I am totally DONE HELPING the so called " less fortunate"

**onetrickpony** · 03-18-11, 06:32 PM

i throw eggs at them

only once, is it horrible i didnt feel bad?

**sweethook** · 03-18-11, 06:46 PM

try getting drunk with him , put on his shoes. beg him for lipstick and tomatos...... hel catch on

**Ochocinco85mvp** · 03-18-11, 06:50 PM

hahahaha, pretty funny story, but i never give to people who ask. Ill help charitys but not people on the street. Most the time its all lies

**jjgold** · 03-18-11, 06:57 PM

Originally posted by nobs

Now I know I am asshole here on SBR, but in real life I do sometimes try to be nice. In my town there are so many beggars always giving you sob stories about all their misfortune, which of course is never even 1% their fault.

Sometimes I just feel like helping, because I realize that addiction is brutal and its not entirely their fault that they suffer from various addictions.

Well long story short, I once helped this guy out with $5 because I was feeling good that day and he told me he was seriously hungry. So naturally every time he saw me after that he is asking for money.

My stupid ass would always give him some change or $1 or whatever because he is an older guy, about 50-55 and for some reason I just liked him. Now over time I would get to know him a little as we would always talk a little every time I gave him money.

Then he started coming into my job because I stupidly told him where I was working and he would always come in asking to see me ( while I am working ) and it would always be a sob story and ask for money. Over time he claimed that he was robbed, got attacked by the police, got jumped by a gang, got drugged by some friends, got falsey accused by an ex girlfiend, blah blah blah.
Always some excuse.

So I told one of my co workers how I had been helping the guy out and thats why he always come in to my job to ask for more money. I told my co worker i was going to stop giving him anything because I am beginning to feel taken advantage of. I mean the guy is always drunk off his ass when i see him.

So a couple days ago, he comes in and asks for me and while they are getting me, she tells him that I am not giving him anything any more. So he gets all shitty with her and tells her that he is done giving me free drugs then. LOL.

I am so done helping out the street begggars as this guy has clearly mistaken my kindness for weakness.

**20Four7** · 03-18-11, 07:03 PM

I remember the one time some chick said she was begging to help her kids.... she needed diapers, infant formula...yayayyaya.... I said come with me, we went to a drug store and I bought $75.00 worth of the shit, and I said to the clerk, if she tries to return anything you are not to let her. She stormed out complaining she was insulted and I was an asshole..... I guess her "kids" didn't really exist.

**biff** · 03-18-11, 07:05 PM

nobs, happens to the best of us. years ago when i was working at a gas station one night i had a homeless man come in and buy a drink but did not have enough change so i paid it for him. Well, next thing i know it the guy is coming in every day reading me the damn bible. His story was that his wife kicked him out but he was waiting for her to change her mind. I know the story was most likely true as the guy was living in a nice car. Well, he asked if he could move in with me (not joking) i told the guy he could stay in the gas station bathroom every night (was a nice clean bathroom so i was not being an ass) and after that he never asked again if he could move in with me nor did he ever stay in the bathroom.

Thing is, it never stopped. At one point i was giving this guy 10-25 bucks a night (gas station was a side job). Every damn night i'd have the bible read to me ending with me giving him cash. When I was getting really sick of the guy I asked "are you and the wife getting things cleared up?" the guy exploded. I could not not believe it. Guy was insane. That stopped him from coming by for a few days but he came back.

Want to know how i finally ended this? i quit the job. No joke, i quit to get away from the guy. As I said was a side job and back then side jobs like that were easy to come by. So in other words: yeah, you fell for his crap but you had the guts to stop it before it got to that point.

**jeffksu** · 03-18-11, 07:06 PM

It's sad but true...most of them beg to feed their addiction..not try to get help to beat their addiction..

**Louisvillekid1** · 03-18-11, 07:10 PM

man down here in ac, there is always someone asking for a $ or cigs... The same dude stands outside the taj and uses the same car broke down story for years to everyone that he can get to listen... Im like bro atlteast change your story up, but ill tell you what he does got that story down pat now. Its pretty convincing, lol....

**Rich Boy** · 03-18-11, 07:17 PM

I was waiting for a bus downtown and there is this one guy who cleans windshields, seen him working for a while now. So I chatted him up, turns out he makes pretty decent cash. Each time there is a red light, usually at least 1 car gives him some change, probably around 2 stops per minute, maybe 25-50 cents per stop, thats an easy 30-60 bucks an hour.

Guy was cleaning up.

**nobs** · 03-18-11, 07:22 PM

Thanks for the replies.

yeah I guess I should just give $10 to the salvation army or something instead of a drunk on the streets.

I usually tell people no, but this guy I just wanted to help for some reason. Guy shows no appreciation for what I have given him over the last year or so, just mad that I didnt give him more the other day.

Guy is always drunk off his ass too. I dont mean a little drunk, but totally wasted. I know alcoholism can be a terrible disease but still I am sick how some people are just about, what can you do for me.

**THE PROFIT** · 03-18-11, 07:24 PM

Originally posted by biff

nobs, happens to the best of us. years ago when i was working at a gas station one night i had a homeless man come in and buy a drink but did not have enough change so i paid it for him. Well, next thing i know it the guy is coming in every day reading me the damn bible. His story was that his wife kicked him out but he was waiting for her to change her mind. I know the story was most likely true as the guy was living in a nice car. Well, he asked if he could move in with me (not joking) i told the guy he could stay in the gas station bathroom every night (was a nice clean bathroom so i was not being an ass) and after that he never asked again if he could move in with me nor did he ever stay in the bathroom.

Thing is, it never stopped. At one point i was giving this guy 10-25 bucks a night (gas station was a side job). Every damn night i'd have the bible read to me ending with me giving him cash. When I was getting really sick of the guy I asked "are you and the wife getting things cleared up?" the guy exploded. I could not not believe it. Guy was insane. That stopped him from coming by for a few days but he came back.

Want to know how i finally ended this? i quit the job. No joke, i quit to get away from the guy. As I said was a side job and back then side jobs like that were easy to come by. So in other words: yeah, you fell for his crap but you had the guts to stop it before it got to that point.

why would you quit???

I would tell him to STFU and/or get out & not come back

If you had very calmly taken that bible from his hands while he was reading it, pulled a few pages out, stuck them down the back of your pants & wiped your ass with them, threw it at him, then went on about your biznes I bet he would have quit reading you the fukin bible

**lcscanada** · 03-18-11, 07:25 PM

I feel your pain. I did it twice in my life. The first time I was 19. Just got my car and was driving around Toronto. I pulled up to a 7/11 and this 45 year old woman came up to me begging me for $5 to buy a coffee and sand which. I told her ok, and I gave her $5. She then just stood there. I asked her why she isn't going in to get the food and coffee, she said she needs more. I shook my head and left. After I got into my car she went inside and bought a pack of smokes. I was so pissed but I swore I wouldn't help again....

then 10 years later, I am out Dec 23rd, with my buddy in Toronto on our way out to grab some food and tail, this 17 yr old homeless girl, begs me for some money to buy some food. It's Christmas I say, she's 17. I gave her $20! She hugged me and thanked me and told me she would finally have a Christmas dinner. One hour later my buddy and I come back from dinner and she and her boyfriend are sitting on a park bench drinking and smoking. I went up to her and asked her WTF, and she laughed and said thanks for the booze.

Long story short don't ever give beggars money. 99% of them have the power to change. They don't cause they are lazy and gullible good people like us keep them from helping themselves by giving them the easy way out. Never again.

**THE PROFIT** · 03-18-11, 07:28 PM

You just cant be nice to some people. Where I live theres no homeless problem, you will never see homeless people on the streets, every now & again someone will have a work for food sign at a busy intersection, but thats about it & not often.

So when I was traveling it was new for me to have to deal with these fukin panhandlers & beggars. I was a promotion guy & actually set up on the street in front of businesses in huge towns, giving shit away to people who signed up for shit!!!

So you can imagine, I am a goddamn magnet for every homeless person in the fukin city! And it would get worse every day. I fukin hated it, its nothing for me to kick a homeless mans ass

**LVBOUND** · 03-18-11, 07:28 PM

Hang in their man, good people always rise to the top in the end!

**THE PROFIT** · 03-18-11, 07:32 PM

Once I was in Chapel Hill, a very snoody town so not near as bad of a homeless problem as say Athens, GA or Richmond, VA, but there was 2 or 3 that was annoying as a case of the clap.

This one fukin guy sat on the street & beat a fukin bongo drum ALL FUKIN DAY!!! And I had to stand there & listen to that shit ALL FUKIN DAY! But this was about the 3rd time I had been to Chapel Hill and this kid did seem like a good guy down on his luck after talking to him a few times over 2-3 months. So Im in Chapel Hill for the week, I need someone to do some leg work for me, I offer to pay this kid pretty good money for very little work.

The coksuker worked for 2 hours & quit.

**Killer_Demo** · 03-18-11, 07:32 PM

i rarely give bums anything...only if they got an animal with them

**nobs** · 03-18-11, 07:34 PM

Originally posted by THE PROFIT

You just cant be nice to some people. Where I live theres no homeless problem, you will never see homeless people on the streets, every now & again someone will have a work for food sign at a busy intersection, but thats about it & not often.

So when I was traveling it was new for me to have to deal with these fukin panhandlers & beggars. I was a promotion guy & actually set up on the street in front of businesses in huge towns, giving shit away to people who signed up for shit!!!

So you can imagine, I am a goddamn magnet for every homeless person in the fukin city! And it would get worse every day. I fukin hated it, its nothing for me to kick a homeless mans ass

Same here. I lived in Muncie, Indiana, and NEVER had anyone come up to me on the street asking for money. I graduated from Ball State and end up moving to Tacoma,wa and Seattle. Its like culture shock if you arent used to the beggars because out here in Washington State they are every where and I mean every where

**nobs** · 03-18-11, 07:35 PM

Originally posted by Killer_Demo

i rarely give bums anything...only if they got an animal with them

Yeah I say No 95% of the time too, and now I say No 100% of the time

**THE PROFIT** · 03-18-11, 07:36 PM

Originally posted by nobs

Same here. I lived in Muncie, Indiana, and NEVER had anyone come up to me on the street asking for money. I graduated from Ball State and end up moving to Tacoma,wa and Seattle. Its like culture shock if you arent used to the beggars because out here in Washington State they are every where and I mean every where

I guess I grew up sheltered because I never knew what it was like to see people sleeping on park benches & shit like that until I was in my mid 20's

**mikejamm** · 03-18-11, 08:23 PM

Originally posted by nobs

Yeah I say No 95% of the time too, and now I say No 100% of the time

Hey man, not all people down and out are assholes or out to scam you! A vast majority of them really are at the end of the road and have nothing left. How do expect some guy or woman 50 to 55 years old to find a job if they have no home or not a damn thing left to their name! So you had a bad experience with "one" homeless person, how about next time not divulging personal info or where you work at? I've volunteered at several soup kitchens and most of the "homeless" men, women, and yes children, are a growing product of this fuk'ed up, great global economy we have. They were screwed over mainly by lack of knowledge by mortgage lenders, employers, ex-husbands, ex-wives, and of course drugs and alcohol. Are they totally to blame for their situation, yes partially, but most of it is caused by the mis-fortune of a greedy fuk'e up society! It's pretty god damn sad with the last shread of dignity you have left, you're standing at an intersection holding a sign and begging for money just to survive. Don't knock someone, cause your own good fortune could change in an instant.

Oh and by the fuk'in way, it's not mistaken kindness for weakness, it's called compassion for you fellow man.

And Shari, you should be fuk'in ashamed of yourself, handing out points for someone's rant about the homeless! I guess you get off on hearing people bitch about the less fortunate in the would.

**shari91** · 03-18-11, 08:27 PM

Mike, I had actually posted something that said the points were for their acts of kindness, not for them being disgruntled but my post isn't here.

I applaud and deeply respect anyone who tries to help a fellow human being out, because I know for every person who may be running a scam, there are 50 more people who truly need that help. If more people just took the first step and gave a little, I think the world would maybe be a better place.

You need to have faith in me Mike.

**lolguy999** · 03-18-11, 08:33 PM

im a nice guy too and sometimes it really feels like im being taken advantage of. Nobody understands appreciation anymore and all im working for is a thank you too... just goes to show how the human race is coming to an end

**mikejamm** · 03-18-11, 08:55 PM

Originally posted by shari91

Mike, I had actually posted something that said the points were for their acts of kindness, not for them being disgruntled but my post isn't here.

I applaud and deeply respect anyone who tries to help a fellow human being out, because I know for every person who may be running a scam, there are 50 more people who truly need that help. If more people just took the first step and gave a little, I think the world would maybe be a better place.

You need to have faith in me Mike.

My sincere apologies Shari,

like you said I didn't see your post and from what I saw, it seemed like you were acknowledging or agreeing with what was said. I totally agree too, are there scammers out there, of course there are, but the real need and numbers of adults and children who go hungry everynight here in US, as well as other countries, is staggering.

**harlee71** · 03-18-11, 08:56 PM

Set him up for a bum fight!

**TobiasFunke** · 03-18-11, 08:58 PM

Tell the lazy retard to get a job

**valaub04** · 03-18-11, 09:06 PM

Hi (ma'am, sir, officer),

You wouldn't happen to have any spare points to share do you?? You see, me and my dog here are trying to make it back to the place I stay during the night and I just happened to pass by this wireless hot spot and thought I'd try to parlay a few points into a new TV. If there is anything you could do to help I surely would appreciate it.

God Bless You.

**GOIRISH** · 03-18-11, 09:16 PM

I live in a more wealthier part of town and we dont see a lot of homeless but at busy intersections there are people holding signs. For some time there was this girl who had an amazing ass holding a sign at one of the intersections. She held a sign that said she needed money to feed her children. One time I almost gave her a 20 just to see if maybe i could get a bj in return but decided against it. Well turns out a guy around here hired her to clean her house because obviously he felt sorry for her and wanted a piece of that ass. well one day the bitch left with a lot of money in valuables. she eventually got caught and the paper said she didnt even have custody of her kids. Can you believe that? i almost got swindled!

**underthe total** · 03-18-11, 09:27 PM

where i live the crystal meth has taken over alot of peoples lives and i see them at gas stations begging for gas, you know they do meth cause there teeth are missing. they want actually get gas they will park next to the pump with the pump in the car and wait til they got enough money and split.

i see them cornering ladies, older people etc.

when i see them i go straight up to them and ask them what they are up to. they will give me there spill, i never let them get passed the first sentence and i will cut them off and tell them to find somewhere else to beg for DOPE. They always run because they are cowards, even the crack heads downtown same way.

my point is this.....if you help a dope head by giving him money you are actually helping him get high.

your better off giving the money to salvation army, they feed them and will not let them inside if they are high.

i just passed 10 years sober, i know what i am talking about

**stealthyburrito** · 03-18-11, 09:52 PM

im done with those handouts, have been for a while now. where i live there is a terrible homeless problem, and gets worse by the day.

too many rotten apples spoiling the ones who truly need. i dont have time nor the desire to sort out who is truly needy and those who are just getting a buck for the next fix.

if someone asks money for a mcd's double cheeseburger, perhaps i will walk with them to the mcd's and buy it for them, so i know that money isn't going to some habit.

but i also don't wanna be a mark, as nobs had become with this guy, and fund a homeless person's daily meals. i try to be generous, but i can only do so much.

**shaggy3000** · 03-18-11, 10:08 PM

you should have offered to pay him for if he helped you do something. something easy that you didnt need help on anyways. watch how fast he would run from having to actually work for his money. you would have never seen him again.

lot of the homeless just want to beg and bitch rather than do any form of work. you could offer them a job and they you find a new place to beg on the other side of town rather than work for a living