my friend of 30 years of sexual harrasing her. how do i go about finding out the truth outa her. i havent talked to her yet shes at church my wife just told me. she is 13 now told my wife it happend when she was 8. now a friend of hers just put an uncle in jail for this how do i get the truth outa her? this is so bad in many ways you just dont accuse someone of this. am at a total loss. please help me with what i should say.