[FlipsideRM]

Long story short...

I live in a somewhat upscale apartment near my university in a 2 bedroom. I recently had a great roommate move out and a new one move in 2 weeks ago. The 2 weeks went great, he was clean, didnt bother me and was considerate about noise in the living room(he pretty much stayed out of it)

Well...I go on vacation for a week and come back and my roommate is sitting in his pajamas in the living room, with his xbox connected to the TV, blunt wrappers everywhere, pizza boxes everywhere, the whole apartment is foggy from his weed smoke, and the whole common area is trashed. I didn't say anything, figuring he saw I just got back in town and would clean up. Well, that wasn't the case. It turns into 11pm and hes still playing xbox and invites a friend over for more smoke. Granted, I work early in the morning and get up at 6am usually to leave the apartment. Him and his friend continued to smoke, laugh, play loud music, etc until 4am. I finally walked out of my room, mean mugged the fuk out of them and slammed the front door and just left for work early. I get back today at 1:30PM and the roommates friend is passed out on the couch and the roommate is cooking "breakfast".

Am I overreacting by being pissed or should I do something about this? I don't smoke, and don't appreciate the fact im being hot boxed in my own room as the living room is right next to my door. I can also hear the TV and music right next to my door as the walls are pretty thin. What would you guys do, would you wait it out to see if it happens again or what? I'm 26 and id say the roommate is about 22-23 so hes a bit younger.

He's apparently established dominance over the apartment while I was gone, and I think I should get it back somehow. Maybe sit in just my boxers in the living room and play my own xbox all day and night so he can't come in there? Ideas? FML, I can't live like this for the next 10 months

[Booya711]

the only thing that disturbs me is that a 22-23 dude is wearing fukking pajamas flipper...

oh...it is better to pay extra and not deal with idiots and live by yourself...

[seaborneq]

Fight or flight

[jjgold]

Jerk off go to college you're wasting your money unless you want to get a $10 in our job after you graduate

Only time colleges useful if you're extremely smart and focused in on a big-time profession

[FlipsideRM]

Jerk off go to college you're wasting your money unless you want to get a $10 in our job after you graduate

Only time colleges useful if you're extremely smart and focused in on a big-time profession

Bud you must not have read my ALL IN Green bay packers thread. I'm already guaranteed a big figure job as ive been interning at the same place for awhile. Only reason I went back to college at my age to get my degree.

[FlipsideRM]

the only thing that disturbs me is that a 22-23 dude is wearing fukking pajamas flipper...

oh...it is better to pay extra and not deal with idiots and live by yourself...

Tell me about it, I actually have a pic I took last night of the little fuker i'll post in a second lol

[USCPHILLYGUY]

Flipper you probably should have layed some ground rules down prior to this happening. With that being said, just doesn't seem like a good environment for you. I'd show him the door.

[FlipsideRM]

Hes chilling hard as fuk.

[Ballerholic]

bang him to assert dominance

[FlipsideRM]

Flipper you probably should have layed some ground rules down prior to this happening. With that being said, just doesn't seem like a good environment for you. I'd show him the door.

Can't we are under individual leases in our apartments. You think I should talk to him now/lay some rules or wait to see if it happens again? Obviously we live way seperate lives, I probably did the same shit when I was his age but at sometime you gotta grow up

[JohnnyD4916]

Burn down the place while he's sleeping

[USCPHILLYGUY]

Can't we are under individual leases in our apartments. You think I should talk to him now/lay some rules or wait to see if it happens again? Obviously we live way seperate lives, I probably did the same shit when I was his age but at sometime you gotta grow up

I should probably go without saying that keeping common areas clean / noise free when others are home is a no brainier. The fact he misses this is somewhat disturbing and could be a sign of poor upbringing. I'd have a talk with him and set some boundaries. You don't want to hate being in your own home.

[FlipsideRM]

I should probably go without saying that keeping common areas clean / noise free when others are home is a no brainier. The fact he misses this is somewhat disturbing and could be a sign of poor upbringing. I'd have a talk with him and set some boundaries. You don't want to hate being in your own home.

my point exactly. However, this didn't start until i left for a week for vacation. Something in my head doesn't wanna say anything yet, hoping maybe it was just a one time thing since I just came back from vacation last night. Plus I usually just tend to get pissed and start shaking and wanting to fight when i confront people, especially people that disrespect me lol.

[jjgold]

I'm am not going to deal with college kids all day in this thread

[eidolon]

I should probably go without saying that keeping common areas clean / noise free when others are home is a no brainier. The fact he misses this is somewhat disturbing and could be a sign of poor upbringing. I'd have a talk with him and set some boundaries. You don't want to hate being in your own home.

This.

Confronting people that you know sucks, but I GUARANTEE, this will continue to happen non-stop. He has become comfortable in the apartment, but his comfort is causing you to be uncomfortable. Tell him you would like to keep the common areas clean and picked up, and make an agreement on it (don't start talking to him while he is playing video games though, do it next time he is done, or is making food). Ask him what he thinks so the psychology of the situation will make him feel like he had some kinda of input even though you are pretty much laying down the law through conversation. Words to you use: disgusting, girls hate this shit, used to have a bad ant and rat problem...

[FlipsideRM]

This.

Confronting people that you know sucks, but I GUARANTEE, this will continue to happen non-stop. He has become comfortable in the apartment, but his comfort is causing you to be uncomfortable. Tell him you would like to keep the common areas clean and picked up, and make an agreement on it. Ask him what he thinks so the psychology of the situation will make him feel like he had some kinda of input even though you are pretty much laying down the law through conversation. Words to you use: disgusting, girls hate this shit, used to have a bad ant and rat problem...

haha funny you said that because one of my good buddies actually texted me saying "make sure to throw in some references that girls hate that shit, and he'll never get a girlfriend if he keeps living like this".

Good advice, however..do you think I should wait to see if it happens again or go ahead and confront him today?

[charcoalbbq]

watch gay porn in the common area.....if they are homo phoebes, they will move out fast.

[FlipsideRM]

Stepped out for a bit and just got back to my apartment. My roommate isn't even here but his friend is still o. The couch by himself watching tv. Lol

[eidolon]

haha funny you said that because one of my good buddies actually texted me saying "make sure to throw in some references that girls hate that shit, and he'll never get a girlfriend if he keeps living like this".

Good advice, however..do you think I should wait to see if it happens again or go ahead and confront him today?

Definitely confront him right away, don't wait. If it isn't clean yet say "Hey think you could pick up some of the stuff in this area, it's a bit of a mess", if he already cleaned up the mess say "Did you have a party or something while I was gone?" laugh, "this place was a mess". Both will at least start a conversation about keeping the place clean

[recon1]

Just gotta talk to him, pretty much that simple.

[FlipsideRM]

Just talked to roommates friend he actually confronted me askinfg "hey man are you okay with me being here for a bit, I'm just waiting on a ride?" I explained to him he's fine to come hangout whenever but keep the smoke in his friends room and to kee the noise to a minimum at night cuz I work early.


Wel wel see if that works

[FlipsideRM]

Drama drama drama don't you guys miss college?

[Ralphie Halves]

Direct approach the only approach here. Guy is clueless and inconsiderate. Bad combo. Soft approach aint gonna work.

[GUMMO77]

Eidolon gets it.

[loveofsports]

maybe you the one who needs to grow up

[loveofsports]

All i hear is you crying with no action

[BrickJames]

Im going to tell you what someone told me once. "Privacy is expensive."

[compaqDikk]

Drop out of school and move to makeshift sbr castle at silver sevens in vegas. Easy solution son

[FlipsideRM]

All i hear is you crying with no action

just trying to get advice on what you would do. Never lived with a random roommate that was inconsiderate. I need to grow up? Maybe. But I know better than to leave a penetrating mess and make noise when I just moved into another apartment with another roommate

[FlipsideRM]

Im going to tell you what someone told me once. "Privacy is expensive."

Agreed. That's why I paid the "extra" to live in a 2 bedroom, separates a lot of the riff raff as it is one of the more expensive units at my complex. Guess this new guy is on mommy and daddy's dime smoking his lunch money

[grease lightnin]

Close your eyes, plug your nose and ears, blow real hard, and your nuts might pop out of your body cavity.

[FlipsideRM]

Close your eyes, plug your nose and ears, blow real hard, and your nuts might pop out of your body cavity.

Hey grease I tried, didn't work. What would you do?

[grease lightnin]

Fake it till you make it.

[FlipsideRM]

Definitely confront him right away, don't wait. If it isn't clean yet say "Hey think you could pick up some of the stuff in this area, it's a bit of a mess", if he already cleaned up the mess say "Did you have a party or something while I was gone?" laugh, "this place was a mess". Both will at least start a conversation about keeping the place clean

Him and his friend left, I just cleaned everything up myself and set the pizza boxes next to his door and left out some handy wipes on the counter so he gets a clue whenever he gets home. Thinking about stealing the cable box from the living room as well lol

[FlipsideRM]

Roommie chillin in his ninja turtle PJs smoking and playing xbox ^