Ever start out as friends and then later start dating a woman?

[Big Bear]

If so how is this transition made?

Like lets say the girl has had some bad experiences with crazy guys and clingy guys

How do you make that transition to more than friends?

I was thinking I’d let her initiate contact and make the moves

[Auto Donk]

no. always did the opposite....

[Big Bear]

no. always did the opposite....

Any suggestions though?

So basically we met at a club danced made out she was all over me. Like all over me but she was drunk and so was I.

Then told me she wasn’t ready to date via text.
I said well you seem cool so we can be friends if you want.

I didn’t expect to hear from her again.

But the next day she comes over and we talked for like 3 straight hours and smoked weed.

We had a movie on but neither of us watched it.

She told me her whole life story and told me some crazy shit guys have done to her.

The last incident she was still traumatized over a dude she was seeing she broke things off with and blocked his number but he broke into her house while she was sleeping and got in bed with her.

I was like damn he’s lucky he didn’t get shot.


Well there’s that and she is still married.

Her ex left the state though so they are done.

He cheated on her with a stripper and then for the next 2 years they had a sexless marriage

All the body language and stuff indicated she was into me but I didn’t make a move.

When she left I hugged her and she gave me a funny look. I was like what? And then I said wasn’t going to try to kiss you. And then she paused and hugged me again but with one arm lol

She is cool as fukk though and I told her straight up I’m very attracted to you and I am not trying to play the whole pretend to be friends and secretly want to hook up with you thing

She said okay but just don’t get too anxious with your timeline

[Mr. Teaser]

This is how I met the wife. We were both teachers and friends for many years. She was married and I wasn't then I was married and she wasn't. Then.....

[MinnesotaFats]

If so how is this transition made?

Like lets say the girl has had some bad experiences with crazy guys and clingy guys

How do you make that transition to more than friends?

I was thinking I’d let her initiate contact and make the moves

Let her come to you...

[maggiethebestdog]

Any suggestions though?

So basically we met at a club danced made out she was all over me. Like all over me but she was drunk and so was I.

Then told me she wasn’t ready to date via text.
I said well you seem cool so we can be friends if you want.

I didn’t expect to hear from her again.

But the next day she comes over and we talked for like 3 straight hours and smoked weed.

We had a movie on but neither of us watched it.

She told me her whole life story and told me some crazy shit guys have done to her.

The last incident she was still traumatized over a dude she was seeing she broke things off with and blocked his number but he broke into her house while she was sleeping and got in bed with her.

I was like damn he’s lucky he didn’t get shot.


Well there’s that and she is still married.

Her ex left the state though so they are done.

He cheated on her with a stripper and then for the next 2 years they had a sexless marriage

All the body language and stuff indicated she was into me but I didn’t make a move.

When she left I hugged her and she gave me a funny look. I was like what? And then I said wasn’t going to try to kiss you. And then she paused and hugged me again but with one arm lol

She is cool as fukk though and I told her straight up I’m very attracted to you and I am not trying to play the whole pretend to be friends and secretly want to hook up with you thing

She said okay but just don’t get too anxious with your timeline

I would suggest having one of your friends ask one her friends if she likes you while they are in study hall

[Big Bear]

Let her come to you...

Oh yeah most def

But if she hit me up and wants to chill should I make a move or nah?

[Eddy Munny]

Tickle her undercarriage with a peacock feather clenched betwixt your teeth.

Gauge her reaction. If it's positive, remove your suspenders in a seductive fashion, followed by your trousers.

Remove your gas mask and set it delicately upon her hope chest. Light a candlestick.

Perform a traditional Irish jig and click your heels together in such a way that you communicate via Morse Code that you'd like to stuff your mouth with her unwashed panties while you jack off into a fish bowl.






You're welcome.

[thechaoz]

It's already over

[thechaoz]

This is how I met the wife. We were both teachers and friends for many years. She was married and I wasn't then I was married and she wasn't. Then.....

Your misrepresenting the word friend.

Friends hang out all the time, drink, go to shows, travel, tell each other their deepest darkest secrets.

Want to truly in the friend zone you can never get out

[MinnesotaFats]

Oh yeah most def

But if she hit me up and wants to chill should I make a move or nah?

Only if theres alchohol involved and privacy. If you're canoeing down the river, or in a 'wine and painting' class then no.

If its Netflix and Chill...and you've smashed 2 bottles of Apothic then yes...

[thechaoz]

Only if theres alchohol involved and privacy. If you're canoeing down the river, or in a 'wine and painting' class then no.

If its Netflix and Chill...and you've smashed 2 bottles of Apothic then yes...

If I hear about another dude going on a FUGGIN coffee date I'm gonna shoot the place up

[Big Bear]

Basically I’m not going to call her/text her and let her come to me.

Won’t make a move either if we get up.


This will drive her crazy and she will make the moves on me I’m thinking.

[TheMetsSuck]

She sounds like a real catch. Crossing my fingers for you...

[Big Bear]

She sounds like a real catch. Crossing my fingers for you...

I think you are being sarcastic but yeah she actually is a real catch

great personality and beautiful.

I’m not going to chase though, I’ve learned my lessons from the past. You gotta let it come to you

however I’m putting women on the back burner I deleted my dating apps and I am about to start taking a real estate class on saturday and sunday to occupy my time. Free time is bad news for me

I’m afraid of ending up with an average woman like my friends

all my friends just settle for what they can get b/c it’s pussy and it feels good and they have a low self worth

I know if I start dating a 6 or a 7 I’ll end up with them long term or worse yet marrying them

before I know it I’ll have a beer belly and work at Sears

nope not me I’m about to step my game up foreal foreal

[Big Bear]

If I hear about another dude going on a FUGGIN coffee date I'm gonna shoot the place up

Lmao

[L8night]

Any suggestions though?

So basically we met at a club danced made out she was all over me. Like all over me but she was drunk and so was I.

Then told me she wasn’t ready to date via text.
I said well you seem cool so we can be friends if you want.

I didn’t expect to hear from her again.

But the next day she comes over and we talked for like 3 straight hours and smoked weed.

We had a movie on but neither of us watched it.

She told me her whole life story and told me some crazy shit guys have done to her.

The last incident she was still traumatized over a dude she was seeing she broke things off with and blocked his number but he broke into her house while she was sleeping and got in bed with her.

I was like damn he’s lucky he didn’t get shot.


Well there’s that and she is still married.

Her ex left the state though so they are done.

He cheated on her with a stripper and then for the next 2 years they had a sexless marriage

All the body language and stuff indicated she was into me but I didn’t make a move.

When she left I hugged her and she gave me a funny look. I was like what? And then I said wasn’t going to try to kiss you. And then she paused and hugged me again but with one arm lol

She is cool as fukk though and I told her straight up I’m very attracted to you and I am not trying to play the whole pretend to be friends and secretly want to hook up with you thing

She said okay but just don’t get too anxious with your timeline

All you can do now is be there when she needs you, she already knows that you are into her, but now is not the time to make a move.

Apparently she has trust in you, the next time you hang out(if there is a next time)with her, try using what she has already told you about her life, but only the parts that were happy to her, not the negative parts, can you relate to her happy moments, if yes reveal that, you are looking for common ground.

Humor, she knows you? if you can lighten the mood, make fun of yourself or somethings that you did, this will show her that you are confident with yourself and this is opening up further to her, that's a real chick magnet.

By no means initiate any more physical moves, she already knows, any further advances by you will turn her against you as she has already been through some rough relationships and doesn't need a horn dog, take sex out of the conversation for now, make her comfortable.

Listen, she has chosen you to be her confidant in life, if she wants to talk negative in her life then listen, try to add positive to the conversation with humor when applicable, just be there.

It seems she has attracted you and she knows this, now you are in the vortex of will she accept me mode? let her initiate the next move.

Good Luck

P.S. Where do I send my bill?

[BeatTheJerk]

Never if a bitch don't wanna fuk, I pretty much ghost regardless how fine/hot she is. Just my style .....

[BeatTheJerk]

Post some photos pal, lets get this thread more relatable/personable.

[Big Bear]

Here is an update

so last monday got a “thanks for letting me come over, nice talking with you text with a smiley emoji lol”

I said yeah anytime

Then Saturday I said wanna grab a bottle of wine and come over for dinner?

she said yeah she was going out with her girls at 10pm but she would hit me up around 7

i just said sounds good

well she never hit me up. I got stoned with a buddy had a few beers and fell asleep before 10pm

i checked my phone the next day to read

at 10 something she texted “OMG Sorry I suck!”

And after midnight “ U up?”

so i’m like damn that sounds like a booty call why did I have to fall asleep but then again she could have just followed through too

next day I wrote her no worries we can try again tonight

she said “lets do it haha”

then I said okay meet me at my house at 6:30, does that work for you?

she wrote me back at 7ish saying I just woke up lol what ya up to?

i said just got done playing with my kids want to come over?

no response for like 45 minutes


so I had no choice but to pull the takeaway card to save some face and I said Lets do another night, I need to study, hit me up when you want to make plans



She wrote back oh okay sounds good! btw happy fathers day


so that’s where I’m at


like I said hottest girl I’ve hung out with in a long ass time so that is the only reason I am being so patient with her

next time I have to make a move... if she says anything I’ll just say I’m not trying to be your boyfriend but I am attracted to you

but yeah I’m not contacting her period from this point on. She has to come to me.


I set myself a mental deadline of August so I will wait it out all the way til August before I reach out to her if she don’t contact me

i’m focusing on my purpose in the meantime trying to stack my money

[BeatTheJerk]

Here is an update

so last monday got a “thanks for letting me come over, nice talking with you text with a smiley emoji lol”

I said yeah anytime

Then Saturday I said wanna grab a bottle of wine and come over for dinner?

she said yeah she was going out with her girls at 10pm but she would hit me up around 7

i just said sounds good

well she never hit me up. I got stoned with a buddy had a few beers and fell asleep before 10pm

i checked my phone the next day to read

at 10 something she texted “OMG Sorry I suck!”

And after midnight “ U up?”

so i’m like damn that sounds like a booty call why did I have to fall asleep but then again she could have just followed through too

next day I wrote her no worries we can try again tonight

she said “lets do it haha”

then I said okay meet me at my house at 6:30, does that work for you?

she wrote me back at 7ish saying I just woke up lol what ya up to?

i said just got done playing with my kids want to come over?

no response for like 45 minutes


so I had no choice but to pull the takeaway card to save some face and I said Lets do another night, I need to study, hit me up when you want to make plans



She wrote back oh okay sounds good! btw happy fathers day


so that’s where I’m at


like I said hottest girl I’ve hung out with in a long ass time so that is the only reason I am being so patient with her

next time I have to make a move... if she says anything I’ll just say I’m not trying to be your boyfriend but I am attracted to you

but yeah I’m not contacting her period from this point on. She has to come to me.


I set myself a mental deadline of August so I will wait it out all the way til August before I reach out to her if she don’t contact me

i’m focusing on my purpose in the meantime trying to stack my money

Can you tastefully describe what she looks like to our viewing audience ?

[Big Bear]

Can you tastefully describe what she looks like to our viewing audience ?

Blonde hair 5 foot 7 , fat ass, gorgeous blue eyes, pretty face, legs that are tone as fukk, tan skin, and she wears daisy dukes that show the bottom of her ass, and shirts that don’t reach her belly button
She banging dude. Problem is she knows it. Every dude hits on her

i’ve come to realization I gotta grind hard and stack my money b/c even if nothing if amounts to anything with her I gotta land a high class woman like this

[Big Bear]

But really though I’m over her. I’ve let this one go

sometimes I get too in my head and I start threads like this

nothing I can do but forget about her and if she comes around great if not oh well

i’m shifting my focus to money

once I get the money everything else will fall into place

[BeatTheJerk]

Blonde hair 5 foot 7 , fat ass, gorgeous blue eyes, pretty face, legs that are tone as fukk, tan skin, and she wears daisy dukes that show the bottom of her ass, and shirts that don’t reach her belly button
She banging dude. Problem is she knows it. Every dude hits on her

i’ve come to realization I gotta grind hard and stack my money b/c even if nothing if amounts to anything with her I gotta land a high class woman like this

She sounds like she’s worth the wait. I hope you tag that & have her come back for lots more !

[eaglesfan371]

"You up?"

Saturday midnight was your chance wtf

[Big Bear]

"You up?"

Saturday midnight was your chance wtf

Yeah but I was sleeping

i cant just sit by my phone all night

maybe I’ll get another late night text this weekend

[Harry N. Lloyd]

She's bat shite crazy. Don't be a cuck.

[billyloco]

HAHAHAHA!!! Go with your feelings BB!!

[Big Bear]

She's bat shite crazy. Don't be a cuck.

[BadNina]

Would you like a female perspective?

[The Kraken]

I’ve never given it much thought but I dont think I have

I’ve developed relationships with ppl at work that later became something, but away from work there was always that spark

[Big Bear]

Would you like a female perspective?

Yeah what up bad nina

[BeatTheJerk]

Would you like a female perspective?

Please chime in dear

[mdunlap3]

Unless she’s divorced or otherwise damaged in one way or another. Let’s be friends means I’m not trying to smash.

[BadNina]

Yeah what up bad nina

You have been friend zoned. You are there when she feels low and needs her ego stroked. You might be lucky once but she will move on quickly and then you won't even be in the friend zone. Women are bitches. I know. I am one.