry to hear Mav!
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  31. 02-17-12 08:43 AM #31
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    Quote Originally Posted by WvGambler View Post
    I couldnt imagine not being able to see my boys every night. I have a few buddies who are seperated from their wives and kids. Sometimes I'll miss out on doing shit with my buddies because of the kids, and those guys always seem so jealous. They both would go back to their wives, just so they could see their kids full time.
    Good luck man, tough situation.
    I feel 'ya, dawg. I always joke with my wife that if we ever split, I'm doing "whatever it takes" to get full custody of my daughter. Even if it means she has to incur an "unfortunate incident".

    I mean....I always make it seem to her like I'm kind of joking. But I'm not.
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  32. 02-17-12 08:48 AM #32
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    Quote Originally Posted by opie1988 View Post
    I feel 'ya, dawg. I always joke with my wife that if we ever split, I'm doing "whatever it takes" to get full custody of my daughter. Even if it means she has to incur an "unfortunate incident".

    I mean....I always make it seem to her like I'm kind of joking. But I'm not.
    Haha. I say the same stuff. I always say "remember I work for CPS and I know the system. I'll have your ass thrown in jail before you even know I'm unhappy."

    I couldn't take not being in an old fashioned family where the parents are together and you sit down to dinner every night. I've never known different.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WvGambler View Post
    Haha. I say the same stuff. I always say "remember I work for CPS and I know the system. I'll have your ass thrown in jail before you even know I'm unhappy."
    Oh....I see. I was actually referring to my semi-veiled threats of murder. But.....I guess your way could work too!

    To each his own, pal!
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  34. 02-17-12 09:29 AM #34
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    One of my divorced buddies has a police scanner. Everytime he hears there's an accident on the interstate towards his ex's house, he gets excited and hopes its her. He literally prays that its her and that she's alone.

    Divorce is brutal.
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  35. 02-17-12 09:42 AM #35
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    Whatever ya do...don't let any ill feelings between you two flow over onto the kids.....avoid talking shit about the other to them etc. Never ends well and the kids don't deserve it. Hope you and the wife/exwife can agree on that and be good from here out.

    Separations and divorces happen man.....but life goes on. You'll pull through.
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