Basically you have hit the lottery without these two things.
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It would make things easier around here to hit one for about 2.3 mil.Comment -
You'll hear two very disparate schools of thought in response to a question like this. I'm most likely oversimplifying things when I make such a broad generalization, but I think it comes down to introvert vs. extrovert.
The extroverts will tell you that having people around who care about you and will support you in hard times is one of the best aspects of cultivating a strong family life. Usually strong family life is intertwined with people settling down and having kids in order to perpetuate the cycle. I wish all the best to those people, but they are about as far away from me, philosophically, as one can get.
Introverts, which I would hazard to say include JJ and myself, will tell you that family is one huge hassle. In fact, as much as I love and crave inter-personal drama, family drama is totally anathema to me. Nobody can kick your ass in a verbal argument like a family member, usually because they know all the dirty laundry. And as much as you can expect support in times of strife, you pay for that through the nose when times are good. People expect gifts on special occasions, loans, favors, and on it goes. Life is a zero-sum game, and since I tend to be happiest when I'm left alone, I'll choose to cut loose from the family unit every time.
Sure, life can be described as empty and solitary outside of the family structure, but it's also a great deal more simple. And when bad shit happens, no one else has to know unless I choose to transmit the information. For me, not having kids is a conscious choice, and when I've been with women I take the belt-and-suspenders approach to contraception. And after two failed engagements to women, I don't intend to go down that path again. I may marry a guy someday if the situation is right, but only if he doesn't want kids either.
That's just my perspective on the matter. I'm sure there are people on the forum who take issue with every point I just made, and I respect that. It all comes down to your priorities in life. Realistically, my number one priority is me. I live my life that way, and I don't apologize for it.
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I have to pay child support for another 11 years.
Jesus Christ now I need a drink.Comment -
Lesser the number of variables in life, lesser the constraints and better chances of realization of your objectives.Comment -
Child support is the ruination of the manComment -
bmw, you have a kid?
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Rae Carruth knows how to get out of child support.Comment -
Depends on how much she makesComment -
I wouldn't trade either my wife of 30 years or my 25 year old son and the wonderful memeories those two have added to my life for anything...
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I am so happy I do not have kids, I never wanted kids and I will never have them.... I am not married but I do have a serious GF... She has no desire for kids either.... A kid would ruin my lifeהמוסד
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I have two kids from a previous marriage they hate me and never talk to me. I agree with JJ child support sucks, I paid it for 10 years!
I got re married now an am happyComment -
yepYou'll hear two very disparate schools of thought in response to a question like this. I'm most likely oversimplifying things when I make such a broad generalization, but I think it comes down to introvert vs. extrovert.
The extroverts will tell you that having people around who care about you and will support you in hard times is one of the best aspects of cultivating a strong family life. Usually strong family life is intertwined with people settling down and having kids in order to perpetuate the cycle. I wish all the best to those people, but they are about as far away from me, philosophically, as one can get.
Introverts, which I would hazard to say include JJ and myself, will tell you that family is one huge hassle. In fact, as much as I love and crave inter-personal drama, family drama is totally anathema to me. Nobody can kick your ass in a verbal argument like a family member, usually because they know all the dirty laundry. And as much as you can expect support in times of strife, you pay for that through the nose when times are good. People expect gifts on special occasions, loans, favors, and on it goes. Life is a zero-sum game, and since I tend to be happiest when I'm left alone, I'll choose to cut loose from the family unit every time.
Sure, life can be described as empty and solitary outside of the family structure, but it's also a great deal more simple. And when bad shit happens, no one else has to know unless I choose to transmit the information. For me, not having kids is a conscious choice, and when I've been with women I take the belt-and-suspenders approach to contraception. And after two failed engagements to women, I don't intend to go down that path again. I may marry a guy someday if the situation is right, but only if he doesn't want kids either.
That's just my perspective on the matter. I'm sure there are people on the forum who take issue with every point I just made, and I respect that. It all comes down to your priorities in life. Realistically, my number one priority is me. I live my life that way, and I don't apologize for it.
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