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    Went on a date tonight with a Persian...recovering gambling addict oh

    As the title says. We had met for lunch briefly before but went out tonight and it was a good time. We got to discussing our travels and she explained to me how she had a rough childhood from 14-20. I asked why and she said she was addicted to gambling during these years. She’s past it all now and hasn’t gambled in 3-4 years. I did not bring up the fact I gamble regularly but needless to say, going to let that connection die.

    Not about to ruin a woman who admitted she had a problem to something I enjoy myself. Have you ever gone out with someone who gambles a lot or used to?

    Meant to post in saloon sorry!

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    You don't have to quit on this if you actually like her.

    Same as dating an alcoholic in recovery or a vegan.... are you going to eschew a beer at dinner or not order the steak at The Palm?

    These are her ghosts, her issues. You can support her abstinence from gambling by not enabling her, but so long as you're in control of yourself (that's a fair question given the addiction level of everything from sex to drugs on this forum) it can still be a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnesotaFats View Post
    You don't have to quit on this if you actually like her.

    Same as dating an alcoholic in recovery or a vegan.... are you going to eschew a beer at dinner or not order the steak at The Palm?

    These are her ghosts, her issues. You can support her abstinence from gambling by not enabling her, but so long as you're in control of yourself (that's a fair question given the addiction level of everything from sex to drugs on this forum) it can still be a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship.
    seems like a slippery slope

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    My ex girlfriend was a bartender at the tropicana in AC and would piss away her tip money every night at blackjack after work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnesotaFats View Post
    You don't have to quit on this if you actually like her.

    Same as dating an alcoholic in recovery or a vegan.... are you going to eschew a beer at dinner or not order the steak at The Palm?

    These are her ghosts, her issues. You can support her abstinence from gambling by not enabling her, but so long as you're in control of yourself (that's a fair question given the addiction level of everything from sex to drugs on this forum) it can still be a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship.
    And if he actually likes her and may care about her one day, he should stay away.

    I give it up to Eagles, thats a hard thing to do but it’s absolutely the right thing to do

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    Quote Originally Posted by eaglesfan371 View Post
    She’s past it all now and hasn’t gambled in 3-4 years.
    People that have overcome addictions know an exact date.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GUMMO77 View Post
    People that have overcome addictions know an exact date.
    Yep, I quit smoking on 1/24/11.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GUMMO77 View Post
    People that have overcome addictions know an exact date.
    Very true. I quite drinking:
    Jan 1, 2005
    Jan 1, 2009
    Jan 1, 2012
    Jan 1, 2016
    Tomorrow night.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VeggieDog View Post
    Very true. I quite paused drinking:
    Jan 1, 2005
    Jan 1, 2009
    Jan 1, 2012
    Jan 1, 2016
    Tomorrow night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnesotaFats View Post
    You don't have to quit on this if you actually like her.

    Same as dating an alcoholic in recovery or a vegan.... are you going to eschew a beer at dinner or not order the steak at The Palm?

    These are her ghosts, her issues. You can support her abstinence from gambling by not enabling her, but so long as you're in control of yourself (that's a fair question given the addiction level of everything from sex to drugs on this forum) it can still be a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship.
    Yeah with booze I'm going to have to disagree. I love it and could never abstain for some broad

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    Quote Originally Posted by VeggieDog View Post
    Very true. I quite drinking:
    Jan 1, 2005
    Jan 1, 2009
    Jan 1, 2012
    Jan 1, 2016
    Tomorrow night.
    Nobody likes a straight edger

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    Quote Originally Posted by GUMMO77 View Post
    People that have overcome addictions know an exact date.
    Usually. But I know people that don’t like to stress themselves over counting days. It has messed with them in the past.

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    googled Persian, it is a Canadian doughnut that has cinnamon in it

    Net time we want to read that you ate her out.

    Thank you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thechaoz View Post
    Nobody likes a straight edger
    It's not that nobody likes them, it's just that 99.99% of them are SELF-RIGHTEOUS and OPINIONATED about it. The best teetotalers are the ones who simply say that drinking isn't for THEM, and leave it at that.

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    I thought he was talking about those fluffy pussycats.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MadTiger View Post
    It's not that nobody likes them, it's just that 99.99% of them are SELF-RIGHTEOUS and OPINIONATED about it. The best teetotalers are the ones who simply say that drinking isn't for THEM, and leave it at that.
    Yep.

    I couldn’t care less if people drink around me when I’m trying to quit. If I can’t handle that then I’m already doomed anyway. Not gonna sit around and try to change the world telling everyone how bad it is. Especially to people who don’t have an issue with it.

    Pretty crazy to be addicted to gambling at that age. I was gambling then but nothing crazy yet. I’d probably just not tell her and see what happens. But good on you for being cool with walking away. Could probably tell her that so she doesn’t think you just ghosted her cause you don’t like her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pablo222 View Post
    I thought he was talking about those fluffy pussycats.
    if that were the case, would he really need some asshole like me directing him to eat the cat?

    where I live,
    if it looks, smells, tastes, sounds or feels like pussy
    it must be eaten

    and yes, cats are on the list
    think Chinese food

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    Quote Originally Posted by Matt17 View Post
    My ex girlfriend was a bartender at the tropicana in AC and would piss away her tip money every night at blackjack after work.
    Eh, to be fair, most bartenders (me included) piss away a lot of tip money drinking so at least she had a shot of doubling up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beavis13 View Post
    Eh, to be fair, most bartenders (me included) piss away a lot of tip money drinking so at least she had a shot of doubling up.
    I’d go with both. So if I lose at least I’m drunk. If I win then it’s a celebratory drunk. Can’t lose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cuse0323 View Post
    I’d go with both. So if I lose at least I’m drunk. If I win then it’s a celebratory drunk. Can’t lose.
    Can't argue with that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PittsburghPlayer View Post
    googled Persian, it is a Canadian doughnut that has cinnamon in it

    Net time we want to read that you ate her out.

    Thank you.

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    I’ll tell her my thoughts and I agree it is a slippery slope I don’t want to tempt her on.

    Her story is when she visited the Middle East with her family occasionally, underground gambling was heavy. She got roped in and it was exciting for her. It continued in college online and in person when able.

    Sucks cause she got a bike herself, always wanted a girl to go riding with when I get my new bike. Not to mention very attractive. Maybe we’ll stay in touch.

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