1. 04-14-13 10:20 PM #1
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    Strange reaction from future in laws/need feedback

    Me and my girl got engaged Xmas last year...she has 2 siblings in Florida and we are in New York. Her only Brother found out we were engaged and stated he would call her to congratulate etc...fast forward 3 plus months and not a word from him..nada. Her Sister hasn't acknowledged me as well since the event. Now, it gets worse. This future spouse, has sent the nephews xmas presents and has never gotten acknowledgment from kids or her brother..their dad. Now, one of the nephews is grad H.S. and she had booked a flight down there to be there and spend a couople days down there. I am pretty annoyed over the above and feel it's best I not attend...already the red flags go off..something is seriously wrong here. Supposedly, the relationship between my girl and her siblings is good. Pls discuss. Is it really possible that her brother could be so wrapped up in his life to acknowledge our announcement and the xmas gifts. All siblings and Fiance are in there 40's to early 50's. This already has me wan ting to flee the jurisdiction..pls discuss
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  2. 04-14-13 10:23 PM #2
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    If you can already feel it, then your first instincts are probably what you should be going by.
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  3. 04-14-13 10:24 PM #3
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    I think its safe to say they dont like you

    GL with whatever you decide tho
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  4. 04-14-13 10:54 PM #4
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    They could be reacting based on her past relationships and may be quick to judge anything and everything they hear about you. This will only work out if your fiance recognizes their actions are not okay and she sets boundaries. If you have to be the catalyst and she does not take initiative, then you are SOL. I guess they do live in Florida and so that helps. Any chance that your fiance is the youngest sibling? Also, I would not take it personal and they sound a little screwy. Best to just be the bigger man and don't try too hard to get them to like you. If you think you'd lose your cool in Florida, stay away. If you can go and be yourself and let everything roll off your shoulders, then you should go. GL. I know your pain all too well. Funny thing is my wife's family is in Florida too.
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  5. 04-14-13 11:10 PM #5
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    grow a sac guey

    youre in your 40's (assumng your the same age as your fiance) and at that age youre marrying her not her family geuey
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  6. 04-14-13 11:23 PM #6
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    Quote Originally Posted by InTheDrink View Post
    grow a sac guey

    youre in your 40's (assumng your the same age as your fiance) and at that age youre marrying her not her family geuey
    LB dont forget to take your meds tommorow
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  7. 04-14-13 11:32 PM #7
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smoke View Post
    LB dont forget to take your meds tommorow
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  8. 04-15-13 12:12 AM #8
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    Is this a mixed race relationship by any chance?
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  9. 04-15-13 12:57 AM #9
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    We are both White and she is the youngest sibling....to her brother..don't say your going to call if your not..also whats with getting gifts for xmas for his kids..and no call from sis in law/brother or kids..nice family huh
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  10. 04-15-13 01:27 AM #10
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    What did you do to offend them?
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  11. 04-15-13 01:32 AM #11
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    Wow, hard to believe the gifts not being acknowledged... that's just plain rude. People comment that "in this day" my daughter still sends thank you cards for Xmas & birthday gifts but seems to me that is what should be expected not some kind of surprise. Isn't that just common decency when someone makes the effort & expense to give a gift?
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  12. 04-15-13 01:59 AM #12
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    Are you two better off financially than them and there could be resentment?
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  13. 04-15-13 02:49 AM #13
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    Nope, maybe just a dysfunctional family..looks like I'nm not going to florida...strnage happenings
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  14. 04-15-13 03:54 AM #14
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    Go to Florida stay at her sisters house .....nail your girl hard at night make sure she is noisey.
    Get up for breakfast before she wakes up walk in and say to the sister man I slept good last night
    how was your night.
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  15. 04-15-13 05:03 AM #15
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smoke View Post
    I think its safe to say they dont like you

    GL with whatever you decide tho

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    You're not marrying your inlaws. And they're in turd country down south, you'll only get to see them once in a while. And why are you taking it personal and scrutinizing over some small person who can't acknowledge af gift. Why is some dysfunctional bunch of rejects approval important for you. Stop being you and grow pair of these http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Testicle
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  17. 04-15-13 07:17 AM #17
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    Last post is idiotic..go watch the WWF
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  18. 04-15-13 08:19 AM #18
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    This would annoy me too. First, and you didn't mention this did you talk to your girl about this? She is the person that should find out what the hell is going on. I would first think that this is a strange family you are about to enter and then I would think well just maybe the girl I am going to marry might be a bit strange too. I think it is up to her to explain to you wtf is going on. If she can't do that to your satisfaction I would suggest at least to slow down and learn via time what you are getting involved in.
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  19. 04-15-13 09:36 AM #19
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    Better that way, less likely you have to spend time with them
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  20. 04-15-13 09:39 AM #20
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    If I read this correctly, you said it seems best if you didn't go. I think this is just an excuse by you not to go.
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  21. 04-15-13 09:40 AM #21
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    Also it is rude not to get a congrats or thank you, but that is how some people are. You have to adjust fella.
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  22. 04-15-13 10:28 AM #22
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    Quote Originally Posted by KingJD31 View Post
    Better that way, less likely you have to spend time with them
    Simple and elegant
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  23. 04-15-13 11:27 AM #23
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    Quote Originally Posted by nyplayer33 View Post
    We are both White and she is the youngest sibling....to her brother..don't say your going to call if your not..also whats with getting gifts for xmas for his kids..and no call from sis in law/brother or kids..nice family huh
    NY, I am a genius. Now, have her parents passed away? I will get to the bottom of this with less than 5 questions.
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  24. 04-15-13 11:41 AM #24
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    Well I think you should ask yourself one question. Are you a douche? and if yes there's your problem but if no then penetrate em they're all a bunch of assholes.
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  25. 04-15-13 12:19 PM #25
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    You obviously have to challenge her brother to some type of contest to gain his respect. I suggest a game of Mystery Date.

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  26. 04-15-13 12:54 PM #26
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    nyp....seriously, ur marrying her and not them...the RED FLAGS r re them tho...NOT ur lady.
    Marry her and let them live their lives either in acceptance of the two of you, or not.....
    may your marriage be blessed by GOD.
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  27. 04-15-13 01:46 PM #27
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    she knows why they are doing this afraid to tell you for some reason.
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    Quote Originally Posted by manny24 View Post
    she knows why they are doing this afraid to tell you for some reason.
    maybe her brother likes her or some weird shit like that
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smoke View Post
    maybe her brother likes her or some weird shit like that
    is the brothers' name cheers jon? cause that would explain a lot
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    Quote Originally Posted by nyplayer33 View Post
    Last post is idiotic..go watch the WWF
    Some people can't handle the truth

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    Quote Originally Posted by manny24 View Post
    is the brothers' name cheers jon? cause that would explain a lot
    Could be. Jon cheers looks like a sister fukker
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