Originally Posted by
GoPanthers88
Thanks for the honest and thought out post. I posted this last night right after losing my final "chips" and was bitter about how things happened. I definitely recognize this is on me and was more curious around what obligations, if any, a book like BOL was under to honor requests like mine.
That said, it has been a long few months with multiple occurrences like this where I run a balance way up only to give it all back.
The rock bottom part is tough because I feel like I've hit it multiple times, but then the bottom continues to change and shift based on my professional life. Example: losing $500 in college when I had nothing was rock bottom vs. now when I am doing very well professionally losing $10k and being unable to pay bills for a couple weeks is the new rock bottom.
I guess I just worry because as I continue to improve my salary into the high $150k+ range, that rock bottom number continues to get higher and higher. It just worries me I'll continue to go down the path I am on now where losing $10k isn't as big of a deal but I'll go until I lose $20k and then be back in the same spot.
In any case, I've tried to GA meetings a couple times but the steps program in a church with religious undertones wasn't a good fit for me. I respect what you're saying about no one can fix this but me, but then you constantly hear that you can't fix it alone either so it's tough.
Maybe not the spot for this but if my comments resonate with anyone and they have any suggestions on things that helped them, I'm all ears.